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Born in the 40s or Earlier


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Started by Judyrose. Last reply by EAZYTZ Jul 10. 9 Replies

Hi I’m new to the group. I lost my husband May 29,2019 after 48 years of marriage. I keep hoping it will get easier but it’s not some days it’s worse. Some of the things I have read on here have…Continue

40 years

Started by Carol E. Last reply by sweetlady May 21. 17 Replies

I'm new to this group. I lost my wonderful husband suddenly Jan. 23 2019. I can't believe it's been a year and it is still so painful. He was my partner and the person I could trust and count on. …Continue

Spreading Ashes in the Ocean from a Cruise Ship

Started by dolly. Last reply by dolly Apr 22. 14 Replies

Has anyone had a ceremony of spreading ashes from a cruise ship? I am thinking about doing that and wonder if there is anything I should be especially careful to consider. I am looking at Carnival…Continue

Married 62 years

Started by phyllis. Last reply by Sleepless In Seattle Jan 8. 37 Replies

I lost my husband Barry who was 87 years old on August 27, 2019.  We were married 62 and a half years. W Although my children try to be understanding, none of them really can fathom how lost I am…Continue

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Comment by Cee on Friday

Faolan.Hope things are going well for you and the pink skin keeps improving. Are you able to be out and about?

Comment by Cee on Friday

Bonnie, HUGS - anniversary's are hard enough with out storms adding to it. It is good  to hear that you and your family are ok. I feel so sorry for what so many people there are going through.  I got a taste of it a couple of months ago when one of the storms brought a lot of heavy rain to our area. The lights went out and my sump pump failed so I had over 8" of water in the basement.

 Stay safe - stay well, thinking about you.

Comment by Bonnie on October 13, 2020 at 10:50am

Thanks, Cee.  I am struggling not to feel overwhelmed with the latest challenges of this storm.  It hit my town pretty hard.  I was luckier than many I know in that my house and my son’s house escaped any serious damage but I  have to deal with another family house I have been trying to sell that had a huge tree fall on it that sheered the front porch completely off.  I may have lost that sale and that is a blow and a big financial hit.     It is being difficult and expensive to get the tree removed, the power back on and the house repaired.    There are people all over town and the area who still do not have power some four days later.  It will be awhile before everything is put back together but I am grateful my family and my friends are all unhurt and in fact there were no fatalities from this which is often not the case.  Still, after six months of COVID isolation and an earlier storm which mercifully hit west of here we are all a bit battered.  But the first storm demolished a city only an hour or so west of us and then this one only weeks later did further damage so we are aware of how much worse it could have been.  I am really grateful to my grandson who came and stayed with me through it all as having to ride it out alone would have been awful.  The storm hit on the day that would have been my wedding anniversary I felt my husband’s absence keenly.  It would have been our 40th anniversary.  

Comment by Cee on October 13, 2020 at 8:01am

Bonnie, Thank you. I spent the day going through pictures of some fun activities we were involved in. Brought back the good memories but in a way made me feel even more lonely because I know there will be no more.

 I hope you are well and were not impacted by this latest challenge to pass through your state.

Comment by Bonnie on October 13, 2020 at 6:59am

Cee, I am sending warmest sympathy to you on this sad day.  I know how hard these anniversaries are even after years.  My husband died six years ago and each one is still a hurdle for me to cross as well.  I hope you can find some comfort in spending time and thought on the times you shared.  I find that it does help me to get past the sadness if I can relive in my memory the many wonderful experiences we had that I would never have had without him.  I will never stop missing him and I know you won’t either.  But I do feel very lucky that we had the years we did. 

Comment by Cee on October 12, 2020 at 1:50pm

Hello everyone, I hope you are staying safe and are well.

I'm ok just trying to get through a sad day. Today is 9 years since my husband passed and I still miss him so much. As i do not live in the area where he is buried i can't even visit the cemetery.I do have a florist near the cemetery that is good about delivering lower priced flower arrangements so i can send them more often. This time she suggested a fall mum plant - the cemetery is now allowing plants in pots. He is buried in the same plot as his sister - they were close in life and it is comforting to know they are still close. His parents and sister have all passed and his niece and nephew have not kept in touch so am feeling very alone on that side . My children and grands never remember but my friends from NYC where we lived do remember me - at least on facebook but that is where it's at now.

Comment by Amterry on October 12, 2020 at 11:40am

Hi all I am Fonda and my husband was Robert we were married for close to 58 years. We were a Navy family and my husband desired to be buried at sea, which is not possible right now but I do hope to do this once this virus is over. He passed August 8th, 20. I think I am the only one going through grief and heartache but some of the stories I have read leaves me heart broken for some are difficult to relate to. As I walk this journey I know my love walks beside me. If I didn't have my faith in the Lord I don't know if I would be here.

Comment by Faolan on September 19, 2020 at 8:27am

Barbee, aww thank you. If I am a hero, it has been thrust upon me. I can't help remembering the patients I shared a bay with, and wondering how they are, I just hope and pray I didn't infect the ones I was with before my diagnosis.  There is no way to find out how they're doing, sadly. 

Comment by barbee on September 19, 2020 at 8:01am

Faolan, It was wonderful to read about your progress!  Sometimes recovery seems so very slow, but remember that every step forward is one step closer to your goal. Personally I've come to believe that "getting back to normal" is greatly overrated and sometimes unattainable. Keep up the positive outlook and head into your future! You are a hero in my eyes.

Comment by laurajay on September 18, 2020 at 3:57pm

Faolan  "Pink   healthy  skin"   what a lovely  three  words  you  posted  and  I  am  happy  to  hear  you have  those  words  to  share.    Continue  to  heal!   Yes,   wise  to  take  nothing   for   granted.  We  all  need  to  remember  how  true  that  is...  I do believe gratitude  expands our  blessings or  at least  gives  us  the   awareness  that  they  are  ever  present.     lj


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