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Born in the 40s or Earlier


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Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by Widow2015 Apr 7. 6 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by sweetlady on Thursday

Yes it does but still hurts good I work otherwise I couldn’t get out of bed or do anything and have a sweet dog too bless u for taking time for me and being so kind hope we can be friends

Comment by laurajay on August 12, 2018 at 3:10pm

sweetlady...why not think about what  "kind words" you would  offer to someone else  who has  carried  a burden  like yours    alone  for  more  than 18 yrs  and....say  those  kind words to yourself to find relief  from  your heartbreak? I/m guessing  you would tell them to find  someone  who  could offer them help by way of understanding that their  grown child  will likely  never change  and  accepting the truth is necessary  so they can move  forward.....Maybe it's  easier  to pretend  worry  will work  and change  people?  I't won't.  i think your heart  knows  this...

Comment by sweetlady on August 12, 2018 at 11:41am

No she isn’t sending me the address my mistake in writing when I send the children something for their birthday never acknowledged if I had someone on my side it wouldn’t  be so heartbreaking

Comment by Faolan on August 12, 2018 at 11:18am

Sweetlady, your daughter in law is very kind and caring to send you their new address. I have fibromyalgia, and your doctor can prescribe painkillers. But you will need a proper diagnosis, because some things, like Rheumatoid Arthritis are very very similar. Try and stay as active as you can, because inactivity makes the pain worse, and your muscles will atrophy.

Comment by sweetlady on August 12, 2018 at 11:09am

I am 18 and half yrs without my husband and it’s still hard I work have a dog ride bike keep busy only problems are sometimes I’m in a lot of pain I don’t know if it’s due to my back pain down both arms and legs or if it’s fibromyalia and really no cure for that and maybe stress brought it on I’m a worrier and I do get worried up and second problem is my religious wh o doesn’t care and talks against me to the children makes it very difficult for me as he has five children he is moving to a bigger house not far from where he lives hope not him but his dear wife sents me the address but I will say this I do have heartache but that doesn’t mean I’m unsympathetic to others I will always listen and if I can offer a kind word it’s there 

Comment by MFARM on July 27, 2018 at 2:39pm

Don, if I remember you live near Redding. How are you fairing with all the  fire?

Comment by only1sue on July 14, 2018 at 2:57am

I am in the middle of winter but still try to do something worthwhile every  day. I also try to go somewhere most days.  I join a mixed group of older people who have coffee together some days, other days I drive to a local beauty spot on the seafront or near the Lake and have some quiet time. I am happy these days just to be alive. The cancer scare changed my perspective on life somewhat. Yes, I am lonely and yes I wish  Ray was with me but I am going to be alone for a long time and just need to be able to fill in my time as best I can. Life is what it is.

Comment by Faolan on July 12, 2018 at 5:06am

Comment by Faolan on July 12, 2018 at 5:06am

Having a pet is good incentive for getting out of bed. My garden has been occupying much of my time recently, and is great therapy. Some days it's ok not to feel positive, we are only human after all. But not too often!.

Comment by Cee on July 12, 2018 at 4:57am

Woke up to a beautiful sunny day. Why do I feel so lonely?  Me, myself and I just had a little talk and the consensus is to grab a positive attitude and do something productive, maybe outside, and remember one good thing that we had done together and then let it go back into the memory bank and make a new "me" memory for the day. (this is not a particularly memorable day - every day was a good day when we were together)

 I wish all of you a "productive" day. HUGS


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