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Comment by itaintme on February 7, 2012 at 7:06pm

I know this isn't truly about our situation, but it states how I feel about Geoff and maybe some of you feel the same way. I wouldn't have missed the dance, even for the pain of loss.

Comment by hendrixx2 on February 7, 2012 at 4:46am


love that song by Morrison...

Comment by Blue Snow on February 6, 2012 at 6:06pm

I haven't even had the TV on much since my husband passed in January. It's just too hard when some little thing broadsides you with a memory.

Comment by Macduff (Hal) on February 6, 2012 at 5:08am

Betty and I played Van Morrison and Rod Stewart at our wedding. I sometimes listen to the 70s music station satellite radio in the car and they often play them. The tears start flowing the second "Moondance" starts... "can I just have one more moon dance with you my love" my heart screams out. 

Moondance sung by Van Morrison

Betty had a 1998 red Ford F150. She loved her truck. I sold it a few months ago to a friend whose car broke down for good, but before that only I drove it when I needed a truck. 

That was always difficult because I was so very aware I was touching that steering wheel she had in her hands, in the truck that her parents blasted her for buying saying it was "too big for a woman". The truck in so many way represented who she was, the intellectual tomboy. 

Comment by hendrixx2 on February 6, 2012 at 4:52am

So sorry for the pain you're feeling now, your post expresses what I have felt many times now and expresses it with great clarity for me. will I be happy again? can I ever again enjoy the common things some of us take for granted. I've been using Donna's car for the past few weeks, and at first I could not listen to the station she had it set to without breaking into tears, it reminded me too much of the many times we had been together in that car. Like you, the sadness I feel sometimes is just incredible, and slams home the fact that she is gone. I too miss the physical aspects of our lives together and am still muddled as to a suitable solution; mabey it will come for us, mabey not, I just don't know. Truly sorry you're going through this now and am praying for some peace for you. Take care of yourself and know that all here can understand what you're going through.

Comment by job4348 on February 5, 2012 at 6:39pm

Yes Blue Snow one more reminder of the pain. Use to love to listen to music but the songs that can knock you to your knees sneak up on you. I was listening to classic country this morning  when Connie Smiths song Once a day came on the line "once a day every day all day long" that about covers the hurting sechdule.


Comment by Blue Snow on February 5, 2012 at 4:35pm

That's a beautiful song, itaintme. I have so much trouble listening to music without getting all emotional. And thanks to the others who have welcomed me into this group.

Comment by itaintme on February 5, 2012 at 4:05pm

You may need a tissue, but I hope this will bring comfort. I found it comforting, even if it is bittersweet.

Comment by Macduff (Hal) on February 5, 2012 at 2:33am

Blue Snow, I hope you find this group helps you as much as it did, and still does, all of us. My darling wife of 40 years Betty died a two years and one month ago. 

We all remember the seeming endless paperwork, how needlessly cruel it seemed that we were forced to deal with this stuff in the midst of our grief.. 

Please go to and join that group. So far there is only one person posting, KristininDenver. There will obviously be more but she is all alone there now in here so very early and horribly painful grief.

My name is Hal by the way, Mac and Duff are my two Westies.

Comment by Patty Sue on February 4, 2012 at 9:39pm

Hugs to you, Blue Snow. Be very patient and gentle with yourself. Do not worry about some of the paperwork. You will have time to get it done...and some of it can wait a long time...till you are ready. I am glad you found us but so sorry you need to be here.


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