I took mine off way before I started to date -- but I tend to get very long-lasting tans -- so I took mine off around the first anniversary, at the beginning of summer.... I figured that when I tan, it lasts till October, and by October, I'd probably be ready to date. Didn't want anyone to think I was cheating (or "on travel," as they say!).
Turns out my timing was nearly perfect....
I have what I call a "widow ring". It is a black diamond surrounded by tiny white ones. Only I know what it means. It looks ambiguous. It could be an engagement ring (and indeed, some people have bought the same ring as one). It could be a wedding set. Or it could be just a ring. I wear it all the time like I did my wedding ring.
Yes I have been wearing my widow ring for years. It's basically a eternity ring of black diamonds (Ice.com) I stopped wearing my wedding rings at 6 months. I lost 50 pounds in four months so they fell off. It seemed stupid to resize them.
I took my band off probably about 6 months after. I don't really remember the date which is odd for me. Anyway, I think I'll always feel like I'm still married to him but I didn't feel right wearing the ring anymore. It's been about 2 years since I stopped wearing it and just now I looked at my ring finger and realized that the indentation is gone now... I love that some of you have had your rings reconfigured and would really enjoy seeing photos.
I tried removing both our rings when I started dating, but I started dating too soon for me. I broke up with the guy and started wearing both rings together again. I liked the soft clink of his ring against mine. He had bigger hands and I used mine to keep his in place. But about a year and a half ago, I put his away in the silver ring box that our ring bearer held while walking down the aisle during the wedding ceremony.
Almost three and a half years later, I still wear mine as a reminder of how much I was loved and how proud I was to be married to Gary. I’m not ready to start dating. If I ever decide to take mine off, I’ll put it in the silver box along with his.
No removal here.
About two weeks ago I smashed my finger very hard with a rock using all my strength. It's a long story, but my finger, my ring finger , was all manner of purple and blue, and the nail is black and blue. I kept it covered because it was horrifying. Finally got past all of that , the finger has recovered, but the nail on my ring finger is still black. I was going out today, and I thought, I'll just paint just that one pink. Well, don't you know , it just would not hide it. So, I stopped at CVS and picked up some black nail polish and painted just the ring finger nail black. Wow, it really reflected my sense of mourning as a widow. I think a man or a woman could do this. I didn't want to stop wearing my rings, at least not yet, but I think I will go forward with the one black nail as a sign of morning .