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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Latest Activity: 7 hours ago

Discussion Forum


Started by Judyrose. Last reply by Hope 10 hours ago. 1 Reply

Hi I’m new to the group. I lost my husband May 29,2019 after 48 years of marriage. I keep hoping it will get easier but it’s not some days it’s worse. Some of the things I have read on here have…Continue


Started by Judyrose. Last reply by Don Sep 1. 3 Replies

Hi I’m new to the group. I lost my husband May 29,2019 after 48 years of marriage. I keep hoping it will get easier but it’s not some days it’s worse. Some of the things I have read on here have…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by norm Jul 16. 12 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Coping with yearning for dead husband

Started by Noelene T. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Jul 11. 18 Replies

 I am new to this group and I lost my husband of 26 years on Valentine’s Day this year. He was 85 and I am not 79. I had been married before but he had not. We had a wonderful marriage and he was the…Continue

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Comment by Frank 7 hours ago

Participating in a Grief Group, along with joining outside groups..Quilters, Cards, Sports and such will get you out of the house and actively participating with others.  In a sense, it takes our minds off of our "blahs" and into the world around us.  For many of us, when we open the door and walk into our homes, the cloud over us returns, and then we need to find something in the home to rouse us out of the mud.  Pets help.  I've two "Attack House Cats" and they have really been a godsend.  If you opt for a dog, I would name it "Five Miles."  That way, when asked, you can always tell folks that you "Walk 5 miles twice a day." (grin).


Comment by Frank 8 hours ago

Hi Hope,

There were problems with the chat room that we, the users did not see.  They decided to take it down and create a whole new one with a different software (?) and company(?).  We do not know when the Chat Room, as we know it, will return.  They are rebuilding it.


Comment by Bobbysgirl 9 hours ago

Hope, I am glad you are going to activities. In my case I went to the Y, where I met people who told me about other activities. I have not gone into the chat room Hopefully someone else can answer your questions about the chat room. Peace to all.

Comment by Hope 10 hours ago

Bobbysgirl...thanks for your thoughts. I too go to exercise class and am taking a course at college, am in a community choir. Its just that none of it fill my soul. I give it my best shot every day. I am sorry for your sadness today on what would have been your 59th anniversary. While you had so many years its never enough. I understand

Can you tell me if there is still a chat room and how to find it?

Comment by Bobbysgirl 10 hours ago

Hope it is a lonely road. I am 80, live alone, in good health, belong to 3 social groups and I have good relationships with my small family, but at times I feel lonely. This morning I woke up feeling depressed. Today would have been our 59th wedding anniversary. I feel fortunate that we had a good long marriage but it still hurts. I was in no mood to go to an exercise class but I went. It was good to be around other people. I encourage you to join activities that you enjoy. I have found most people our age are interested in making new friends. Almost everyone has gone through the pain of losing people we love. Check out activities (painting, cooking, playing cards and your local Y I know I will never have the happiness I had with Bob. I wish you well.Peace to all

Comment by Hope 10 hours ago

I should have said in my earlier note that its been four years for me and I am still struggling

Comment by Hope 10 hours ago

Travco, thanks for your comment. I was in a grief group for quite a while. I am glad it is helping you.

Comment by Hope 11 hours ago

Can someone tell me how to find the chat room?

Comment by Travco 11 hours ago

Please try and find a local Grief group.  I have a much better week when I go to group.  I know my new friends know what I'm going thru and are there to help each other.  I hate missing any meeting.  My husband died May 1, 2019 after 59 years of marriage.  I am now looking for the ME in WE. 

Comment by Hope 12 hours ago

Hi friends, Its been a long time since I came to this site. Its been four years since I lost Ken. It's been a hell of a ride and I am still trying to adjust to living alone. I'm 72 now and while I get out for activities and see friends and my only daughter it is still a lonely road. I've been struggling with depression and doctor has changed my meds a few times. I am seeing a therapist. I never give up hope that I will find a reasonable amount of contentment that still alludes me. Oh yes, I have some good times but in some ways it I feel like I am just going through the motions. For me, growing older without the love of my life presents its own challenges that are different from younger widows and widowers. I hope to connect here with people who are in my age bracket. How are you doing and what are you doing to find happiness? I have little family and grandson is grown up.


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