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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Members: 247
Latest Activity: Feb 14

Discussion Forum

40 years

Started by Carol E. Last reply by ahdhu Feb 12. 15 Replies

I'm new to this group. I lost my wonderful husband suddenly Jan. 23 2019. I can't believe it's been a year and it is still so painful. He was my partner and the person I could trust and count on. …Continue

Married 62 years

Started by phyllis. Last reply by Sleepless In Seattle Jan 8. 37 Replies

I lost my husband Barry who was 87 years old on August 27, 2019.  We were married 62 and a half years. W Although my children try to be understanding, none of them really can fathom how lost I am…Continue

Spreading Ashes in the Ocean from a Cruise Ship

Started by dolly. Last reply by dolly Dec 28, 2019. 11 Replies

Has anyone had a ceremony of spreading ashes from a cruise ship? I am thinking about doing that and wonder if there is anything I should be especially careful to consider. I am looking at Carnival…Continue


Started by Judyrose. Last reply by Cee Dec 25, 2019. 6 Replies

Hi I’m new to the group. I lost my husband May 29,2019 after 48 years of marriage. I keep hoping it will get easier but it’s not some days it’s worse. Some of the things I have read on here have…Continue

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Comment by barbee on February 14, 2020 at 3:08pm

Hey, laurajay! I've been trying to PM you and for some reason it doesn't go through. I miss the chat room so much! Does anyone have any idea if it will return? I'm not willing to go to Facebook.

The reason I want to contact you is to ask when you joined WV. For me, it was 2013. It seems we both have been here for a long time. I noticed there are 247 members of the 40's or earlier group and only a handful appear to still be here. Several have passed on themselves. It's bound to happen with this age group more than the others. Do you know if, or how, people who are now deceased can be taken off the members list or does they just hang around forever? 

Comment by sis on February 14, 2020 at 6:30am

I certainly understand , Sue. My husband and I married on Valentines Day, and I feel the pain you speak of. I have a Valentine/Anniversary card he gave me in a picture frame and read it often, and more often today. It does seem to help because I can visualize the day it was given and feel the warmth of his love go through me. Of course that also brings tears, but it probably always will. God Bless

Comment by laurajay on February 13, 2020 at 4:46am

Sue.  Don't  pout.  It  does  not  become  someone  with  a  positive  nature  like  yours.  It's  just  another  day. Yes, it does  feel  good  to  have  a  little  romance  in  your  life but  I'm  certain  somewhere  Ray  is  seeing  you  and  sending  you  happy Valentine  greetings.  Cheer up  my  widowed  friend!    hugs    lj   

Comment by only1sue on February 13, 2020 at 12:23am

Valentine's Day tomorrow. No-one to say: "I love you" or "Happy Valentine's Day." to. Just get sick of plodding on day by day sometimes. Ray wasn't a romantic but I would say it to him. No-one in my life like that now.

Comment by laurajay on January 19, 2020 at 9:45am

Maggie, Faolan.  Thank  you  for  the  food  for  thought...nibbling  on  new  ideas/words  always  helps  with  gaining  greater  clarity.    lj

Comment by Faolan on January 19, 2020 at 7:48am

It's our minds. They cannot seperate past from present, which is why, when we remember something, it's as if it has just happened, or is happening now. That is why memories, good or bad, can hit us with such force. People say " oh but you will have your happy memories", yet it can be the memories of our happiest times which make us cry the hardest.

Comment by Maggie on January 19, 2020 at 7:42am

For you Laurajay

   "The trickery of time visits me frequently, and I too, can taste and smell the moments long past. Some men far more intelligent than I, have proposed that time is relative; that it exists all at once and we have only divided it into sections for our own ease of organization. Perhaps when the "trickery" happens, we are caught in a time warp for a moment, and we really ARE in that moment again. It is an interesting concept, don't you think?"


Have we talked about the beautiful sadness of old age? The part that remembers life many years ago, remembers people we loved, laughing, who are ghosts now. We walk among ghosts always, happy and sad, that others cannot see or hear.


“What makes old age hard to bear is not the failing of one's faculties, mental and physical, but the burden of one's memories.”~ W. Somerset Maugham

Comment by laurajay on January 19, 2020 at 2:55am

52 Wedding Anniversary today. Bitterly cold and snowy.....Wedding Day was cold but sunny and I am remembering how beautiful everything was about that day. Feeling like royalty-Ever so grateful for a long, blessed is possible to smile through the warm tears that fall...because love is lj

Comment by Cee on January 6, 2020 at 6:48am

Sue I am so sorry for the troubles in your county, my heart aches for the people and the animals. We have seen pictures of people trying to get water to them, but it is such a dangerous situation.  I pray that they can get the fires under control.

 Glad you neighbor and family are safe. sorry for what they lost, how wonderful that the man with the boat was there at the right time.

  We all need to be thankful for what we have  and if we can - try to find a way to help others.

HUGS to all.

Comment by only1sue on January 5, 2020 at 3:34am

I am okay. The most destructive fires are on the south coast. Our next door neighbours Andrew and Jillie were camping down the south coast near a lake and the fire burned down to the camp ground and they lost their car and caravan in the fire. A local man with  a boat picked Andrew and his family up and took them to safety. He and Jillie and their four kids are home safe thank goodness.

At church this morning the horrific bushfires were the topic of conversation and many reported they had family members or more distant relatives in the country who had lost livestock or crops destroyed by fire. Many have also lost homes and businesses. Here on the coast we have only had one small fire which took half a day to get under control but the fires in the mountains and on the western plains fires have been going for weeks with millions of acres affected and small towns without power, internet access, phone coverage, with only limited food su pplies. With many hot and windy days ahead no-one knows when this bushfires emergency will end.


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