Thursday was my 15th anniversary and the past few years I have done one random act of kindness for every year I would have been married. i did 15 this year.
It went as follows:
1) had the server pick someone and I paid their bill at the local pupuseria in Highland Park for lunch
2) had the server pick someone and I paid their bill at Bobs Big Boy in Burbank for dinner
3) sent a check to Soaring Spirits for a campership
4-7) left Blaze Pizza gift cards on random cars in Highland Park
8-11) left Starbucks gift cards on random cars in Burbank
12-15) left Target gift cards on random cars in Burbank
Many times i talk with widowed people or read posts here and they are not sure what they should do on their anniversary. I've really come to like doing this and it actually makes me look forward to my anniversary each year as a day to celebrate.
What a nice idea. It is a positive way to celebrate a day that will always remain special to us. Giving helps to release serotonin (a brain chemical) that gives us a sense of well-being. Thanks for passing that along!
That is a lovely idea Lupe'sHusband - how you've incorporated gratitude into the loss. I am so sorry for your loss. While I hate that I have to be here at all, what I love is ideas from others, like you, that help us move through a little easier, this whole next season of our lives. Thanks for sharing this.
Thanks, I'm already looking forward to next year.
I'm so happy you did this, Steve. I started doing it four years ago and I do look forward to it each year. I include a little card that tells the receiver that I'm doing this to honor what would have been our (whatever number) wedding anniversary.
I do the same Dianne. I write a message on the little envelope that I am doing this in honor of my anniversary and that my wife passed four years ago.
lovely idea...I suggest you put some money aside , however for the future-you never know--next month will be/would have been our 50th...sigh He used to bring me my favorite yellow roses for about thirty some years until I told him to save for our 50th for the special flowers...we laughed. Up to 44yrs there were flowers but more often they came as surprises of love on non red letter days...
Now 5 1/2 yrs later I struggle just to keep my home ( on a fixed income) pay my taxes and utilities and eat. Unexpected, sudden death is not easy. I could not implement your wonderful idea in my life but I can pray next month for 50 people 50 special prayers and I believe I will. Thank you for sharing Lupe's husband. God Bless you.( On our anniversary I light a candle and sing to him and the angels who watch over me now that he is gone.)