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Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove Oct 21. 0 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

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Comment by Fran on Sunday

That happened to me too.  Had CD's in the car the I had burned and of course, the first one I played had a special song from Perry Como "And I Love you so" which was what he felt in his heart.  It's only 16 months for me, but married for 41 years.  I also was putting away my birthday cards (November) and found one he gave me for my 60th birthday with his own artistry of all the houses we lived in and the last house was a picture of a Nursing Home with a "questions" mark.  I cried for about an hour.  Reading your post that your 5 years out with 54 years of marriage.  How could we ever forgot or wipe those years away - we can't.  I miss the hugs and laying next to him too  I hope they know.. 

Comment by MFARM on Sunday

Just returned from delivering a college girl  to the airport 2 hours away.  Found some cd's  my husband and i used to love.  Haven't  listened to them since he died 5 years ago. Cried all the way home. No matter how much we cry, scream, or beg;  we can't  get them back for a hug or to lay by for only 5 minutes. What a bummer. Guess I just have to be thankful I had him for almost 54 years.

Comment by Faolan on Sunday

I woke up to heavy snow this morning, the first in years. I too, am glad the surgery went well. Looking forward to the Winter Solstice, which heralds lighter mornings and evenings. It's an emotional time for all of us here, but I'm sure our late loved ones would want us to enjoy it as best we can. Be Blessed

Comment by barbee on Sunday

Hello to everyone!  We safely made it from Seattle to San Diego in the motor home. We were concerned about snow and ice and then saw none. We did not expect hurricane winds and fires all around. That has been scary, to say the least. My cat, Oreo, that I got the end of July is traveling with us. She's not really happy yet, but has found several places to hide and sleep. sometimes hiding her face in the crook of my arm.

Blessings for us all as the holidays approach with the good and bad emotions that surface during these times.

Elaine -- very glad to hear your surgery was a success!

Comment by elaine on Saturday

LJ, what a wonderful way to look at my diet.  I feel so much better now, you made me smile!

Comment by laurajay on December 9, 2017 at 11:00am

Elaine.  Good to hear you are home and healing  !   Holidays are a great time to be on a restricted diet.  When everyone  emerges  in the new year  chubby  and  out of breath  feeling exhausted and lethargic  you will be healed  and fit as a fiddle.  Good for you.  Waves  of grief  are  a holiday nightmare  every year  but  IT TOO  PASSES  I remind myself.   So will  winter...  We  may not be able  to go back  but  we can be grateful  for glimpses  of  joy and beauty  if we keeping  looking with opened  eyes  and  readied  hearts.   holiday hugs  lj

Comment by elaine on December 9, 2017 at 8:57am

Hello LJ, I had my surgery and everything went very well.  I got home yesterday.  On a restricted soft food diet for a while, but that I can live with.  Thank you for your prayers and I will be thinking of you over the Christmas holiday.

Comment by laurajay on December 7, 2017 at 6:35pm

Elaine.  Did you have your surgery  on the 5th?  Update?  Keeping you in my prayers.  I have said before  nowadays  it's  MUCH more  a matter  of  aging  with  some dignity and learning  to live  with  slowing   increasing  limitations   that concerns me.  It's very hard  to  know  limits  to physical ability now--knowing when to push through  pain  and when to rest or postpone  what I cannot do myself.  And for me,  money issues  are always  there...because  money is so tight now.   Nevertheless,  I do have  grands   that love me  freely  so I am blessed when they  visit....I get  wretched  waves  of grief  even after  5 yrs  for my strong and loving  husband-and I miss  his presence  every day...and  especially every night-  he was   solace  and sanctuary for me.  Sigh.     I know  you all understand  that sneaky  aging  thing.   Be kind  to yourselves  with the approaching much as you can     lj

Comment by Cee on December 7, 2017 at 1:50pm

My thoughts and prayers go out to those in pain and facing surgery.

I do understand as my joint pain seems to be getting worse and Drs, haven't been much help. I hate not being able to do all the things I could. - You are right - aging isn't for sissies.

Comment by Cee on December 7, 2017 at 1:45pm

Only 1 Sue   , I so agree.  I have a place to live but don't really feel it is "home".  I will be alone again this year. I have a friend here that invites me to have Christmas Day dinner with her family - it is nice but not the same as having my own family.


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