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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Comment by laurajay on Tuesday

Barzan.  LOL  It's  not grief  that slows us's getting  old physically!   I keep saying if you can still do it-do...if you can still get up and go-  go.   My abilities  have drastically   changed  not just from grief  in the past 5 yrs  but because  I face the reality  of limitations.  And  monetary situation  is grave.   I still have an adventurous spirit  and  plenty  of  courage  but the body  says  no to certain  things I used to take for granted!  I sure am glad  we did  stuff when we were young and able...And  having never  to be a care giver  I did not have years  of  limitations  when my husband was still alive--  so  many sacrificed  long spells of time caring for sick spouses.  I still believe we should  pace ourselves  so we don't  burn out  but never cease to do all you can to maintain health  and independence. 

Comment by laurajay on Tuesday

Jan.  Almost everyone who actively  posts  in this group is  between   70-90  and I have not heard of anyone in this group who went to camp at 70+.  If you live in the state  where  the camps are held like Lee in Ca.  it would not mean extensive   travel.    The  combination  of aging  70+  and grief    is unique. But  as you are still in your 60's  your needs  might be different than some one older .  You might try  the born in the 50's group more fitting  for your camp questions.

Comment by elaine on Tuesday

LJ, thanks for your prayers, must admit I am a little nervous.

Comment by Lee on Tuesday


I have attended 3 camp widows in San Diego. I missed last year because of conflict with my niece's wedding. I plan to be there this year. I am in my 70's now There are a variety of ages at these camps. Many different activities to choose from and you can choose. There is also a quiet room to escape to if needed. It is upbeat an many workshops are relevant to so many different topics/needs. Fun mixers and easy to make lasting connections with others. I will be commuting from my home which is about 15 miles from hotel. If you need a place to stay outside hotel, I have a room. What other questions do you have? I was in my 60's when I attended first camp. I this been 5 years since my spoused died. Needs vary over time... Hugs to you, Jan

Comment by Jan on Monday

Someone said 70's don't do camp.  What about 60s?  That would be my age range.  Surely there are people of all ages going...maybe not. 

Comment by Cee on Monday

WEROK,  Faolan's idea might work for you. There would be more movement and more people talking. If this is a family member or close friend, is there someone that you can sit with that you know and are comfortable talking to?

  Do you drive? I would love to see people from here come to the Festival. I'm only in duty a couple of hours so would have time to visit. I have a week pass so I run in and out on other days, I live about 1 mile from the fairgrounds. This festival is based on early Pa German customs and crafts so it is a little different than others.  They have a large quilt display and sales and auction, and a lot of fattening food :).

  Maybe we can meet for lunch or something one day during the summer.

HUGS  take it one day at a time.

Comment by Faolan on Monday
The ceremony might be hard emotionally for you, but you could still agree to attend the reception afterwards, and wish them luck, I'm sure they would understand, if you explain.
Comment by WEROK on Monday

Cee, I've not seen another Pennsylvania person in this group in a long time.  I live in central PA and we have a Perry County Fair in August that I usually attend.  I don't remember ever attending the Kutztown Festival.  Today is not one of my better days.  I obligated myself to go to a wedding this Saturday and it will be my first attempt since my husband died.  I need to put my big girl panties on and just do it but do I really??


Comment by Barzan on Monday

Alexandra - Wow!  You are a strong lady.  I drove from Denver to Santa Fe and thought I did great.  But you drove thousands of miles that I know I would never have the bravery to do.  Thankfully, our grief does not completely consume us or we'd all be in a vegetative state.

My annual trek to Santa Fe always occurs around the 13th of June - the day my husband passed.  I choose not to be here at home on that day.  Maybe someday, but not for now.  His birthday was Saturday and I let it go by quietly as he had always preferred.

Have a blessed day everyone.

Comment by Cee on Monday

Laurajay.  Love it!!!. Klutztown Festival would be the perfect place for me. :)  I have become about as Klutzy as you can get. Even the simplest task becomes a challenge .

  Stop by and visit if you are in the area of Kutztown Pa. ( between Reading and Allentown - off Route 78.  North of Philadelphia),  July 1 - 9  Opens at 10:00am  until 6:00pm week days and until 8:00pm on the weekends.

HUGS to all


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