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Born in the 40s or earlier


Born in the 40s or earlier

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Comment by thelmaz 20 hours ago

Maggie, Xanax does wonders.  Personally I prefer Lexapro.  Had a nice rainy day.  Went to see The Giver with a friend.

Comment by Maggie 22 hours ago
Thanks so much!! Hope you're having a good day...sitting on by back deck...beautiful clouds forming...took a Xanax...feeling peaceful and calm
Comment by thelmaz yesterday

Here's the list:

Widows' Personal Stories:

Auchard, Betty:  Dancing in My Nightgown

Caine, Lynn:  Being a Widow

Didion, Joan:  The Year of Magical Thinking

Ericsson, Stephanie:  Companion Through the Darkness

Greene, Phyliss:  It Must Have Been Moonglow  *

Hall, Donald:  Without

Hertzler, Janelle: Seasons of Solace

Logelin, Matt:  Two Kisses for Maddy

Oates, Joyce Carol:  A Widow's Story*

Radzwill, Carolyn:  What Remains

Roiphe, Ann:  Epilogue:*

Trill;in, Cavom"  Abpit A;oce

Zirkelbach, Thelma:  Stumbling Through the Dark&

Zirkelbach, Thelma:  On Our Own:  Widowhood for Smarties*

Menn, Lisa:  The Widow's Handbook:  Poetic Reflections on Grief and Survival*

Advice for Widows:

Blair, Pamela:  I Wasn't Ready to Say Goodbye

Ames, Ed:  A Handbook for Widowers

Bridges, William:  The Way of Transition:

Estlund, Annie:  For Widows Only

Goshen-Gottstein, Esther:  Surviving Widowhood*

Greenberg, Doropthy:  Widow to Widow*

On Grief:

Attig, Thomas, How We Grieve*

Berger, Susan:  The 5 Ways We Grieve*

Hickman, Martha:  Healing After Loss:  Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief

Jozfowski< Joanne:  The Phoenix Phenomenon

This time I did star the ones I like best, including mine, of course.  If you read nothing else, read The Widows; Handbook:  Poetic Reflections on Grief and Susvival.

Take care

Comment by Maggie yesterday
CEE .I am thinking of you today..hard day to be alone...maybe get outside with nature..if you can. My closest friend is gone for 3 weeks and I'm visiting her kitty. Nicer than being home alone by myself. Loneliness is so hard...humans weren't made for it..take care

And Thelmaz ...I got no list unless you mean the message here. Hope everyone is having an OK day considering
Comment by cee yesterday

Kinda down tonight. Tomorrow we should be out celebrating our wedding anniversary but instead I will be sitting here alone. Probably with a bowl of popcorn and maybe a glass of wine. Sure do miss that guy.


Comment by thelmaz yesterday

Maggie, I finally sent you the list of books on widowhood.  Let me know if you  got it.  I should have put asterisks by my favorites:  It Must Have Been Moonglow, Epilogue,  A Widow's Story, Surviving Widowhood and Widow to Widow, and of course my own books:  Stumbling Through the Dark and On Our Own:  Widowhood for Smarties.  And also the new poetry anthology:  The Widow's Handbook:  Poetic Reflections on Grief and Survival (because I have a poem in it).  Take care

Comment by brendab on Saturday

Over thank you. I will keep moving forward as I know that is what he would want me to do.

Comment by cee on Friday

brendab, HUGS to you. and strength to keep moving on.

Maggie, know the feeling. I keep waiting to wake up from this nightmare and find him there with his arms around me. Our wedding annivesary is on the 31 and he should be here with me. I don't like being so alone all the time. Friends and family help a little but don't fill that void.

 Sweetminnie, HUGS to you so many special days grouped together.  I like you attitude of doing one positive thing everyday. I try but some days just getting up and dressed is as positive as I can get (As I sit here in my robe :)  - I just took a shower and drying off a bit before getting dressed to go out to lunch.

 HUGS and positive thoughts to everyone.

Comment by Maggie on Thursday
Believe me, I have tried really hard over the past year and almost two months. Sometimes I still just can't believe it REALLY happened. People think I'm doing well because when I'm with people I actually do feel better...connected to others and it's a security for me that I need. But when alone lately, I just sense the futility of it all...nothing fills the void left in me. It's the lack of joy and a sense of contentment and mental peace that you no longer have. In some ways, I'd welcome a relationship with a good man, but I don't think I have the stamina to work at one again and go through a possibility of either rejection or another death..I am grateful for many things in my life including of course my husband and even now I have done some positive things, but it somehow just isn't doing the trick lately. I honestly don't fell it's a "pity party"..just hard flatlined resignation
Comment by sweetminnie on Thursday

Brendab, I'm sending hugs.  I am so sorry for your loss.   I know exactly what you are talking about.   Some days I think I'm doing so well and then wham!   His birthday was yesterday and our anniversary is the 2nd and 7th month anniversary is the 3rd.   These are rough days but I am determined to make it through.   I like to do one positive thing everyday also.   Take care everyone!


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