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Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 8. 3 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by InsideLove Jan 12. 2 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

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Comment by Bobbysgirl on February 13, 2018 at 5:31am

Housework is very good exercise. I have a large house and do all my own housework. I no longer do any yard work. I live in Florida and it is hot most of the year. Now and then I do think about selling my house and moving to an apartment. Bob and I built this house 25 years ago and it has a lot of happy memories for me. The city I live in is not a retirement community. Most of my neighbors are in their forties, are very friendly and helpful. I seldom ask for help but it is nice to know people care. If I left this city I know I would miss it. 

Comment by Faolan on February 13, 2018 at 5:05am

Housework is good exercise, and Tai Chi, which a doctor recommended. I live in a ground floor flat (appt if you're American) , but the little front garden is under my care, and I put salt down now, I can't do snow shovelling, my late husband did that. I find, if I don't keep moving, I tend to "seize up" and it makes things a lot worse.

Comment by Cee on February 13, 2018 at 4:44am

Good morning good peoples :)  Haven't been in here lately and find I miss all of you. Helps to keep me grounded when I am feeling useless and with no interest in the future. I turned 75 this week and never thought I would reach that number, some days I don't feel that old but other days I feel way past that and reaching the end.

I saw someone on here with a torn rotator cuff - so sorry for you I hope it is healing.  after having pain for a while in my right arm I finally went to the Dr.  I have tendonitis of the rotator cuff - I was afraid it would be worse. A shot and exercise is helping but still feel limited in what I can do.

I applaud those of you that can do the exercise classes. I tried but haven't found one that fits my level. So I try to keep with the house work.  I'm thinking that those that have moved into apartments have the right idea. No snow to shovel and repairs to make. I'm just not sure where I want to live.

Have a good day and think of happy moments to come.


Comment by Bobbysgirl on February 13, 2018 at 4:27am

Faolan, I take 3 classes of gentle (chair) yoga a week. I have been doing it for several years and find it very beneficial. I have a torn rotator cuff and a tear in my ACL, and I have not had surgery for either. I feel well and do not take any pain medications. There are a few movements that are difficult for me but I do the best I can. I am 78. I also take a silver sneakers cardio class once a week. I think it is very important to stay physically active.

Comment by Faolan on February 13, 2018 at 2:51am

My Doctor told me No gym, because repetitive exercise is bad for my joints. But, I have just spent an hour doing a bit of gardening, and I walk, albeit with support. Maybe I will reach my nineties!

Comment by Don on February 12, 2018 at 1:44pm

Hi Laura Jay.   I checked our obituary column today.   My name wasn't there,     Thank God it wasn't me that caused the 1 member drop.  from 223  to 222..    I will be 92 in 17 weeks.   I just keep xersizing, in moderation.


Comment by laurajay on February 12, 2018 at 9:41am

I noticed  our count of members  has dropped by one to 222  down from 223   which  it was a very long time...hope it's for good  reasons and not because of a final exit.  Prayers  no matter  what the  reason.  if regular posters  drop  in every so often  it feels better to know they are still with us elderly  folks...coping...thriving  etc.

Comment by EarthSpirit (Carol) on February 8, 2018 at 12:17pm

I am new to this group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months. We would have celebrated our 28th anniversary on November 18, 2017, and although we had each been married before, we were the loves of each other’s lives. We shared many travel adventures, loved good food and cooking together, theater, sharing volunteer work, enjoying family and friends, never at a loss for conversation. It was truly a magical time together.
Like so many of you, I’m sad and lonely and haven’t the first idea how to recreate my life as one half of “Us.” We went everywhere and did everything together, and now I have no one to make more memories with. I have wonderful friends who have lifted and supported me, and continue to do so; I’m so grateful for them. I look forward to being a part of this group, sharing friendship and stories, and being comforted by meeting those who are walking my same path.

Comment by laurajay on February 8, 2018 at 12:08pm

EarthSpirit.  You can copy your post and bring it here  if  you like.  more  older folks  might  read it.  Faolan-  there  are the costly  surgeries for those  wrinkles  lol  but  foolish  as the body is  still gonna age on the inside-better time spent putting your ducks in a row.

Bonnie.  I'm happy my shared  thoughts   help you.  I need to tell you it's  a self-pep talk for me as well.     The little girl in me who was so full of life  and  joy  and felt  so loved from  as far back as   she can remember  still surfaces  looking  for  an  all encompassing  hug  and a kiss  and a  word  of encouragement .  Finding none  she puts her head  in her hands  and  cries.  I try  to comfort  her.  But life is  so changed. Aging  brings limits  that are too real  and a future  with days lessening   continuously.  All   around us  folks we love/know  etc are dying.  I am home most of time  tending  to things  so I can avoid  being  put away  or having to go into  some old age  home.  I will  strive  for  my independency  and privacy  and  freedom  for as long as  God gives and shows  me the way.  You do it too,  OK?  We are not here  by mistake and even if love  does  not  inspire  and validate  us like  it use to...there  is worth  and  there  is hope. There us a call---to  love.   Sole  purpose to life until we are  called  home.         In this present  moment  I am wishing you  joy and  a happy  81st  when it arrives!          lj

Comment by Faolan on February 8, 2018 at 6:40am

It doesn't matter how much we spend on moisturiser, old age is the only thing to do Exactly what it says on the tin!


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