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It was Father’s Day, the first fatherless one for my son. He’s 8 years old. I hurt for him and myself. Even though I just wanted to stay in bed, I reminded myself a journey starts with a step. So I forced the first step and the next because I still had a child to nurture and protect.  But I can’t protect him from it all. I dread the next Father’s Day. 

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I also grieved for my kids; it is an additional part of grief experienced by a widowed parent w/a young child(ren). It is normal & common ...

This, too, will become easier to cope with. At 12 years out, we, as a family, celebrate Dad w/happiness & gratitude. I did miss Bob-O often as the kids grew & learned so much. Without fail, my now young adults will smile & say "Dad is w/me" & I agree wholeheartedly ...

This is true, you cannot protect him from it all, however, single parenting is still providing love, care, protection & guidance. Children grieve differently than adults, nothing to do w/resilience, but everything to do maturation. A far more developed understanding of death & loss will progress as he becomes an adult ... 

You might want to consider GriefShare for both you & son ...

It will provide him w/an outlet to talk w/other kids who have lost their parent ...

Hugs & Peace ...

I will look into GriefShare. Thank you 

BTW, when your son returns to school, check if there is a mentoring program ...

Boys need a mentor, more so, as they get older. I have an old childhood friend guiding him on man stuff that I know nothing of ...

I've learned basic car mechanics, plumbing, various home repairs to teach my son. Thankfully, Bob-O always wanted me to be w/him while making repairs - handing him tools or going to buy parts, etc ...

I often wonder if he knew he was teaching his lovely assistant valuable skills ... ;-)  

Hi JustLynn,

Am doing GriefShare program, feel free to ask any questions, just in 4th week. 

my specific group is mostly parents who have lost children. Only 2 including self who have lost spouse.

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