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Born in the 40s or Earlier


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Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by Widow2015 Apr 7. 6 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by Don 15 hours ago

Perhaps studying Dorothy Parker's  Quotes will refresh your minds.   she has some LU-LUs

Comment by Cee 18 hours ago

Barbie, I hope they can find what is wrong - and fix it. It must be scary to have trouble things that you once enjoyed. Great that you have family around that you enjoy and can do things with,  I am here on my own and it gets so lonely at times.  I have "activity" friends but no one really close to confide in or to help to go to medical appointments etc.

  I also enjoy reading and usually have two books going at the same time.  I also volunteer at a genealogy library and go to a senior center that has had some nice activities. - and interesting people.

 Keep going and doing - 80 is only a number. enjoy the lattee - for me it is tea, and plan your next activity.

    HUGS to all

Comment by Cee 18 hours ago

Bonnie, glad you are relaxing and enjoying your Louisiana rains.  Not enjoying it so much here in Pennsylvania, I am not at bad as some but still enough water in the basement to make a mess and leave a lot of wet things around. Trying to get it dried out but my physical energy isn't what it once was, and trying to find a handyman in this area for small jobs is next to impossible.

 Hope you continue to find things to enjoy.

 My husband and I did a lot of country western (not line) dancing - In New York City of all places. It is good exercise and we made some new friends. We even went on an over night "Hayride on the High Sea" cruise out of the ports in Manhattan.  I couldn't even walk out to the dance floor at this point. It is so frustrating when the physical abilities go down.

 Yes, We all need to look for the things we can do and not the things we can't do -Easier said then done.

To everyone - enjoy the day and try to keep your spirits up.

Comment by barbee yesterday

My husband and I square danced for many years. It was good exercise (keeping my weight down) and fun (lots of laughter with many delightful people). Now I have no husband and can't dance. In fact, walking is getting more difficult. There have been many tests in recent months and the doctors cannot decide what is wrong. All I know is my brain doesn't work like it used to. I used to knit several hours a day, but now I can't figure out a pattern and my hands seem to only make knots. Getting old is really, really hard work for some of us, isn't it?

The strange thing is that I often feel like a kid when I remember many of the things I could do and places I've been. Those memories make me happy and I am so very grateful for what I did experience. It has been a good, full life for the most part. There are still enjoyable times with children and grandchildren and even two little great-granddaughters. Now that I'm pushing hard toward 80 (gasp!) there isn't enough time to wallow in regrets or sadness or the what ifs.'s fix a hazelnut latte and get going. Whether that means reading a book or answering emails or heating a dinner or visiting with friends or picking blackberries (which I did this morning) or shopping online (which I also did). What I do now is different; not better or worse. Just different.

Comment by Bonnie yesterday

Don, you are amazing.  It is four years this summer for me and I am now slowly feeling better and more interested in doing things but finding a dance partner sure seems out of my grasp.  I used to love to dance but haven’t in such a long time I’m not sure I could last even one musical number.  Bravo!  You are an inspiration!  And Sue and Cee, I share your determination to keep trying to make life as good as we can despite the hole in our hearts that will always be there.  I spent a lot of time alone this week but today as i sat having a cup of tea and watching a nice Louisiana rain (I always love them) I felt my husband with me and it was a nice feeling.  Sue, the middle of winter sounds pretty good to me.  We have had temperatures over 90 degrees here for the last three weeks and can’t look forward even to light jackets until late October.  And now we have to get through hurricane season as well!

Comment by Don yesterday

Shopping wears me out, too.  About 1 hour of dancing, once or twice a week is about my limit.  But it is fun and exercise.

Comment by Faolan yesterday

I admire anyone whom can still dance. I only went shopping this morning for four hours, and I am paying the price with agonising leg and ankle cramp,

Comment by Don yesterday

It's been more than nine years since Maxine's sudden death.  I still hurts when I think of it and all of loving things I'd like to say again to her.   Having a good dance partner is very helpful  in staying alive, at 92.   .

Comment by sweetlady on Thursday

How old might u be  u seem so wise and mature Laura jay who helps u again bless u if u wish ever to talk I’m here elaine

Comment by sweetlady on Thursday

Yes it does but still hurts good I work otherwise I couldn’t get out of bed or do anything and have a sweet dog too bless u for taking time for me and being so kind hope we can be friends


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