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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Members: 227
Latest Activity: Jun 17

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Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by Widow2015 Apr 7. 6 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by Cee on February 13, 2018 at 4:44am

Good morning good peoples :)  Haven't been in here lately and find I miss all of you. Helps to keep me grounded when I am feeling useless and with no interest in the future. I turned 75 this week and never thought I would reach that number, some days I don't feel that old but other days I feel way past that and reaching the end.

I saw someone on here with a torn rotator cuff - so sorry for you I hope it is healing.  after having pain for a while in my right arm I finally went to the Dr.  I have tendonitis of the rotator cuff - I was afraid it would be worse. A shot and exercise is helping but still feel limited in what I can do.

I applaud those of you that can do the exercise classes. I tried but haven't found one that fits my level. So I try to keep with the house work.  I'm thinking that those that have moved into apartments have the right idea. No snow to shovel and repairs to make. I'm just not sure where I want to live.

Have a good day and think of happy moments to come.


Comment by Bobbysgirl on February 13, 2018 at 4:27am

Faolan, I take 3 classes of gentle (chair) yoga a week. I have been doing it for several years and find it very beneficial. I have a torn rotator cuff and a tear in my ACL, and I have not had surgery for either. I feel well and do not take any pain medications. There are a few movements that are difficult for me but I do the best I can. I am 78. I also take a silver sneakers cardio class once a week. I think it is very important to stay physically active.

Comment by Faolan on February 13, 2018 at 2:51am

My Doctor told me No gym, because repetitive exercise is bad for my joints. But, I have just spent an hour doing a bit of gardening, and I walk, albeit with support. Maybe I will reach my nineties!

Comment by Don on February 12, 2018 at 1:44pm

Hi Laura Jay.   I checked our obituary column today.   My name wasn't there,     Thank God it wasn't me that caused the 1 member drop.  from 223  to 222..    I will be 92 in 17 weeks.   I just keep xersizing, in moderation.


Comment by laurajay on February 12, 2018 at 9:41am

I noticed  our count of members  has dropped by one to 222  down from 223   which  it was a very long time...hope it's for good  reasons and not because of a final exit.  Prayers  no matter  what the  reason.  if regular posters  drop  in every so often  it feels better to know they are still with us elderly  folks...coping...thriving  etc.

Comment by EarthSpirit (Carol) on February 8, 2018 at 12:17pm

I am new to this group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months. We would have celebrated our 28th anniversary on November 18, 2017, and although we had each been married before, we were the loves of each other’s lives. We shared many travel adventures, loved good food and cooking together, theater, sharing volunteer work, enjoying family and friends, never at a loss for conversation. It was truly a magical time together.
Like so many of you, I’m sad and lonely and haven’t the first idea how to recreate my life as one half of “Us.” We went everywhere and did everything together, and now I have no one to make more memories with. I have wonderful friends who have lifted and supported me, and continue to do so; I’m so grateful for them. I look forward to being a part of this group, sharing friendship and stories, and being comforted by meeting those who are walking my same path.

Comment by Faolan on February 8, 2018 at 6:40am

It doesn't matter how much we spend on moisturiser, old age is the only thing to do Exactly what it says on the tin!

Comment by Bonnie on February 8, 2018 at 5:59am

Good morning all.  It’s been awhile since I was here but Laurajay’s message below really moved me and I appreciated her thoughts as I have so many of hers.  I have also been thinking of hte aging process a lot lately.  I am moving rapidly toward my 81st birthday and find that rather amazing and even puzzling as I can’t really wrap my mind around the fact that I am really that old.  I know that I am very fortunate in that I have only minor health problems when I see so many other my age with really serious ones.  I also am constantly saying final good-byes to so many friends—three now just since the new year and two close friends with brain tumors who are entereing the final stages.  I am trying to take Laurajay’s words to heart and to keep doing as much as possible.  I find that I do spend too many days just sitting home and reading all day long—I did it again yesterday.  I am deciding today that I will NOT be that old person Laurajay described:  crabby, opinionated, bossy and smelly although I can’t do much about the wrinkles.  Thanks Laurajay for leading me to face up to the realities that there is a purpose in keeping on.

Comment by laurajay on February 7, 2018 at 6:17pm

EarthSpirit.   This is another place  to post your comments for the born in the 40's group.  Welcome.

Comment by Okbobbo on January 20, 2018 at 6:27am

Congratulations, Laurajay, for keeping alive for fifty years a marriage made in Heaven and that you shared with us mere mortals. Thank you for the inspirations that I have enjoyed for the past three years, that have encouraged many of us who each day are extending the days of our marriage even as our circumstances have changed. May none of us ever lose those precious memories we each made with our beloved. Blessings and Peace.


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