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Born in the 40s or Earlier


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40 years

Started by Carol E. Last reply by Carol E 4 hours ago. 5 Replies

I'm new to this group. I lost my wonderful husband suddenly Jan. 23 2019. I can't believe it's been a year and it is still so painful. He was my partner and the person I could trust and count on. …Continue

Married 62 years

Started by phyllis. Last reply by Sleepless In Seattle Jan 8. 37 Replies

I lost my husband Barry who was 87 years old on August 27, 2019.  We were married 62 and a half years. W Although my children try to be understanding, none of them really can fathom how lost I am…Continue

Spreading Ashes in the Ocean from a Cruise Ship

Started by dolly. Last reply by dolly Dec 28, 2019. 11 Replies

Has anyone had a ceremony of spreading ashes from a cruise ship? I am thinking about doing that and wonder if there is anything I should be especially careful to consider. I am looking at Carnival…Continue


Started by Judyrose. Last reply by Cee Dec 25, 2019. 6 Replies

Hi I’m new to the group. I lost my husband May 29,2019 after 48 years of marriage. I keep hoping it will get easier but it’s not some days it’s worse. Some of the things I have read on here have…Continue

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Comment by laurajay on January 19, 2020 at 9:45am

Maggie, Faolan.  Thank  you  for  the  food  for  thought...nibbling  on  new  ideas/words  always  helps  with  gaining  greater  clarity.    lj

Comment by Faolan on January 19, 2020 at 7:48am

It's our minds. They cannot seperate past from present, which is why, when we remember something, it's as if it has just happened, or is happening now. That is why memories, good or bad, can hit us with such force. People say " oh but you will have your happy memories", yet it can be the memories of our happiest times which make us cry the hardest.

Comment by Maggie on January 19, 2020 at 7:42am

For you Laurajay

   "The trickery of time visits me frequently, and I too, can taste and smell the moments long past. Some men far more intelligent than I, have proposed that time is relative; that it exists all at once and we have only divided it into sections for our own ease of organization. Perhaps when the "trickery" happens, we are caught in a time warp for a moment, and we really ARE in that moment again. It is an interesting concept, don't you think?"


Have we talked about the beautiful sadness of old age? The part that remembers life many years ago, remembers people we loved, laughing, who are ghosts now. We walk among ghosts always, happy and sad, that others cannot see or hear.


“What makes old age hard to bear is not the failing of one's faculties, mental and physical, but the burden of one's memories.”~ W. Somerset Maugham

Comment by laurajay on January 19, 2020 at 2:55am

52 Wedding Anniversary today. Bitterly cold and snowy.....Wedding Day was cold but sunny and I am remembering how beautiful everything was about that day. Feeling like royalty-Ever so grateful for a long, blessed is possible to smile through the warm tears that fall...because love is lj

Comment by Cee on January 6, 2020 at 6:48am

Sue I am so sorry for the troubles in your county, my heart aches for the people and the animals. We have seen pictures of people trying to get water to them, but it is such a dangerous situation.  I pray that they can get the fires under control.

 Glad you neighbor and family are safe. sorry for what they lost, how wonderful that the man with the boat was there at the right time.

  We all need to be thankful for what we have  and if we can - try to find a way to help others.

HUGS to all.

Comment by only1sue on January 5, 2020 at 3:34am

I am okay. The most destructive fires are on the south coast. Our next door neighbours Andrew and Jillie were camping down the south coast near a lake and the fire burned down to the camp ground and they lost their car and caravan in the fire. A local man with  a boat picked Andrew and his family up and took them to safety. He and Jillie and their four kids are home safe thank goodness.

At church this morning the horrific bushfires were the topic of conversation and many reported they had family members or more distant relatives in the country who had lost livestock or crops destroyed by fire. Many have also lost homes and businesses. Here on the coast we have only had one small fire which took half a day to get under control but the fires in the mountains and on the western plains fires have been going for weeks with millions of acres affected and small towns without power, internet access, phone coverage, with only limited food su pplies. With many hot and windy days ahead no-one knows when this bushfires emergency will end.

Comment by laurajay on January 4, 2020 at 5:39pm

SUE,  thinking  of you  and  others  in your part of the  world.  My  local  news  talks each day now about the  horrible  fires and losses  in  Australia  and I/m not certain the  coverage  is accurate.  Just wanted  to say  take care  and I'm holding you and  your area in my prayers.  Loss  is  never  ever  easy....Godspeed.   lj

Comment by Cee on January 1, 2020 at 3:58pm

Sue, I am glad your holiday went well, I am sure you meal was delicious, and how nice to have people around and grandchildren especially make a holiday.

 Now we are on the brink of a new year, my wish is that it will bring us peace and happiness.


Comment by only1sue on December 25, 2019 at 11:10am

Gifts from grown up children are strange sometimes. Each year from one family I get a watch. How many watches do I need? From another I get a candle among other small gifts, handy if there is a power outage. I had two out of threet  familiesvwith me this year so five out of six grandchildren. The meal was enjoyed by all. It was the first time in five years that had been Christmas at my house so I did panic a bit about food. The highlight for me is always seeing the cousins chatting together, mostly they only see each other once a year as they live in different states so I hope the bonds last a lifetime..

Comment by Cee on December 25, 2019 at 6:20am

This may make you smile at how people think of others.

I do not live near my family so gifts are sent, the ones from my son have been sitting in front of my fireplace waiting. He made the comment that he thought the gifts were something I would use "a lot"

Now I don't think you could find better way to make someone feel old and lower their self-esteem any more than to send them this gift from Victoria's Secret - "SLIPPERS".....   now doesn't that just make one feel young and sexy? :) and I can't even wear them because they are the slip on ones and with my knee and ankle problems they would not be safe.

The other gift was an Ancestry DNA Health kit, he must really think I am on my last legs. At least he sent something.
HUGS to all of you, I hope you are having a peaceful day and if possible with family or friends.


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