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When did you remove your wedding rings?
I took mine off way before I started to date -- but I tend to get very long-lasting tans -- so I took mine off around the first anniversary, at the beginning of summer.... I figured that when I tan, it lasts till October, and by October, I'd probably be ready to date. Didn't want anyone to think I was cheating (or "on travel," as they say!).
Turns out my timing was nearly perfect....
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Permalink Reply by Trifectagirl on -
I've not yet - I'm at the 6 week mark. I love, love, love my rings, and we'd only been married for 375 days before Ian died. He chose my engagement ring and we had the wedder and eternity designed to match (using the gold from my Dad's ring from his marriage to my Mum). When the time is right, I plan down to have them resized to fit my middle finger. I wear my great-grandmother's engagement ring on my right and I'm not re-sizing the antique!!
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Permalink Reply by bj628(Bonnie) on -
My rings have been getting loose because I lost so much weight. One day I noticed they were not on my hand and I almost panicked.. I went out to the kitchen and "Thank God" they were in the towel I had used to dry my hands and I had laid it on the counter. I usually hang them back on the oven door handle. I was extremely careful after that. Then the end of June I had to have carpal tunnel surgery & I had to remove all jewelry. I put them in my jewelry box. I do take them out and put them on, I tried them on my right hand and it just felt awkard.. Today is 13 Months. I went into town and had 2 tattoo's done, I had them tattoo a small heart with a little swirl on each side on my ring finger..The other is a Memorial one on my left inner forearm. I no longer work, so am not concerned if they show.
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Permalink Reply by Skylark on -
I know of a lot of widows and widowers who have had tattoo rings done.
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Permalink Reply by Daisy11 on -
I bought myself a ruby ring (my husbands birthstone) after he passed away. I put it in a drawer until I was ready to take off my wedding set. I wore my wedding set for two and a half years before I thought I was ready. I cried the day I took it off and replaced it with his birthstone. After a few months I put my wedding ring back on and I continue to wear it paired with his birthstone. I've always worn my own birthstone on my right hand. After his death, I wore my husband's wedding ring on a chain around my neck. The day I put my wedding ring back on, I took his ring and put it on my right ring finger. It is several sizes too big, but it stays in place with my birthstone ring in front of it. I think I took the rings off to begin with in case I ever wanted to date again, but I have since realized that I have no desire to date.
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Permalink Reply by Skylark on
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I had Philip's ring and mine redone into a thick band for my right hand with the diamonds set into it. I also had the jeweler place two tourmalines from another ring that he had given me between three of the diamonds.
I had the ring blessed on what would have been our 29th anniversary. To be honest, I switch the ring back and forth between my right and my left hand, sometimes without even thinking, sometimes I wear it on my left intentionally because I feel the need to "be" married. And sometimes my right fingers just feel too fat!
I do really like what you did. What a wonderful way to honor your marriage.
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Permalink Reply by Juls on -
While I still FEEL married, I've changed my Facebook status (a few weeks ago) to Widowed. It's been 15 months now. I can't imagine why I would ever take off my wedding rings. He had my engagement ring/wedding ring- a diamond and two sapphires custom made - that was the one he gave me a few weeks before we married and we used that one in the ceremony. I wore it as my wedding band for the first 12 years. On our 13th anniversary he had a band with small diamonds and sapphires made to go with the original ring. I didn't have them welded together but I wear them as a set and their beautiful. I've gotten so many compliments on them - they are by far the most beautiful jewelry I own. So aside from all the incredible MEANING and memories they hold, I don't imagine taking them off. I wear Frank's wedding band on my middle finger on my left hand - with all the weight I've gained the past year, it fits just fine. I slipped it off his finger a couple of weeks before he died because he'd gotten so thin it kept falling off and I was afraid he was going to lose it. For the first 6-8 months I also wore a necklace I'd given him with the Winnie the Pooh quote engraved: "If you live to be 100, I hope I live to be 100 minus 1 day so that I never have to live without you". He never took it off except when he went in for MRIs or CTs. I took it off his neck a few hours after he died and I wore it obsessively. It held his energy and love. The past few months, I've worn other necklaces that he gave me or that I bought for myself. Progress? Baby steps. I guess.
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Permalink Reply by feelinglonely on -
It's two years for me and I know in my heart I am not ready to take them off, but when and if I ever feel I am, I may have something done, but not sure yet.
When I went to my support group last night and was observing the hands of the other members and some still had them on and some did not.
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Permalink Reply by bj628(Bonnie) on
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I took my rings off several months ago.. I have lost so much weight they were slipping off. One day I noticed they were missing. I was panicked..went out to the kitchen... and they were in the kitchen towel. I tried wearing them on my right hand, but did not feel right. I could have them sized, but hoping to put a little weight back on.
I had a ring tattooed on my wedding ring finger.. it is a red heart and a curly q on each side.. I noticed when I looked at it side ways the curly q's look like an S. which is the first letter of our last name.
I had taken John's wedding ring off .. for MRI's and radiation. before he passed, I asked him what he wanted me to do with his Wedding Ring, he said he wanted his daughter ( who had come from AZ for a week in May, and then back and staying with us at Hospice House to have it. She wears it on a chain on her neck. I had to have his ring custom as it was a size 13
My grandson has a ring I bought for John many yrs ago. it is black onyx with 2 jade diagonal stripes in one corner. It fits him perfectly.
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Permalink Reply by Maya, GEM's kyttn on -
I now wear my own wedding ring and my engagement ring on my right hand. I've lost enough weight that they were getting uncomfortably loose on my left hand. I can't stand not having anything on my left ring finger, though, so I wear Greg's ring there, though it is a bit loose, and keep it on with a simple hematite band. I figure as I need to, I can replace the hematite band without stress, and it serves well as a mourning band. If it ever becomes an issue to wear Greg's ring on my left hand, in the unlikely event that I let someone else into my life, I'll move it to my right hand and keep just the hematite ring on my left. I expect it will always remain there, and if anyone else comes into my life, they will just have to accept that part of me still is, and always will be, married to Greg.
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