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i hit a french fry truck with my car.
here in my city, we have great big yellow and blue french fry trucks. really, really hard to miss.
my eldest daughter actaully asked me if I "really" ever got my driver's license.
Just this morning, the day before the 4th sadiversary, I couldn't figure out how to unlock the locks to get out of my apartment! Of course, I do this every day at least twice without any thought, but this morning the locks almost got the best of me.
Forgot my own initials & signature....standing there at the bank counter going 'oh,crap,how do I sign my name again?",hoping nobody will notice....
first thing I did coming home from the hospital after letting him go was to lock my keys in,forgetting he can't let me in anymore...and then he kind of did because i remembered in such a clear flash how he'd jimmy it with his hospital card,it's like he told me how....
For the first 2 months I was in a total fog, and although I was back at work, I remember very little of those days. One day as I was leaving my office I was standing in front of the elevator pushing my car remote to call the elevator - luckily a good friend came up a pushed the button. Unfortunately it has happened twice since then. The fog is still swirling around after 5 months.
This isn't something I've done really, more like thought. I go for walks by my work before work and at lunch. It's adjacent to a big park. One morning I saw these upside down metal V shaped things and I thought, what is that? There's a lot of public art in the area, but I didn't see any signage. I thought maybe it was something for kids to play on, but it doesn't look very fun. Today at lunch I saw that there were several bikes locked to it. Oh, it's a bike rack! And then I felt kinda stupid.
So many things. I think I spent the first year in a total fog. Right after Jim died, people kept bringing food. One friend brought a pan of scrumptious cinnamon rolls. I took one out, put it on a plate, and then put the entire metal pan, covered with aluminum foil in the microwave. Yes, we had a fire. I have also got more little dents and dings in my car in the past year than in the entire time I have been driving. No accidents, but lots of getting too close to the curb, hitting all the bumps in the road, etc. Sometimes you just have to laugh. I'm sure, that at my job, everybody thinks I'm not too bright. Hoping some of the brain cells repair themselves eventually.