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Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove Oct 21. 0 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

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Comment by only1sue on December 6, 2017 at 1:33pm

Several good friends have sent me by email or on Facebook a "Home for Christmas" Youtube clip.  Okay it is funny, sentimental and innocent fun but it does bring the thought that from now on, five years out from Ray's death, I will probably never be home for Christmas but with one of my kids and lucky to be so.  For me home is where the heart is and really since Ray died my heart is not really at home anywhere now.

Comment by elaine on November 12, 2017 at 1:29pm

Faolan and Barbee, thanks for your good wishes.  My surgeon is actually a "she", who looks very young, but then everyone seems to these days.  Barbee, have a good trip, it will be nice to get away from all the rain we are having.

Comment by barbee on November 11, 2017 at 6:13pm

Faolan -- nice to hear your days are getting easier. I live with chronic pain and "feel your pain" too!

Elaine -- please keep us in the loop on your surgery. Hoping it will be easier than the anticipation.

LJ -- Thomas Moore's books are on my must read list, but will wait until Spring to start them.

My guy and I are leaving in a week and have no set date to be back. Taking my laptop so I can catch up whenever we find a place with internet. That's not always easy out in the desert.

Comment by Faolan on November 11, 2017 at 2:10am
Well, it's settled down to "good" days without pain, and "not so good" when it twinges, but nowhere near the agony it was.
Elaine, I wish you well for your surgery, and your surgeon sounds very nice. I'm sure he is extremely competent.
Comment by elaine on November 10, 2017 at 5:29pm

Hi everyone, Faolan, I hope you will feel better soon and can get out, it does make such a difference.  I finally have a date for surgery, Dec. 5th (hopefully, I won't get bumped due to an emergency which I have been told could happen).  Naturally apprehensive, but I have a skilled and compassionate surgeon.  Hope everyone is doing okay, not too many "posts" these days. 

Comment by Faolan on November 5, 2017 at 2:44am
LJ, thank you for your kind words, it's not just the relentless pain, it's the frustration of not being able to do much or go out.
Comment by laurajay on November 4, 2017 at 8:09pm

Faolan...the chronic  pain of sciatica is  no picnic...hope it settles  down for you soon.  Pain that comes and goes is easier to handle  but chronic   pain  is relentless and   exhausting.  Feel better!

Comment by Faolan on November 4, 2017 at 5:27pm
I'm not receptive to the joy of ageing either, 9th week of my worst sciatic flare, my mantra is Bette Davis quote "Old age ain't for sissies"
Comment by laurajay on November 4, 2017 at 4:25pm

Barbee.  Moore's books are part of my forever  LOL  library.  Thoughtful  insight on the soul.  An author you can read and reread...His latest  book  out just this October  I have not read...yet.  I have transitioned  so much in the  past  5 yrs   of widowhood  and have had  huge adjustments  recently  financially  and physically  that I am not receptive to "writings" of anyone with suggestions/answers  to the joy of aging.  My reality  is not in that realm!!!  But  you can not  go wrong  reading what Moore   writes  about the soul.  Enlightening and comforting-  I think  you'll thoroughly   enjoy reading him.  if you read the latest  give a review...but  make  time to read  Care of the Soul too.   lj

Comment by barbee on November 3, 2017 at 6:13pm

Ageless Soul: The Lifelong Journey Toward Meaning and Joy  by Thomas Moore

Aging can be a beautiful thing, says Moore, a former monk and author of 1992’s bestselling spiritual guide Care of the Soul. Moore now asks readers not only to accept aging as the natural and inevitable process that it is, but to embrace it with courage and joy. View it as “a fulfillment of who we are,” he suggests, “not a wearing out.” 

This review was in AARP's newsletter.

Has anyone read it or know anything more about it or his previous book?


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