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When did you remove your wedding rings?
I took mine off way before I started to date -- but I tend to get very long-lasting tans -- so I took mine off around the first anniversary, at the beginning of summer.... I figured that when I tan, it lasts till October, and by October, I'd probably be ready to date. Didn't want anyone to think I was cheating (or "on travel," as they say!).
Turns out my timing was nearly perfect....
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Permalink Reply by Shannon on -
I took to wearing my rings on a necklace about 4 months after the accident and then finally put them away about 6 months because I was afraid to lose them. I still put them on occasionally, especially around anniversaries.
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Permalink Reply by Davina on -
I took mine off around about that time period ( up to six months) too. As I was gougn to be moving in another six months and, I was afraid to lose it. So, I put it away for safe keeping. I realised months afterwards how this may look but I thought, I love and adore my husband as he does me. Whether I wear the ring or not, I am through with what anyone may or may not think. The love is between us, in our heart and soul and everlasting.
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I took mine off around about that time period ( up to six months) too. As I was gougn to be moving in another six months and, I was afraid to lose it. So, I put it away for safe keeping. I realised months afterwards how this may look but I thought, I love and adore my husband as he does me. Whether I wear the ring or not, I am through with what anyone may or may not think. The love is between us, in our heart and soul and everlasting.
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Permalink Reply by M'LADY on -
Shannon,
I did just that put them on a necklace and my mother told me while we were in the hospital one day that it looked silly it was like what teenagers do when they are going steady.
I took them off the necklace and they are on my pinkie on my left hand.
Ed died 10-1-2012
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Permalink Reply by Kitequeen on -
I can't remember when it was about 6 - 7 months after his death. But I do remember what I had done with his wedding band. I had mine and his and the engagment ring melted together to form beautiful ring. (will have to up load photo later) I picked it up on my birthday, 1 year and 4 months after his death.
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Permalink Reply by LLM2 on -
Hi Kim,
I too, had my wedding ring & Duane's wedding rings soldered together w/a 3 diamond 'eternity' ring between them. Because he is with me yesterday, today and tomorrow. I think it's lovely. I would really like to see a photo of yours....
p.s. Are you the Kim from Michelle Neff's blog???? :) If so, I LOVE your work.
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Permalink Reply by Alive & Mortal on -
lovely.
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Permalink Reply by Meema on -
I love that idea! I'm not ready to take my ring off yet, but when I am, I'm going to do that.
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Permalink Reply by M'LADY on
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Kitequeen:
I want to know what to do with my own rings as well.....I am too new in the grieving process to deal with what a lot of you have been going through dating etc etc. But I like that idea of making something special out of your rings. I have a three tier wedding ring my engagement ring, wedding band, last to connect all together the one year anniversary band. I had them all soldered together. I did have to have them cut off twice because out of two of my pregnancies my hands were so swollen.
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Permalink Reply by Vertical on -
I haven't really. It has been over a year now but I take them on and off. I have a toddler and my engagement ring has some sharp sides to it so it is better left off anyway. I wear my rings topped with a very gorgeous black diamond band (widow ring). I did take them all off for a few months and then put them on recently...I think that the mark of 1 year brought them out in full force again.
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Permalink Reply by bps1314 on -
About a month before my husband died we had to cut my rings off do to my hand swelling. We were planning on getting a new set and renewing our vows. We never made it to get new ones before his accident. If we would have I don't know if I would have taken them off or not.
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