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Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by Widow2015 Apr 7. 6 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by only1sue on July 14, 2018 at 2:57am

I am in the middle of winter but still try to do something worthwhile every  day. I also try to go somewhere most days.  I join a mixed group of older people who have coffee together some days, other days I drive to a local beauty spot on the seafront or near the Lake and have some quiet time. I am happy these days just to be alive. The cancer scare changed my perspective on life somewhat. Yes, I am lonely and yes I wish  Ray was with me but I am going to be alone for a long time and just need to be able to fill in my time as best I can. Life is what it is.

Comment by Faolan on July 12, 2018 at 5:06am

Comment by Faolan on July 12, 2018 at 5:06am

Having a pet is good incentive for getting out of bed. My garden has been occupying much of my time recently, and is great therapy. Some days it's ok not to feel positive, we are only human after all. But not too often!.

Comment by Cee on July 12, 2018 at 4:57am

Woke up to a beautiful sunny day. Why do I feel so lonely?  Me, myself and I just had a little talk and the consensus is to grab a positive attitude and do something productive, maybe outside, and remember one good thing that we had done together and then let it go back into the memory bank and make a new "me" memory for the day. (this is not a particularly memorable day - every day was a good day when we were together)

 I wish all of you a "productive" day. HUGS

Comment by laurajay on July 3, 2018 at 11:33pm
  • sweetlady. Have you given thought to contacting  your local National Council of Jewish Women in Long Island? Maybe you could check out  activities  there  that would put you in contact with  other  women who are volunteering, making friends,helping community.  Here's  the link to click on for information. This  is one possibility.      

Comment by sweetlady on July 3, 2018 at 12:56pm

Someone posted they are lonely I work have a do g have a house not on good terms with my married son old heartache story like to know if there are people in Long Island in my age range 70’s believe or not who might wish to be coonnected to me or interested to know me iWork in the middle as a monitor and surprisingly to me the children love me ages 12 to 14 also I am Jewish and a widow as we all are tragically if thins is possible I would be eternally grateful this Elaine be safe tomorrow

Comment by Faolan on July 3, 2018 at 2:17am

Cee,, Runnymede is where the Magna Carta was signed, and it is part of the US constitution, JFK visited Runnymede when he was in England. So I think it would be of interest to you. I hope you do visit, especially at this time of year, Hampton Court Palace is only a short distance from Windsor too, one of my absolute favourite places. That part of London is idyllic in Summer.

Comment by Cee on July 2, 2018 at 3:16pm

Faolan, Interesting how the mind works. I started reading your post about the boat ride and thought what fun wonder where that is :) then when I saw you passed Windsor Castle I realized you were not anywhere near me.  I would still love to take that trip and Earl Gray tea is my favorite. If I ever make it back to England I will have to look into that boat ride -maybe we could meet up.  as I always say "We can Dream"  We went to England on our honeymoon in 1985 and I have wanted to go back ever since. I have ancestors in England and would love to go there on a research trip. The only place I got to visit last time was Scarborough Castle and there is not much of it left.

Comment by Don on July 2, 2018 at 11:55am

Cee: Like you, I feel like going somewhere but going alone is the "pits".  I would enjoy going to Utah  because it has several National Parks and fabulous scenery.   I can drive alone but it is safer to have someone to share driving to prevent getting tired.

My closest relative is granddaughter Jennifer and family, in Roseville, CA.  They come up for bass fishing several times a year.   

Comment by Faolan on July 2, 2018 at 5:47am
My daughter lives in another town, and neither of us drive, but we chat to each other on the phone every day, as do our parrots. She has a male version of mine, so we put our phones on loudspeaker, and they chat to each other in parrotese, sometimes my hen ignores him. As for travel, I like day excursions by coach, especially my last one, a coach to Runnymede, a boat down the Thames to Staines lock, passing Eton, Windsor Castle etc, with a ploughmans lunch on board, then back to Runnymede, and into Savill gardens, one of her majestys gardens, there was a huge gift complex, and I bought a king cup plant for my pond, we then had a cream tea, with homemade scones, and Earl Grey tea, and back home early evening. It doesn't cost a fortune, and there is a special rate for pensioners. Bliss!

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