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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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First post - