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Comment by only1sue on April 30, 2015 at 6:44pm

Thanks Cee.  I have been away for a few days visiting old friends and do feel stronger now.  Of course the damage is still there but I will get to it soon. Every little crisis seems to make me miss Ray more.  One day that too will pass I guess.

Comment by Cee on April 23, 2015 at 9:58am

That is a lot of rain to deal with. I'm glad your damage wasn't too bad. That must be had knowing that if he were there he would be out helping people. My husband was the same - always doing for others.

 It is so hard to see our lives the way they are now and it isn't the way it should be.   I send you HUGS and peace in your day.

Comment by only1sue on April 23, 2015 at 5:40am

We had eleven inches in three days, a lot of rain and with the very high winds a lot of damage. So soggy underfoot still and will be for some days.  Most of the local schools are closed until the trees can be cut up and mulched and a lot of small shopping areas are still without power.  Private homes that were damaged are still waiting on insurance quotes and it will be hard to get tradesmen for a while as the areas in Sydney that were damaged will usually get priority.  I am lucky that the damage I got will wait for a while.

My Ray was a carpenter and handyman and if he was alive and well would have been around the neighbourhood doing what he could for others.  Good men like him are hard to find in our society today.  I miss him so much.  

Comment by Callie2 on April 22, 2015 at 10:09pm
I sure hope the weather breaks soon. How many inches of rain total? I had a service to clean gutters after my husband passed but it was a little expensive. I had to have new ones installed and had covers put on them, now I only need to have them checked once or twice a year. How lucky you were to have someone help you with that, I hope it didn't cause too much damage. Wishing you a bright and sunny day tomorrow!
Comment by only1sue on April 22, 2015 at 7:27pm

Day four and still raining, my next door neigbour's father in law, a local Pastor, sat on my roof and cleared out the gutter that resulted in some flooding in my back room where I have my desk and household files.  Minimal damage thank goodness. Because the desk was damaged I am using Mum's old sewing cabinet as a desk.  As a widow you have to be pretty resourceful.  I agree, prepare for emergencies, have a contact system with family and friends so you can ask for help if needed. I try to  remember others are in the same position and are struggling too, I am not alone n this.  

Comment by laurajay on April 22, 2015 at 12:48pm

oh cee.  that thought of being alone in an emergency with no one really to call or help  comes to me frequently  and I have to dismiss it by drawing myself into the present time and stopping to remember-beyond having supplies handy...we just have to take one thing at a time  and remembering that in most cases   "this too shall pass"    I believe we worry more because the burden of everything  on us 24/7 and alone is heavy.  The sun is healing and brings hope. Enjoy it today.  Long, dark winter weather is trying on the soul because it mimics grief and seems to increase it's presence.   lj

Comment by Cee on April 22, 2015 at 7:46am

I was having the same thoughts this week as a storm came through with a tornado watch. It is hard to face all this alone. I hate it. I just thought what do I do if there is a real emergency.  I don't even rally have any one to call to helps me, Family lives too far away.  Well the sun is shinning today so I feel a little better.  HUGS to everyone

Comment by laurajay on April 21, 2015 at 2:24am

Sue   I have been with out power alone twice since my husband died.  scared both times because it was nighttime and old outside.  Please get/keep emergency items near you  just in case   stay in touch   prayers headed your way   Godspeed.   Try to remind yourself...this too shall pass   even if now it is frightening.    lj

Comment by Callie2 on April 21, 2015 at 12:10am
It is scarier when you're alone. We had a hurricane move through here and we're without power for three days-the fourth day it finally came back on. Trees were down all over. It actually took three days to clean up the mess in my yard. Sue I hope you remain safe. You will be in my thoughts!
Comment by MFARM on April 20, 2015 at 9:34pm

only1sue, So sorry you're having such a storm. We had a big one last year. Just finished with the last of the insurance claim work. Do you have hhail where you are? Stay safe. 


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