A community of peers created by the Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation
We've had many terrific close friendships result from connections on this site... and it can be SO much easier to relate to folks who "get it."
What can you tell us about your widowed friends?
Did you find a "twin" (spookily similar situation in whatever way matters to YOU)?
Or have you connected with someone you wouldn't have thought interesting "before?"
We want to hear about your friendships and how they matter to you! As well as... what do you do to be a good friend? Is that stuff different since your loss?
I found my widow twin after about 3 years... another blogger, also artsy, and her son has my LH's blog name and her LH has my LH's real name. Widowed within a few months, also from cancer, and we have similar senses of humor.
At first I loved how similar our stories were... and we connected well... but she lives far away and we both had busy lives, and she stopped blogging shortly after we met in person one summer.
Actually I still love Gretchen, but we haven't spoken in a long while. It was an intense acquaintanceship I guess.
You can meet her if you like.... http://widowwise.blogspot.com/
This is in addition, though, to my many real friends, online and offline, who are mostly widowed and nearly all of them from my "after loss" life. it's much easier to cope with folks who don't have a problem with that one big thing in my life, my dead husband, who is still part of my life, even as he settles into his much smaller place in my new, remarried life.
on another site when i was just 5 months out i met someone that i could relate with who was just 3 months out.. from then on they kind of looked at me as to what to come. we talked a lot about what we were feeling at the moment, what we were feeling a few months ago and comparing notes a lot. Was probably the most healing friendship I had while going through the thick of this.
I found another friend, a widower, that was also a spousal caregiver that has got to be a brother from another mother! We just have such similar life situations with our spouses our aging parent our disbaled sibling as well as the same interest in hiking. We have managed to hike together three times and usually email, text each other weekly.We are able to speak freely about our spouses with one another as well as other subjects. We both aren't really interested in a relationship but really value our friendship. It's like a true gift.