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Born in the 40s or Earlier


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First post - Aloha

Started by bellgamin. Last reply by Bonnie Sep 3. 3 Replies

My  first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by DIVA70 Aug 25. 7 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by Faolan on June 26, 2018 at 1:00pm

Sweetlady, the only way to effect a reconciliation with your son and family, is to contact him and ask for discussion. You do not say what his grievance with you is about, and it's none of our business. Something has happened, and you need to find out Why he's like this, so you can sort it out. Please, get support and help, advice from someone you know, this has gone on far too long. It isn't fair on you.

Comment by laurajay on June 26, 2018 at 12:40pm have posted  this  several times  in the past- about  your  problems  with your  son since your husband died18 years ago.  I believe  it must hurt  you  badly.  If  you want  change  or help  we are not qualified to help you here, we  can only  listen.  After  18 years  it  seems  you  have decided to endure  your pain  without  getting help. 

  I hope  for peace  of mind  you will seek  help.  No one should  suffer  so long.

Comment by sweetlady on June 26, 2018 at 11:34am

My,. Hus

band is gone now18. And half yrs still miss him what makes it worse have a son who is religionists married has 5 children treats me not so nice influences the children against me they canoe ledges presents I send them an that is the parents fault my son has issues with me and I haven’t talked to him in years do I write to her daughter in law on Facebook what do I do it’s a heartache I do work and have a dog not enough as I carry this with me doesn’t bother my son

Comment by only1sue on May 19, 2018 at 9:49pm

I'm with you laurajay, recalling the good times sustains me when the blues hit. This weekend at my daughter's there has been a lot of talk with the grandchildren about PA's life and did he do this and that and I am happy to retell some of his stories. He will live on through our shared memories. I think this is another way we can honour our loved one. And it is another act of love.

Comment by Don on May 19, 2018 at 9:49am

Grief is the last act of love

Comment by MartyG (ver. 2.1) on May 12, 2018 at 1:46pm

I suspect that there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you, sweet lady.  I do not know what "religion" the son to whom you refer has BUT, in my neck of the woods, we always remember "Judge NOT least you be judged" MAT 7:1 not to mention "Honor your father and mother" EPH 6:2.  Hard as it might be and lonely as it makes you feel, let your son's misguided opinions slide off you back like water and pray for him.For what it is worth...Happy Mother's Day.  And, again if it is any conciliation, know that this is the first Mother's Day Sharon will miss, although I am certain that she is oblivious to that where she is know.

Comment by sweetlady on May 12, 2018 at 1:11pm

hi all i know it has been awhile for mew here tomorrow is mothers day not recognized by either son surely not my religious son 2who hs 5 children and he has done mean things to me in the past and has condemned me to his children and that hurts what do i do  how do i feel worthy i know the children at school ages 12 to l4 love me  but not my sons and guess whatever it is and its no different than it wS MY  older son will never change when its too late he might  feel some regret  but how do i deal what s wrong with me

Comment by sweetlady on April 6, 2018 at 8:36am

i am not new just haven't been here in a while off this wee k as i work in the school old story with the fact of course that im aloha 18 yrs that my religious son with the five children has no regard for me and im lonely feel nothing i do is right

Comment by Frank on March 30, 2018 at 10:00am

Hi Barb,


Been out of state, and on return, under the weather.

When I got back I had 389 Emails to go through + SPAM's to check.

I'll respond the beginning of next week.



Comment by barbee on March 30, 2018 at 12:17am

Frank, after reading your blog here I sent you an email. Guess I had a lot to say and thought it was too long to post here. That was a couple weeks ago. Did you get the email? Just wondering if it got lost -- or you thought I should go get lost! HAHA


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