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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Discussion Forum

Coping with yearning for dead husband

Started by Noelene T. Last reply by Neelie May 8. 15 Replies

 I am new to this group and I lost my husband of 26 years on Valentine’s Day this year. He was 85 and I am not 79. I had been married before but he had not. We had a wonderful marriage and he was the…Continue

First post - Aloha

Started by bellgamin. Last reply by Bonnie Jan 6. 8 Replies

My  first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Gwamma Jan 5. 8 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by sis Jan 3. 11 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

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Comment by Bobbysgirl 7 hours ago

Sue, Age does make a difference in medical care. We are more likely to have complications than younger people. I currently have a torn rotator cuff and an ACL tear and I have declined surgery for these conditions. I was in the medical field for over 30 years. My primary Dr. Is young and I have informed her that I will no longer have invasive procedures. We all have different opinions and I have chosen mine. I will be 80 in a few days. Peace to all.

Comment by Faolan 10 hours ago

I have a nicer doctor, it seems, he recently informed me, that at 70, I am still a young woman!

Comment by only1sue 12 hours ago

I am 72 now and have just began to be told by medical professionals "at your age" followed by if they want to operate, manage a condition etc. Anyone else find that age is now an obstacle to full care ?

Comment by only1sue on June 9, 2019 at 8:05pm

Don, I thought two years out I needed a new partner, now after six years a cup of coffee and a chat lights up my day. Find a  couple of nice places to stop for a coffee , get to know some of the people who are regulars there and maybe one of the new . acquaintances will become a friend. Works for me.

Comment by laurajay on June 5, 2019 at 7:35pm

Don-  In your  90's  you  might  find  more  luck  just  dating  for fun and enjoyment   with the women  you  meet  rather  than looking for  another  wife  or  companion. Make the most  of each  day  you're given. 

Comment by laurajay on June 4, 2019 at 6:15pm

Changes  locally  surprise  me  the  most....there  is that  mapquest  place  online  where  you  can virtually  drive  along  roads  anywhere and  using just  arrows  visit old places  you  lived  or visited  or  heard  about. I have visited  old  landmark  places  and  everything  has  changed-  the house  and neighborhood  I grew  up in...places  we vacationed  sooooo  different... old businesses gone  lots  of   fast  food  places...buildings gutted.  Nothing  is  constant...older  you  get...more changes  take  place...

Comment by Don on June 4, 2019 at 10:33am

I lived in West Allis , WI but they did not send me to Great Lakes , instead they sent me to Boot Camp at NAS Jax, June , 1944,   In July I had my 18 th Birthday in Boot Camp./. Now I am one of the 450,000 who are dying off at the average rate of 362 per Day.  I recently adopted a 12 year old English Sprinnger Spaniel named Katie.   We walked  this AM in the Clover Creek  Preserve behind my home in Redding, CA.   I'm still hoping to find 0a wife or a companion for Swimming, fishing, kayaking.and cooking.

Comment by Faolan on June 4, 2019 at 7:03am

Mrs L, it's the same in the UK, places where we were stationed have gone, either industrial estates, or housing development, nothing stays the same. 

Comment by Mrs. L. on June 4, 2019 at 6:33am

Frank, Great Lakes Naval Base isn't even there anymore!!  I was back there 2 years ago and I could not believe it.  Condo's, town homes, shopping, No trace that it was ever a Naval Base!

Comment by Barzan on June 4, 2019 at 6:04am

Frank, I know whereabouts you live.  I'm just East of Golden in the foothills.  Colorado is one beautiful state!  We are so fortunate to live here.  Enjoy the sunshine.



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