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First post - Aloha

Started by bellgamin. Last reply by Cee Sep 26. 4 Replies

My  first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by DIVA70 Aug 25. 7 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by Faolan on October 23, 2017 at 7:08am
We bred and exhibited etc German Shepherds and Samoyeds for over 30 yrs, companions first and foremost, no kennel dogs for us. Our last GSD died aged 16 yrs from a stroke, Babsi was a German Import, she waited until my husband came home, went to each family member in turn vocalising, then she calmly lay down, had her stroke and died, no fuss, no fear, as naturally as giving birth.
One of my Samoyed bitches became a PAT dog in her veteran years, visiting a nursing home. There was a new resident, an old lady whom hadn't spoken a word since finding her husband dead in bed beside her one morning I sat Suki in front of her and gently placed the ladys hand on Suki's head, introduced her, within seconds the old lady was repeating her name and stroking her, staff and doctors crowded round us in amazement, taking photographs of this "miracle", One thing animals have taught me is this, death is Not to be feared.
Comment by InsideLove on October 23, 2017 at 5:39am

Gosh. This thread seems like one long one, with different topics and that the most recent discussion was about pets. But I wanted to introduce myself, so I started a new discussion, "Unfortunately finding myself here" - a separate discussion.

So, did I do this incorrectly? Are the group's guidelines different than some others I am in?

Pets: my husband Marty and I had three dogs over our 47 years married life. Funny because HE and I grew up in a family who adored cats! But I developed allergies to cats over the years. Plus, he and I preferred the seemingly being able to feel more from them as a source of unconditional love. We traveled so much we often spent the first 24 to 48 hours expressing our guilt and concerns - was Chanel ok? Had the house sitter been there on time all day? Those kind of worries from guilt.

The first dog, a German Shepherd, we had to find a farm for when he was in the Air Force, and we were transferred to Turkey. But we LOVED Leda - smart as a human (picked up her empty bowl of water one day to lay at our feet to tell us she was way beyond thirsty and why the heck were we doing not giving her water?!)

Our second one took us into not so allergic breeds - a miniature mix mostly poodle. Ginger lived to be 16 years ago. She was dying of congestive heart failure just the week my husband needed his first open heart surgery at 47 years old. I had the painful work of making the decision, with him, to say goodbye to her.

Before we got our 3rd dog, my one request was that HE put her down with me should that happen again. It did. He did. And it was JUST as painful.

While I love dogs, and it's been just two months since Marty suddenly passed away after a routine hip surgery with complications. I've decided as much as WE (and I) love these furry friends we had, who gave us so many MORE memories, I just assume travel than welcome guilt in my life again.

Comment by only1sue on October 23, 2017 at 4:03am

Frank years ago we had two kittens too, unfortunately one of the cats died young so we had the other alone for some years.  Then we had a cat and a dog which we supposedly had just for six months but they stayed here until they died.  Two pets seem more contented than one on it's own.

Comment by Frank on October 22, 2017 at 9:18pm

Hi All,

After having a successful kennel in Norfolk, we moved to Colorado and our job would not allow us to have dogs.  We lasted about a week when we decided we needed to have something furry in the home.  We went to the Denver Dumb Friends of Animals and got two 6 month old female kittens.  They lived to be 18 and 22 years old and were an endless source of laughter and love.  When the oldest passed Susan lasted again about a week when she walked into the office and said that we needed another pair of kittens.  Again we opted for another pair of 6 month old female  kittens.  They are now about 7 years old.  One is butterscotch and the other licorice.  These two, while different from the first two, are also an endless source of laughter, and love.

Licorice was Susan's cat and Butterscotch sleeps in my lap while watching TV.  I call them my two Attack House Cats because I live in a remote place at 10,000' in south Park County, CO and they hiss and sputter and challenge anything that comes into the yard.  Of course they are indoor cats, and they seem to trust the glass between the bear and the cats. For some reason Butterscotch has decided that I absolutely must get out of bed at 0630 every morning and makes it her duty to pester me until I comply.  With Susan's passing Licorice as finally realized that there is only one lap in the house and is now becoming accustomed to the fact that she has to share that lap. It's made for some interesting discussions between them.

I take my cats everywhere when traveling.  If it is a short time frame, plenty of water and food, and they amuse themselves till I get home.

Of course, one could always opt for a dog.  But, that requires walking, exercise, as well as feeding.

But, you could always name your dog "Five Miles" and that way you can always say that you "Walk five miles twice a day." And become a role model for a couch potato!

I would urge one gets two cats.  It saves on furniture, rugs, and clothing, and they amuse themselves when alone.



Comment by elaine on October 18, 2017 at 7:09pm

I got my little calico cat, Mika, from the SPCA in June.  She is 5 years old and a delight.  She was in the SPCA for 7 weeks and after several visits I decided to take her home.  I am sure she was waiting for me, she is just so affectionate and loving.  Barbee, I have lots of squirrels in my garden and she loves to chase them (don't think she would know what to do if she actually caught one).

Comment by barbee on October 16, 2017 at 5:58pm

Pets, yes! I rescued a cat in July. She's "about 3-5 years old" and was very well trained by her previous family. She's super curious about everything and has to investigate every little noise. She purrs so loud, it is surprising the neighbors don't hear her. We have a herd of deer who come into the yard (sometimes up to 16 of them) and she runs from window to window watching them. Getting her was one of the better things I've done for myself in recent years.

Comment by Faolan on October 16, 2017 at 10:40am
Pets give us a reason to get out of bed in the morning. They are incredible empaths, they know exactly how we are feeling. When I was a girl I had an incredible Border Collie, if I was upset, crying, he would rest his head on my knee and whimper sympathetically. They give us So much for so little.
Comment by ceilya on October 16, 2017 at 10:20am

Barzan you are so right pets are a blessing.  I rescued a dog a few months after Jim passed and as the saying goes "I didn't rescue her she rescued me" and it is so true.   She is such a great companion.  Always there no matter if it is a good day or a bad day.   I can laugh and I can cry she remains the same.  And never tells me that I need to move forward or get on with my life.  So between work, kids , grandkids, netflix, this website and my beautiful dog my mind stays busy and I exist.  Thanks for being here.  

Comment by Barzan on October 11, 2017 at 6:19am

Faolan and Barbee - I'm with you.  I try to watch mostly comedic or romcoms for the same reason.  I need to keep my mood boosted with laughter and happy endings.  There is so much drama and horrific things happening around us that we need all the buffers we can find.

Thankfully, I have my kitty, Milo, who also provided lots of entertainment with his antics.  Pets are great healers.

Have a blessed day.

Comment by barbee on October 10, 2017 at 7:53pm

We got the first month free on Netflix and then it is $9.95 a month. When we go to the theater, the senior rate is $10.50 per person. A BIG difference. 

As to what to watch, I prefer romantic comedies partly because they are so predictable and light-hearted. If there isn't something to laugh about, it hardly is worth the effort! Laughter is an essential part of my day! Of course, there are plenty of biographies, dramas, mysteries, and serious topics to view, but laughing helps keep me sane. Long live I LOVE LUCY re-runs!!!!!!!!!


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