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My first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue
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My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue
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We seem to have been blessed. We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy. We…Continue
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I am new to this group and I lost my husband of 26 years on Valentine’s Day this year. He was 85 and I am not 79. I had been married before but he had not. We had a wonderful marriage and he was the…Continue
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Hi Beloved Peach, Ceilya, and Okbobbo,
It was not my intention to mislead you all. I am "from" Greece NY. I was born in Strong Memorial hospital back in January, 1945 so I doubt that the building even still exists. When I was 5 my parents moved from 1115 Monroe Ave in Rochester to Greece and I went to school in Greece NY My HS Class was the first to go through all four grades as they were building the school as we strolled the halls. I started in the 9th grade and went through all four. After that I went to MCC or "MC Squared" as we used to call it taking Electrical Engineering Technology. After that I joined the Navy on 01 APRIL 1965. Kinda fitting that it was April Fool's Day. I left the state then and with the exception of a wedding (my sister) and a couple of funerals, I only go back once in a while to visit my brother and sister.
(((HUGS)))
Frank
I live at 10,000' elevation inside the Colorado Rocky Mountains in south Park County CO. The nearest town to me is Como CO, (pop16) a 37 minute drive, one way, over packed dirt/gravel road, to pick up my mail from the POB. It's considered "Frontier" by the government and there is no mail delivery, so they give us a free POB in the nearest town that has them available. For me that was Como.
Hi BelovedPeach, I know how you feel with the age of the groups. I think it is probably because sometimes people in a certain generation can relate to different things like songs, travels, kids, grandkids, movies, etc etc etc. But since your husband was more in "our" era I have a feeling you may relate as well. My husband was also older than me and believe it or not I relate very well with the 80 - 85 group. As for getting involved with discussions I personally don't think this is the place. This site has been for me anyway to come and vent when no one understands and I know the people on here will understand. Also for where I feel connected when others tell me to move on with my life. My life moves on with or without me present in the moment but here is where I can stop and be honest with my feelings that I, even after 7 years, may be having a difficult day.
I don't have the opportunity to be on here too often because I work and have other commitments that keep me busy. But like you I was worried I would come here and it wouldn't be any longer. We should feel comfortable that this site will be here as long as any of us need it. So advice from an "old" lady come here and feel safe to share your feelings but don't get involved in discussions. Unless it is about where to go for vacation or how to make a good NY Italian meatball.
You are between Syracuse and Utica what town?? I hope you have the best day you can. Ceilya
Beloved Peach, Frank, and Ceilya,
My parents would take me to Rochester every other summer to visit an Aunt and Uncle. One of the last trips I took with my beloved Laura was to Rochester (Greece and Monroe), to visit cousins and with them to Buffalo (Salvatore’s Restaurant), Lewiston to visit the Basilica, and Niagara Falls. As a child we visited Watkins Glen and walked the steps - down! I have many fond memories of those trips.
Beloved Peach - write your post in another word editor and then copy and paste into the posting box. Its so much easier and you can write in a size that's readable.
Hi Frank, yes it is the never-ending saga of my roof but hopefully by tomorrow it will be done except for the inside repairs. I can't take anymore disruption so I will ask that they come back another time to start fixing what was damaged inside. I am trying to see something positive in all of this but not easy although I like the skylight. There was very little light in my den and now I have light at least in the morning. I am from a little town outside of Buffalo. Lancaster. I go back every year to visit family and friends. I usually split my time between Buffalo and Utica where my dad's family is from. When I was there last month I went on the Miss Buffalo cruise and my cousin took a picture of me at the USS THE SULLIVAN. I remember as a kid watching the movie of the five Sullivan brothers of which the ship is named I believe. Yes it is a small world. Sorry about your wife 35 years is a long time. Jim and I were married 40. Sometimes the 7 years seems like 7 days and other times it seems a lifetime ago. But I still miss him as I am sure you still miss Susan. Thank you to everyone for being here for each other. Have a good night....Ceilya
Hi Ceilya,
Saw your note on the construction. You must have used the same crew that Susan and I had building the addition on our home! Three years after Susan's passing, they finally finished the addition and drove off. When I got home that afternoon, I discovered that what they did not do (finish) would cost me a couple of thousand more for someone to correct the work. I finally finished it myself and got the CO after two years of misery with them.
I saw you are from the Buffalo area. I am too. I'm from Greece NY between Rochester and Buffalo. Went to Greece Olympia HS and later to MCC then into the navy for 20 years. The first ship I was on is now moored at Navy Park in Buffalo, the USS THE SULLIVANS DD-537. My brother lives in Holly and my sister in Hamlin.
Small world.
Congrats on your 7 years. Susan suddenly passed in her sleep of a silent heart attack 2 months after our 35 anniversary in Dec 2012.
Frank
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