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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by Widow2015 Apr 7. 6 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by Bonnie on February 8, 2018 at 5:59am

Good morning all.  It’s been awhile since I was here but Laurajay’s message below really moved me and I appreciated her thoughts as I have so many of hers.  I have also been thinking of hte aging process a lot lately.  I am moving rapidly toward my 81st birthday and find that rather amazing and even puzzling as I can’t really wrap my mind around the fact that I am really that old.  I know that I am very fortunate in that I have only minor health problems when I see so many other my age with really serious ones.  I also am constantly saying final good-byes to so many friends—three now just since the new year and two close friends with brain tumors who are entereing the final stages.  I am trying to take Laurajay’s words to heart and to keep doing as much as possible.  I find that I do spend too many days just sitting home and reading all day long—I did it again yesterday.  I am deciding today that I will NOT be that old person Laurajay described:  crabby, opinionated, bossy and smelly although I can’t do much about the wrinkles.  Thanks Laurajay for leading me to face up to the realities that there is a purpose in keeping on.

Comment by laurajay on February 7, 2018 at 6:17pm

EarthSpirit.   This is another place  to post your comments for the born in the 40's group.  Welcome.

Comment by Okbobbo on January 20, 2018 at 6:27am

Congratulations, Laurajay, for keeping alive for fifty years a marriage made in Heaven and that you shared with us mere mortals. Thank you for the inspirations that I have enjoyed for the past three years, that have encouraged many of us who each day are extending the days of our marriage even as our circumstances have changed. May none of us ever lose those precious memories we each made with our beloved. Blessings and Peace.

Comment by Jim on January 20, 2018 at 4:07am

Thanks for the  yellow roses story, Laurajay!  Appreciate that very much.  We always went "out to eat" at a fine dining restaurant on our Anniversaries (never thought of it as a "tradition."), but I am so sorry when that day rolls around the calendar.  There are always happy memories associated with that day as it is also the birthday of our younger son,  he is my constant reminder of the love she had for us..  Married 58 years was not long enough.   I lapsed into my memory channels often thinking of Mabel and crying.  She was a godsend in my life.  I never imagined I would miss her so much...

Comment by laurajay on January 19, 2018 at 6:58pm

My 50th  Wedding Anniversary  comes to a close.   About  25 or 30 yrs  ago  I told my husband  that the yellow roses he brought me each for every year we had been married... were  beautiful  but costly  so I suggested  he save money  each year  so when our 50th  came he'd  have  the money for 50    yellow  roses.  It  was an understanding  for years that this would happen...but  he died  after  we  reached  44yrs.

Today  my darling daughter,  the apple  of her father's  eye , came by and presented me with....yes...50  beautiful  long stemmed  yellow roses  thereby  surprising me  and  honoring her father by keeping his promise to me. It was  thoughtful  and a true sacrifice on her part.    I am blessed.  Love is eternal.  I also heard  from dear  friend  not  widowed and among  other things he told  me sharing  stories  about  loving  my husband  were inspirational  for him...I never  imagined.   Life  is trying  all the time  to surprise  us and draw us back to awareness of all things  good.    I need to remember this...   I miss him more  than ever tonight-memories  are  not  enough...but  I have gratitude  for what is...and  will count  all  as   good...       lj

Comment by only1sue on January 12, 2018 at 12:49pm

Welcome back Jan. This widowed life is hard for all of us, five years for me. Life changes and a lot is lost but somehow we cope. I already had a lot of widowed friends from church and other organisations I belonged to so plenty of people who understand my situation. I hope you can find some like minded people who will support you too. And the support on this site is a great help I find.

Comment by Jan on January 12, 2018 at 9:01am

I got on this site back in 2016 and now am just trying to return.  Had a little trouble navigating the site and just didn't have my wits about me I guess.  My husband died in 2015, and I'm still struggling with his loss.  We were married 47 years, only marriage for me.  Loneliness is a big issue I'm finding out.  Would love to meet other widowed people, as they are the ones who seem to understand this life. 

Comment by elaine on January 9, 2018 at 8:59am

Welcome back, Jim, good to have you on board again and to know you are okay.

Comment by Don on January 8, 2018 at 10:50am

Thank you LauraJay

Comment by Jim on January 8, 2018 at 5:12am

Hi Folks.  I am back.  Thanks, Don.  For your valuable contributions.  After all these years your 15 point article was helpful to me.  I am OK.  Have slowly adjusted to life in a Retirement Community here in Ft. Collins.  I still see a Grief Therapist about once a month.  She has been helpful.  What I like about her is that she remembers everything I've said, and she says she knows Mabel through my eyes and I believe her.  I tell her a lot about my deceased wife.  There is a lot to say after being married 58 years.  


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