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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Started by Judyrose. Last reply by EAZYTZ Jul 10. 9 Replies

Hi I’m new to the group. I lost my husband May 29,2019 after 48 years of marriage. I keep hoping it will get easier but it’s not some days it’s worse. Some of the things I have read on here have…Continue

40 years

Started by Carol E. Last reply by sweetlady May 21. 17 Replies

I'm new to this group. I lost my wonderful husband suddenly Jan. 23 2019. I can't believe it's been a year and it is still so painful. He was my partner and the person I could trust and count on. …Continue

Spreading Ashes in the Ocean from a Cruise Ship

Started by dolly. Last reply by dolly Apr 22. 14 Replies

Has anyone had a ceremony of spreading ashes from a cruise ship? I am thinking about doing that and wonder if there is anything I should be especially careful to consider. I am looking at Carnival…Continue

Married 62 years

Started by phyllis. Last reply by Sleepless In Seattle Jan 8. 37 Replies

I lost my husband Barry who was 87 years old on August 27, 2019.  We were married 62 and a half years. W Although my children try to be understanding, none of them really can fathom how lost I am…Continue

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Comment by Faolan on August 3, 2020 at 2:30am

I think we are all young mentally and at heart, so it is an unpleasant surprise when our bodies let us down. My daughter lives too far for me to contribute, but she came to my parrots rescue when I was admitted to hospital, Sweetie had a little holiday with her Cockateil. We talk several times a day, and text each other. 

Comment by laurajay on August 3, 2020 at 1:49am

Sue.  I  read  a lot about old  people  conditions  and  after  shingles I  added  supplements  especially  designed  for  immune  system  strengthening.  I  don't  know  the  effectiveness  but  I do  know  shingles  and  other  illnesses  seem  to  wait around  for our  defenses  to  be  low  so  they  can return and cause  us more  pain  and trouble.  Cancer  is  a  vicious  thing  as  are  so  many  things  that  invade  the  body---I  just  wonder  how  much  we  can  help  the  situation.  See  what  your  medical  tells  you  and  research    all  the  possibilities.   Covid  has  had  me  craving  childhood  foods  my  mother  cooked...and  I  fight  my  sweet tooth  every  day.  So  it  goes.   Yes.  I  am  blessed  my  family  can  find  an  hour  to  do  a  food  pick  up  but  missing  the  love  and  hugs  of  the  grandkids  gets  to  me.    Keep  good  thoughts  Sue!     lj

Comment by only1sue on August 2, 2020 at 10:13pm

laurajay, nice that you are still able to cook for your family, mine are too far away and the way our Post office works would be stale on arrival if I sent them. Just had some not so good news about my immune system, will find out more when. I see the specialist mid September. I would have sworn I was fit and well and bullet proof but that is just an Old lady's perception I guess.

Comment by laurajay on August 2, 2020 at 5:54pm

Comforting  to  read the  posts  that offer  persistence  in survival  and  healing.  Most  of  my  contacts  are  with  people  younger  in  age  and  most  of  those  are  not  in  the  high  risk  age group  for  covid19.  It's  hard  not  to  think  in  the  high  alert  mode  but it  helps  to  research and  learn  new  things  including  ways  to  build  a  stronger  immune  system  as  we  age.  Had  my  husband  not  died  but  was  here  going  through  this  shut in  time  he  really  would have  struggled  with being  stuck  at  home 24/7  though  we probably  would  have  a  huge  thriving  garden as  he'd  be out  in the  yard during  daylight.  Every day  I am so  grateful  for  all  the adventure  marriage  brought  into  my life  and it saddens  me  to  see  the  children  cooped  up with  alternate  schooling  and  social  distancing  as  well  as  the  grandchildren.  Not  just  mine  but  worldwide.  I do  try  not  to  dwell on it. I  laugh  at  the  fact  I still  enjoy  cooking /baking  so  much.  Oft  times  I  make  something  and  arrange  a " masked" pick  up  for  my  daughter  and her  family.  I know  they  enjoy it-gives  me pleasure  since  I  can't  have  them  in  for  dinner. I  think  about the  regulars  here  in  this  group  and  pray  for  your  protection  and  healthy  longevity.  Get  well.  Be  well.  Stay well.     hugs        lj 

