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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Discussion Forum

First post - Aloha

Started by bellgamin. Last reply by Cee Sep 26. 4 Replies

My  first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by DIVA70 Aug 25. 7 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by Lex on September 22, 2017 at 3:37pm

I've  been a member of WV for almost 7 yrs. Even though I haven't  posted a lot, I read almost every post not only in this group but some other groups as well. WV has, and still does, give me comfort and valuable perspective helping me thru this horrible journey, now new path trying to find. However, with some of the comments I've  been reading in this group these past 2 months,  if I were new to widowhood, I would immediately  leave. This group has totally lost its original purpose. I have not stopped reading posts yet as there are several women/men that I respect and value their input. This is just my opinion and after reading some of today's posts, had to comment.

Comment by elaine on September 22, 2017 at 1:48pm

Isn't this supposed to be a site where we support and encourage each other?

Comment by barbee on September 22, 2017 at 7:20am

I have a question and sent it via email to the address above: [email protected] It would not send and the return message was that this address is not recognized. Now what?

Comment by barbee on September 22, 2017 at 6:58am

Glad that LJ took a breath and decided not to leave. We need everyone's thoughts and opinions here to keep things balanced.

Comment by Don on September 21, 2017 at 4:40pm

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Should widows who live alone, learn how to use a defensive weapon and take a course to obtain a permit to carry one ?

Comment by elaine on September 21, 2017 at 11:13am

Ceilya, good post.  I feel very grounded and peaceful when I go home to England.

Enjoy your weekend at your cabin in the mountains, it sounds delightful.

Comment by ceilya on September 21, 2017 at 10:42am

Frank you are so right.  Grief is just that grief.   Grief has no age or no time frame.  I do hope Beloved Peach you continue to come to whichever site you feel most comfortable sharing with.  Just like Frank I was born in NY in the Buffalo area and lived between Buffalo and Utica until after high school and have lived in California since.  But I go back every year to visit family and friends.  It is the place in my life where I feel grounded and peaceful.  I leave a lot of my pain here because I know I can be honest and not judged.   Hope all of you have a great weekend.   I am heading out of town to my little cabin in the mountains.  Not as high as you are Frank.  I am only at 8,000 feet.   Take care and as I do every time I have the opportunity to get on here thank all of you for being here for me when there isn't anyone that understands or wants to hear it all any longer.   Ceilya 

Comment by MFARM on September 21, 2017 at 10:30am

Elaine, yes I read Option B.  I found it a well written book. However, not much of this person's situations applied to me except we both lost loving husbands.  Her husband died suddenly whereas I was a caregiver for some time. She had a lot of friends and family in her own family and generation for support where at my age and being an only child I had  to make new friends. My children although they don't live nearby are independent and were wonderful help. She on the other hand had young children totally dependent on her. Also she did after time find it possible to move on to a new relationship. So far after five years I have a lot of great friends, men and woman. However I still am not interested in anyone but the wonderful husband I had for almost 54 years. Right after my husband died I did find the book  "Widowed" by Dr. Joyce Brothers to be incredibly helpful right after my husband died. I passed it on to another widow and she couldn't put it down until finished and then wanted her own copy.

Comment by elaine on September 21, 2017 at 9:42am

Totally changing the subject, but has anyone read "Option B"?

Also, check out  Good read.

Comment by Don on September 21, 2017 at 9:33am

Personally; my marriage was my idea of heaven on earth.   I probably would have croaked in my 60's if I had not seen my Angel sitting in my Zoology lecture class.   She was So good that several of my friends and neighbors would remind me that that she was an Angel.  ( i knew that). We were married 61 years before she suddenly died the day of having knee replacement surgery.    I'll never get over it but I have learned  to live with it.  

She was my Very Best Friend and did the best at everything she ever attempted;  and ran our home like the CEO of  a highly  profitable corporation.     I will always miss her until we meet again .    But that does not rule out the possibility of another good relationship to help each other to enjoy the remainder of life.


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