Widow friends, widow twins, etc: tell us about some of your "new" friends

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VOLUNTEERPermalink Reply by Supa Dupa Fresh on October 4, 2011 at 10:27pm

I found my widow twin after about 3 years... another blogger, also artsy, and her son has my LH's blog name and her LH has my LH's real name. Widowed within a few months, also from cancer, and we have similar senses of humor.

At first I loved how similar our stories were... and we connected well... but she lives far away and we both had busy lives, and she stopped blogging shortly after we met in person one summer.

Actually I still love Gretchen, but we haven't spoken in a long while. It was an intense acquaintanceship I guess.

You can meet her if you like.... http://widowwise.blogspot.com/

This is in addition, though, to my many real friends, online and offline, who are mostly widowed and nearly all of them from my "after loss" life. it's much easier to cope with folks who don't have a problem with that one big thing in my life, my dead husband, who is still part of my life, even as he settles into his much smaller place in my new, remarried life.

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Permalink Reply by cec on October 5, 2011 at 12:28am

i have met so many  wonderful people on my journey...One of them is Gina...we have known each other for about 18 months..Her husband passed away about a week before mine...We use to stay up very late at night chatting...She helped me through my daughters birthday party and i talked to her while her grandson was being born...She use to have these dreams...she told me about one ..it was about my hubby holding a baby ..funny thing was i showed her a picture..it was one of the last photos my hubby took holding our grandson...we think our hubby's put us together ..To help each other get through all this....Thank you all for the help everyone has given me to keep going on ..and to be able to find some peace and happiness out of all this tragedy.....may we find some peace and happiness...love cec

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Permalink Reply by Robinak on October 5, 2011 at 1:19am

Wow, well too many wonderful pe0ple to say just one or two!  I'm very thank-ful for everyone I've met and have enjoyed their friendship online.  It would be nice to meet in person, hopefully soon.

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Permalink Reply by Cat on January 8, 2012 at 3:58pm

on another site when i was just 5 months out i met someone that i could relate with who was just 3 months out.. from then on they kind of looked at me as to what to come. we talked a lot about what we were feeling at the moment, what we were feeling a few months ago and comparing notes a lot. Was probably the most healing friendship I had while going through the thick of this. 

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Permalink Reply by Sherbear on May 16, 2012 at 6:12pm

I found another friend, a widower, that was also a spousal caregiver that has got to be a brother from another mother! We just have such similar life situations with our spouses our aging parent our disbaled sibling as well as the same interest in hiking. We have managed to hike together three times and usually email, text each other weekly.We are able to speak freely about our spouses with one another as well as other subjects. We both aren't really interested in a relationship but really value our friendship. It's like a true gift.

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