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Born in the 40s or Earlier


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Started by Judyrose. Last reply by Don Sep 1. 3 Replies

Hi I’m new to the group. I lost my husband May 29,2019 after 48 years of marriage. I keep hoping it will get easier but it’s not some days it’s worse. Some of the things I have read on here have…Continue


Started by Judyrose Aug 30. 0 Replies

Hi I’m new to the group. I lost my husband May 29,2019 after 48 years of marriage. I keep hoping it will get easier but it’s not some days it’s worse. Some of the things I have read on here have…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by norm Jul 16. 12 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Coping with yearning for dead husband

Started by Noelene T. Last reply by SweetMelissa2007 Jul 11. 18 Replies

 I am new to this group and I lost my husband of 26 years on Valentine’s Day this year. He was 85 and I am not 79. I had been married before but he had not. We had a wonderful marriage and he was the…Continue

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Comment by norm on Sunday

Hello sweetlady,

JMHO, but the lack of response seems to be related to your subject matter which appears related more to family dynamics/relationships than any problem resulting from widowhood.  Perhaps you could show a connection?


Comment by sweetlady on Sunday

why hasn’t anyone at all responded to my email

Comment by sweetlady on September 11, 2019 at 1:47pm

 Or9:35 Hi I am a widow soon 20. I have two sons one single and one religious and married with five children. He’s always been thoughtless and bullheaded. More so now he has issues and when he can he use it. If anyone of Jewish nature can relate or anyone please reply. His eldest son is being barmitzvahed. I wrote to his wife if my son can arrange something with Uber as so early I can’t drive to an area which I am unfamiliar. So early in the  Morning 9:35. They are modern orthodox. I am not religious. She write s back they will pick me up Friday  or afternoon after work and before shhabbos to stay over till Saturday night. Firstly I have a dog secondly I can’t sleep in anyone’s house not comfortable and surely not in my sons house where there are restrictions and what makes ur worse bot on good terms with him and his wife not my doing. So I wrote back I will come on Saturday provide my own transportation someone to take me she write s back she doesn’t want me to come on Shabbat and drive me. I’m not religious why do I have to abide by her  rules and my sons rules and be uncom omfortable When it will make me uncomfortable. I go with a heavy heArt as I’m afraid how my s on will  react to me. And scream at me  in front of his religious friends  or may be silent but be cold. Not easy for me I’m really so agitated   They have no compassion for me even to arrange before shabbos Uber.  I just wish to hear someone’s opinion and I’m venting   Hope someone can react to me with a compassionate heart. Thks

Comment by Cee on September 1, 2019 at 9:25am

sue, big hugs, so understand these hard months,  i don't know what the answer is. 

a few times i tried to recognize the day by doing something for someone else or some group.  yesterday was our anniversary but because of this broken shoulder i could do any thing

sue my thoughts are with you. and all of you on these hard days.

Comment by Bonnie on September 1, 2019 at 7:02am

Just sending warm thoughts to you Sue that you get through September and these sad anniversaries.  I have my own times like that spread throughout the year.  I always am a little sad around anniversary dates but better as soon as they are past.  I wonder if there is some kind of comforting or happier ritual we could all do to make sad anniversaries times for happier memories.  I’d sure like to turn around those moments.

Comment by only1sue on September 1, 2019 at 3:18am

September is a hard month for me. Today was Father's Day and I have no father or husband. I did send greetings to my two sons and my son-in- law. The 8th is Ray's birthday, the 19th the anniversary of his death and there are other significant anniversaries in this month too including the death of my good friend Lyn last year. Somehow I seem to get through it each year but I am always glad when October comes.

Comment by only1sue on August 22, 2019 at 4:47am

Cee I am slowly getting better, sleeping less, able to do more. The neurosurgeon's team said it would be at least six weeks to normality and I guess that was right. But thanks to girlfriends etc I am getting out and about so that lifts my spirits. Hope you are better soon. It must be very hard with the use of only one arm.

Comment by Cee on August 21, 2019 at 2:10pm

just checking in with everyone. thanks for the good thoughts on my arm, seems it doesn't want to get better and something moved and i am back to square one. only good thing is it isn't the main arm, but so hard trying to do things with one arm.

sue hope things are continuing to get better with you.

hope everyone else is doing ok.

trip to the dentist today wasn't fun, she even had to cut it short i was so uncomfortable

hugs to all

Comment by barbee on August 5, 2019 at 5:20pm

Cee, so very sorry you got an owie. Hopefully it is not your dominent shoulder. Even so, our arms are made to work together and it is very inconvenient when they don't. Rest and read and recover.

Sue, it is nice to read uplifting words and your remarkable recovery truly is nice to read.

Comment by only1sue on August 4, 2019 at 8:15pm

Oh Cee, a broken shoulder, how unfortunate. I hope you are able to get some help soon. I am managing well because I had so much planning time. Now all the staples are out I can shower and even dressing is not a problem. My girlfriend's want to take me places but I find a couple of hours out is my limit. Hope you have friends willing to lend a helping hand.


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