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Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by Widow2015 Apr 7. 6 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by laurajay on December 7, 2017 at 6:35pm

Elaine.  Did you have your surgery  on the 5th?  Update?  Keeping you in my prayers.  I have said before  nowadays  it's  MUCH more  a matter  of  aging  with  some dignity and learning  to live  with  slowing   increasing  limitations   that concerns me.  It's very hard  to  know  limits  to physical ability now--knowing when to push through  pain  and when to rest or postpone  what I cannot do myself.  And for me,  money issues  are always  there...because  money is so tight now.   Nevertheless,  I do have  grands   that love me  freely  so I am blessed when they  visit....I get  wretched  waves  of grief  even after  5 yrs  for my strong and loving  husband-and I miss  his presence  every day...and  especially every night-  he was   solace  and sanctuary for me.  Sigh.     I know  you all understand  that sneaky  aging  thing.   Be kind  to yourselves  with the approaching much as you can     lj

Comment by Cee on December 7, 2017 at 1:50pm

My thoughts and prayers go out to those in pain and facing surgery.

I do understand as my joint pain seems to be getting worse and Drs, haven't been much help. I hate not being able to do all the things I could. - You are right - aging isn't for sissies.

Comment by Cee on December 7, 2017 at 1:45pm

Only 1 Sue   , I so agree.  I have a place to live but don't really feel it is "home".  I will be alone again this year. I have a friend here that invites me to have Christmas Day dinner with her family - it is nice but not the same as having my own family.

Comment by only1sue on December 6, 2017 at 1:33pm

Several good friends have sent me by email or on Facebook a "Home for Christmas" Youtube clip.  Okay it is funny, sentimental and innocent fun but it does bring the thought that from now on, five years out from Ray's death, I will probably never be home for Christmas but with one of my kids and lucky to be so.  For me home is where the heart is and really since Ray died my heart is not really at home anywhere now.

Comment by elaine on November 12, 2017 at 1:29pm

Faolan and Barbee, thanks for your good wishes.  My surgeon is actually a "she", who looks very young, but then everyone seems to these days.  Barbee, have a good trip, it will be nice to get away from all the rain we are having.

Comment by barbee on November 11, 2017 at 6:13pm

Faolan -- nice to hear your days are getting easier. I live with chronic pain and "feel your pain" too!

Elaine -- please keep us in the loop on your surgery. Hoping it will be easier than the anticipation.

LJ -- Thomas Moore's books are on my must read list, but will wait until Spring to start them.

My guy and I are leaving in a week and have no set date to be back. Taking my laptop so I can catch up whenever we find a place with internet. That's not always easy out in the desert.

Comment by Faolan on November 11, 2017 at 2:10am
Well, it's settled down to "good" days without pain, and "not so good" when it twinges, but nowhere near the agony it was.
Elaine, I wish you well for your surgery, and your surgeon sounds very nice. I'm sure he is extremely competent.
Comment by elaine on November 10, 2017 at 5:29pm

Hi everyone, Faolan, I hope you will feel better soon and can get out, it does make such a difference.  I finally have a date for surgery, Dec. 5th (hopefully, I won't get bumped due to an emergency which I have been told could happen).  Naturally apprehensive, but I have a skilled and compassionate surgeon.  Hope everyone is doing okay, not too many "posts" these days. 

Comment by Faolan on November 5, 2017 at 2:44am
LJ, thank you for your kind words, it's not just the relentless pain, it's the frustration of not being able to do much or go out.
Comment by laurajay on November 4, 2017 at 8:09pm

Faolan...the chronic  pain of sciatica is  no picnic...hope it settles  down for you soon.  Pain that comes and goes is easier to handle  but chronic   pain  is relentless and   exhausting.  Feel better!


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