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So this might be a morbid topic, but death is what unites us...
Has anyone given any thought to where they want to be buried?
A year ago if someone asked me I'd have said, right there above my wife, you see it, that spot where the grass hasn't even grown in yet.
But as time went on and I thought about there being another wife, it became more of a conundrum with so very many variables, and to this day is a question to which I have no definitive answer, but which comes to mind anytime the idea of future happiness does.
My darling husband is buried in a cemetery with a headstone that has my name on it too.
It's kind of comforting.
I was going to be cremated, as that was my lifelong plan.
Then husband died and was eligible to be buried in Arlington; wife is eligible to be buried in same plot, so why not? My info will go on the back of the headstone; so just need to leave instructions for executor.
Goes to show how plans can change. Any other cemetery and I probably wouldn't have been interested.
AWF, When my loved ones have died i only had one person that was buried with her husband, an Aunt, but she never had any intention of getting remarried after her husband died, so it wasn't an issue. They also had no children.
I think it is a personal preference in burial or cremation, but all my other family members that died were cremated, and i think for me cremation is so much easier than burial, because the other thing to consider is if maybe one day in a new life you may move a long way away from where your loved one is buried, and it won't be as easy to access visiting a cemetery where they are buried, so for practical purposes cremation for me is a better option.
Here in Australia where i am, if i decide i want to do something with their ashes i have a few different options also.
I can get their ashes interred in a Memorial wall at the local Memorial garden, or have my children scatter them in a favorite place of my choosing.
As i mentioned it is all a personal preference.
LOL about the taxidermy part, i'm sure it definitely would scare off potential boyfriends.
Very difficult to consider. I know I never thought I would have these thoughts. I hope as the days move forward you can find some peace with such questions.