I took mine off way before I started to date -- but I tend to get very long-lasting tans -- so I took mine off around the first anniversary, at the beginning of summer.... I figured that when I tan, it lasts till October, and by October, I'd probably be ready to date. Didn't want anyone to think I was cheating (or "on travel," as they say!).
Turns out my timing was nearly perfect....
Oh katpilot, I am so very happy to hear this news. Congratulations to you and your new love.
Thanks for your story, katpilot. I'm open to another good man in my life and Ron knew that- he was 15 years older so it was likely that I'd outlive him. I'm not sure I could ever find someone I was crazy enough about to give up the independence I enjoy now, but I never say never. It will have to be in the normal course of my life, though- I'm not impressed enough with what I see on dating sites to pursue anyone.
When my husband was in the hospital is hands had become swollen and they had to remove his ring. On previous occasions this had happened before. We had plain gold matching bands and I always put his under mine for safe keeping. It has been over 4 years and still wear both and have no plans to remove them, they give me great comfort.
I took mine off about a year or so ago. They don't stay off. I miss wearing them and the design and meaning etc. I see wedding bands on others and I realize what I don't have but do have. If that makes sense. Donna went into the hospital 7/10/11 and died in hospice 08/07/2011. I have put the rings on as my way of remembering though I never forget.
"On day arm and arm
We left home and and closed the door
You never returned"
I wore mine for several months after my wife died then I sent both of them to a jeweler in Upstate NY and had them melted down and had one ring made, a Claddagh.
I've been widowed for 3 months. I removed my wedding ring for a day last week, jut to see how I felt. It felt so strange and detached from having been married for 35 years. i also wasn't ready to give single- or married- men the wrong impression.
I've got it back on and feel protected again. I will probably take it off after one year, but who knows.
I believe I answered this already - that I removed my ring shortly after Ed died.
Recently my sister and I were going through my mother's jewelry (she died in March) and we came across a ring she had made! Silver and unmistakedly an S shape! We looked at each other, I popped it on my finger where it fit perfectly, and now I wear that ring. I have missed wearing a ring so this is just so perfect.
I have answered this earlier, but here is an update: I have been widowed 4 1/2 years now. My own wedding ring became uncomfortably tight, but I did not feel comfortable with no ring. Solution: I have been wearing my husband's wedding ring on my middle finger for 4 years. It feels like a good way to acknowledge our connection and my widowed status, even if I'm the only one who knows. I find that even with it not on my ring finger, it seems to project the "I'm unavailable" vibe I was looking for. I doubt I'll ever take it off. This is such an individual decision, and I think anyone reading this should feel comfortable doing whatever feels right!
I totally agree, Hope. It's such an individual decision for any of us going through this and whatever any of us decide to do....should feel comfortable for us and we should know we are doing the right thing for us. My husband died close to three months ago and I wear his ring behind my wedding ring on my ring finger. This feels right for me. When and if that changes in the future....we'll see.
So sorry about your loss. My hubby passed Oct. 15th '13 after 4 1/2 years of suffering with kidney cancer. He is buried with his ring. He couldn't wear it due to working in a mill. So now wearing it for eternity. I don't wear mine anymore due to being engaged.
I don't know what I will do with my diamonds.