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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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First post - Aloha

Started by bellgamin. Last reply by Bonnie Jan 6. 8 Replies

My  first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Gwamma Jan 5. 8 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by sis Jan 3. 11 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Coping with yearning for dead husband

Started by Noelene T. Last reply by Sun Flower Dec 16, 2018. 11 Replies

 I am new to this group and I lost my husband of 26 years on Valentine’s Day this year. He was 85 and I am not 79. I had been married before but he had not. We had a wonderful marriage and he was the…Continue

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Comment by MFARM on September 27, 2017 at 4:43am
Welcome, Without Jim. Sorry for the reason you are with us. I hope you find solace and understanding.
Comment by ceilya on September 26, 2017 at 5:29pm

Don you are right you can't beat it.  Someone told me awhile ago that it doesn't get better it just gets more tolerable.  Some days I find that to be true and others it is like yesterday.   Most of the time when my life is full of drama or seems like the walls are caving in it hurts the most to not have that person who would say just the right thing or be there to take half or more than half of the load off your shoulders.   That person is gone so in those times the pain is much deeper and real and seems so raw.  But days when things are a bit smoother or you sit at a grandsons baseball game and the world just seems to pass your by that is one of the few days I get to smile.   I hope to have more of those days as I go forward in my grief process.   A friend gave me a book which I really like.  It isn't one you read cover to cover just areas that will help.  The title is "I WASN'T READY TO SAY GOOD BYE"  BY PAMELA D. BLAIR AND BROOK NOEL.    

only1sue33....I too have been fortunate enough to have found people who inspire me.  I find many on these sites and groups.  

Thank you all for being here for me when I truly need someone to hear me.     Ceilya

Comment by only1sue on September 26, 2017 at 4:46pm

I guess we all find inspiration in books that fit our own situation. I haven't read a book I would hand out as a cure-all but have found people who inspire me instead. There are many on this site who do that and among my widowed friends.  Let's stay away from controversy for a while eh?

Comment by Faolan on September 26, 2017 at 3:09pm
I have read this book And watched the DVD, it's a self help book about positive thinking, but I would not consider it helpful when it comes to grief and everything that comes with it.
Comment by Don on September 26, 2017 at 2:20pm

I am reading a book titled "THE SECRET" by Rhonda Byrne.   So far, I believe it is a book all widows and widowers would benefit from reading.  

Comment by Don on September 25, 2017 at 11:36am

  "And that is why we who experience grief need to band together so grief doesn't get the best of us and one day we can beat it."

Ceilya: I have found that you can't beat it, but you can learn to live with it .  

Comment by Faolan on September 24, 2017 at 11:38pm
Elaine, whenever I see couples still together, I want to tell them to make the most of what they still have, but I don't, it's inevitable that one of them will be in your shoes one day, it's a sad fact of life.
Comment by elaine on September 24, 2017 at 4:10pm

I went to a lunch today to celebrate a friend's 65th birthday and there were many old friends there from the car club we belonged to - it was bittersweet, so many memories came back and to see many of them still "couples" made me feel even more alone.  It is really hard trying to adjust to this new life without "my guy". 

Comment by barbee on September 24, 2017 at 11:33am

Ceilya, DITTO!!!  :-)  

One of the things that attracted me to this group has been it's positive, forgiving, and understanding of many grieving people. It doesn't matter our age or faith or culture or race or even what we want to vent about and share. We are united in experiencing grief. Some starting into the process, others stuck in the process, others making their way out of it. Many emotions are involved and they ebb and flow. 

Today, in the Pacific NW, the weather is beautiful! About 70 and sunny with blue skies overhead. Not a typical day for us. It makes my heart happy -- and that doesn't happen too often either. Hoping you'll have an enjoyable day today too.   (((HUGS)))

Comment by ceilya on September 24, 2017 at 10:48am

I love that I can come to this site whenever I need to be with people who connect with me in the one area of my life not everyone (thank goodness) does and that is in my grief.   Grief doesn't discriminate on age, race, religion or gender.  And that is why we who experience grief need to band together so grief doesn't get the best of us and one day we can beat it.   I cannot thank all of you enough for being here for me.  I know I will always be here for whomever needs someone to listen.   Love you guys.  Ceilya


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