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Latest Activity: Dec 10
Started by InsideLove Oct 21.
My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue
Thanks to everyone for your kind words. Im so looking forward to just being able to do errands and home stuff without being in pain. When I went to the education seminar I got quite a few of the aids--grabber, long shoe horn, sock assist, long shoe horn and a couple of others. Ive been stocking up on stuff the past few weeks at shoprite. I have widowed lady friends from church who have offered to pick up things for me and maybe even sleep over if I need them. I just have to arrange for someone to pick up mail. I was also told I could get a temporary handicap things for my car. Im going over to the police dept today to get a form.
Thanks again for the support--it means so much,
Email me with the actual date of your surgery and it would be a blessing to pray for you. Rosary, or petition prayer or reading Psalms...whatever would mean the most to you. There is power in the Word. Medical issues as we age bring up a lot of concerns especially when we are dealing with them alone! I have been bed ridden a few times with illness since my husband died and I was afraid. So I get it!
Hope you also consider other aids for recovery--I know a Grip and Grab was essential for me to function when I could not get around. And thought to hygiene needs can be planned for ahead for less stress when recovering. Here's a link to the Grip and Grab- other similar tools do not last or work as well. Stay in touch...especially in the next two weeks if you get scared. Hugs! lj https://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&am...
Joan, best of luck with your surgery, good positive thoughts are with you for a speedy recovery.
Hi Joan, how blessed your aunt was that she still had her mental faculties until the end. And that she went in peace. My grandmother was the same way. She died quietly at 102, but she was bed ridden for the last few years. BUT she still had a great sense of humor it was good to laugh with her.
And best of luck on your hip surgery! Won't it be nice to be able to walk without pain! Yes, don't wait til after your surgery to come back here. We are always ready with support and encouragement. Love to you, Alexandra
Feelinglonely, I've helped a couple people through hip surgery. You probably don't need any more advice, but I'll throw in my two cents. Get a leg lifter. It costs about $15 or less at the drug store and will be invaluable in getting out of bed or putting on slippers. If you can rent a hip chair, it is well worth the money for the first month or two. The seat is high, like a bar stool, and takes the stress off of getting in/out of a chair.
We "old folks" need all the help we can get to get up and down!!! Don't wait until after your surgery to check back. Those of us here understand and can give you virtual support, which sometimes is almost as good as the other kind of moral support. Altho a mate's presence can never be replaced.
Prayers and good thoughts being sent your way...
I hope all goes well for you, and you make a good recovery.
Hi Everyone--Happy Passover and Happy Easter to all!!
Have been really busy preparing for my total hip replacement in just about 2 weeks. Had to go for blood typing, medical clearance physical and a 2 hour educational program which was excellent, but scared me even more. I am at the point where I just wish it was over already because I am sick of hobbling and barely able to walk. I hate looking at myself in the mirror or in store windows when I pass by.
On April 3d, my 100 year old aunt passed. She had all her mental functions, but her body just didnt work--she needed help with everything. She never complained--she came down with pneumonia on the Thursday before and passed on Monday at about 2:15am. She went in peace. Dont know what I will do without her. She prayed the rosary every day, several times a day. Hope she still be praying up there the day I have my surgery,.
Jeez, I wish my hubby was here to give me the moral support that only he could give.
Anyway, hope everyone is doing OK. Will check back after my surgery.
Hugs to all
Faolan. Interesting idea that raised my curiosity...including a link if anyone else wants more infor. on former customs of widows in another culture. I know of widows who still wear black here in the states as part of their tradition when widowed. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sati_(practice)
The one custom I wished to be mine when Dave died, is the custom of wailing and tearing your clothes and hair. That is exactly what I wanted to do, but could only cry:)
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