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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Members: 229
Latest Activity: Oct 1

Discussion Forum

First post - Aloha

Started by bellgamin. Last reply by Cee Sep 26. 4 Replies

My  first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by DIVA70 Aug 25. 7 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by Don on September 26, 2017 at 2:20pm

I am reading a book titled "THE SECRET" by Rhonda Byrne.   So far, I believe it is a book all widows and widowers would benefit from reading.  

Comment by Don on September 25, 2017 at 11:36am

  "And that is why we who experience grief need to band together so grief doesn't get the best of us and one day we can beat it."

Ceilya: I have found that you can't beat it, but you can learn to live with it .  

Comment by Faolan on September 24, 2017 at 11:38pm
Elaine, whenever I see couples still together, I want to tell them to make the most of what they still have, but I don't, it's inevitable that one of them will be in your shoes one day, it's a sad fact of life.
Comment by elaine on September 24, 2017 at 4:10pm

I went to a lunch today to celebrate a friend's 65th birthday and there were many old friends there from the car club we belonged to - it was bittersweet, so many memories came back and to see many of them still "couples" made me feel even more alone.  It is really hard trying to adjust to this new life without "my guy". 

Comment by barbee on September 24, 2017 at 11:33am

Ceilya, DITTO!!!  :-)  

One of the things that attracted me to this group has been it's positive, forgiving, and understanding of many grieving people. It doesn't matter our age or faith or culture or race or even what we want to vent about and share. We are united in experiencing grief. Some starting into the process, others stuck in the process, others making their way out of it. Many emotions are involved and they ebb and flow. 

Today, in the Pacific NW, the weather is beautiful! About 70 and sunny with blue skies overhead. Not a typical day for us. It makes my heart happy -- and that doesn't happen too often either. Hoping you'll have an enjoyable day today too.   (((HUGS)))

Comment by ceilya on September 24, 2017 at 10:48am

I love that I can come to this site whenever I need to be with people who connect with me in the one area of my life not everyone (thank goodness) does and that is in my grief.   Grief doesn't discriminate on age, race, religion or gender.  And that is why we who experience grief need to band together so grief doesn't get the best of us and one day we can beat it.   I cannot thank all of you enough for being here for me.  I know I will always be here for whomever needs someone to listen.   Love you guys.  Ceilya

Comment by Soaring Spirits on September 23, 2017 at 7:34am

I'm grateful to read how Widowed Village and this group has been helpful to so many of you. It sure has been for me.

I joined way back in January 2011, 4 months after my husband died and it was the lifeline I needed to keep me standing. There was a very diverse group of us that hung out in the chat room each night during those first months - both men and women in their 20s & 30s all the way up into their 70s, one who was pregnant, others with young children, some long married, some newly married. And none of that mattered. We came together because of the one thing we all had in common ... the loss of the person we expected to spend the rest of our life with.  

I'm now the site admin and grateful I can give back to this community that was there for me when I most needed it.  This particular group has had some wonderful conversations and has remained active while activity in some of the other groups has waned. I do hope you'll start the conversations back up. 

I'd like to share this little video with you. I'm a Brave Girl (yes, at 66) and this book was written by Kallie Maughan, the daughter of one of the women who started Brave Girls (they're changing their name to Brave Living, because we are now offering things for men and teens, too) - and it's read by her then-4 year old daughter, Sophie.  Let's all meet where our petals touch.

Comment by Soaring Spirits on September 22, 2017 at 10:03pm

My goodness people. I'm not seeing this kind of unkind and inappropriate behavior in any of the other groups and it is very disappointing. I have deleted the recent comments and will suspend the WV membership of anyone from this point on who continues to post comments that are unkind or intended to incite arguments. We have many newly widowed people joining us each day looking for support and compassion and your behavior is not at all welcoming.

I will repeat again ... we will not be monitoring who joins the various groups.  As I mentioned in my previous post, I looked at all of the profiles of those who comment regularly in this group and I would need to remove a couple of you regulars from this group - and also from other groups you have joined that do not fit your profile information. BelovedPeach honestly posted her age and was chastised; others who have been in this group for a long time have chosen to keep quiet that they were not 'Born in the 40s'.  Please do not be so close-minded as to not accept all who choose to join in conversations within any of our groups. Everyone deserves to have a voice.

I am receiving daily emails at [email protected], barbee. I've sent you an email from that address to see if you receive it. 

Comment by barbee on September 22, 2017 at 7:42pm

Remember the movie, BAMBI? It was Thumper who said: "If you can't say something nice, don't say nothing at all." A good rule to live by.

Comment by Ski on September 22, 2017 at 5:13pm
I read comments from this group, but often don't write. My dear husband, my best friend died tragically and suddenly 21/2 years ago. I have found great comfort in this group and Morgana in my early writings was supportive and caring. The way I see this group is that we are here to support each other and if a member gets comfort in being able to share their daily routine then so be it. If I don't want to read it I don't have to, but to me it brings reality to the group. Let's be kind. Something I have had to fight against is anger and sometimes I take it out on the wrong people. I am angry that my married friends are traveling together and that they brag about how long they have been marrie, why have I been cheated? But on this site we need to be kind and supportive of each other. Thus is a terrible struggle for all of us.

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