Comment by Faolan on August 2, 2020 at 8:13am

Barbee, I have been through Berkshire many times and it is beautiful, Windsor is in Berks too. My cousin joined ancestry too. It's amazing what you learn. Another cousin supplied photos to go with some of the faces, my gt uncle who served in the Royal Irish Rifles during WW1, in his uniform, he took his family to live in Canada in 1922, and has descendants in Canada, the US and Australia. I discovered the maiden names of my gt grandmothers, and we learned how my cousins father was named after the two brothers my grandmother lost in WW1, they were both in a highland regiment. Anyway back to Covid, it took 3 ladies on the covid ward where I was, they slipped away one after the other. Maybe they were coaxed into signing a DNR, whereas I refused. It cannot last forever, one day its strength will decline, and hopefully a vaccine will be available soon.

Comment by barbee on August 2, 2020 at 7:47am

Faolan, what you are going through is horrendous. I know two people who have died from COVID, both after several months in the hospital. It is an ugly virus. You are being brave every day and such a hard worker at getting well. I wish you the best and hope each day gets a little easier for you.

Unfortunately, I know very little about England; but recently, doing a genealogy search on my father's side, I have discovered some of our family's heritage. Back in the 1100-1200's ancestors lived in Shrivenham, Berkshire and at Foxley, Bracknell Forest. Since I'm going nowhere during this long lock down, it is giving me a project to research. Bet you know where these places are and maybe you've even been there. Another example of the global village we live in!

Comment by Faolan on August 2, 2020 at 5:19am

Only1Sue. I still have a long way to go apparently, the district nurse said it starts swiftly and takes ages to clear up. But other than my sore feet, I am slowly getting things done. Being off balance when I hobble means my back is affected sometimes. But, I am determined not to let it beat me!.

Comment by only1sue on August 1, 2020 at 9:16pm

Faolan, what you have been through sounds really scary, I am glad a solution was found. Hope your healing goes well and you are able to get out and about again. Just time out in the garden is such a treat when you are confined. I hope the worst is over for you now .

Comment by Faolan on August 1, 2020 at 2:50am

Laurajay, yes, the blocked arteries were behind my knees and prevented blood from getting to my feet, consequently my feet started to die. The Angioplasty involved a stent and balloon being inserted into my left leg, the balloon is inflated to open the stent up and push the plaque to one side, and then the balloon is removed. The symptoms are very sudden, one minute your feet are fine, the next they are covered in agonising blisters which bleed, and you can't put your feet to the ground. The district nurse came yesterday, she couldn't debride any of the remaining necrotic skin, But it is lifting around the edges. She applies Inadine strips, these are gauze strips soaked with iodine, they soften up the necrosis. I was fortunate as well as my daughter, I have a lovely friend next door who pops in, she puts my kitchen waste out for me, posts letters for me, and offers to shop. I buy Everything online at the moment, as I want to be as independent as possible.  I would be more annoyed if it wasn't lockdown! at least I know I am not the only one stuck indoors. 

Comment by laurajay on July 31, 2020 at 6:18pm

Faolan.   we  have  the   shingles vaccine  available  here  in  U.S.  at  age  50.  But  it's optional.  Is yours  mandatory?  My  husband  used  to  get  the  pneumonia  vaccine  and  at  times  the  flu  vaccine.  I  don't do  well  with  inoculations so  after  one  horrid  set  of after  effects  I  do  not  do  shots.   I  do  think  as  we  age  things  like shingles  is  worth  trying  the  vaccine  .  Not  100% effective  but  helps  shorten time  and lessens  symptoms if you do  get sick with them.  I  work  very  hard  on  prevention  whenever  I  distancing  when  others  are ill  not  just covid.    Being  alone  when  sick  is  the  worst  because  you  still  have  to  do  things  while  trying  to  heal.  I  did  not  realize  it was  gangrene  on  your  feet. By all  means  follow  medical  advice  to  get  well.   Tomorrow  is  August.   Summer  here  flying  by  hot  and  dry.   More  later.    lj


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