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Don was diagnosed with Stage IV pancreatic cancer in July of 2006. He was given 3-6 months to live after a Whipple surgery was aborted due to spread of the cancer . He had lost over 30 lbs and had constant diarrhea which was misdiagnosed over and over for four months. We were in the process of moving south and still did that and he survived for 18 months in all before having a final heart attack and dying in his own bed. He was 71 but it has been shocking to see how many younger people have died from this cancer. I wondered if a pulmonary embolism was what finally took Don too since I have them myself but mine arrived after he died and I would not have recognized the symptoms then.
It's such a hideous cancer and so much more research needed. A horrible way to lose our husbands. My best friend is gone and life has lost the joy but I'm still hanging on here.
My husband was diagnosed last March 12th with Pancreatic Cancer. He passed away at home April 15th. The disease spread so fast I still can't believe it. He was exhusted and had back and abdominal pain. Once diagnosed it had already spread to the Liver. At one point the Doc just said he should go home there wasn't anything they could do. He only had 1 round of Chemo but his liver numbers would not stabalize. Such a horrible disease. I have 2 kids and they miss him everyday.
My husband was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer on November 15, 2010 and passed on December 18, 2010.
Danny had been diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes 10 years earlier and took incredible care of himself after the diabetes diag. He tested his blood sugar numerous times a day, watched his diet and was walking anywhere from 3- 6 miles 5 days a week.On Thursday November 11th he called his PCP from work to say he had a pain in his stomach and felt bloated. His PCP told him to stop by after work to be examined and have some blood work. He was admitted to the hospital, had some tests and recieved his diagnosis of Stage 4 pancreatic cancer on Monday morning. What a SHOCK!
We were able to get an appt for December 6th at the Dana Farber Cancer Institue in Boston. We were told at this world renowned hospital and a leader in cancer research that they could provider him with nothing but palliative care....neither surgery or chemo were options because the cancer had already spread to the intestinal wall. He was gone 12 days following that appt. He was 53 years young and the picture of health.
He had no family history of pancreatic cancer.
ah Danny's girl, this sounds so much like my story. Except for the type 2 diabetes my husband Bill was considered to be in perfect health. Ate well, exercised, good weight. I hear this illness can be there for 10 years before it shows up and then it's too late.
Pancreatic cancer did run in Brian's family. Several family members in recent history succumbed to it, all older than Brian - most in their 60s and older. Even his mother thought she had it, it was pancreatitis.
Brian was young to have it, statistically. Your husband, even more unusual.
I worry over Brian's children. We, as a family, do what we can for PANCAN. The kids even ran in a 5K to raise money for PANCAN.
Your loss is recent, but in time you might find it deeply meaningful to help and do what you can to forward pancreatic cancer research and solutions. Doing something (whatever you chose) may help you feel like you are a part of making a difference. I know that it means a lot to me to think that even if his children had it that they might have a different outcome.
We are here and care. Is it not a grace in the shit storm that we have each other?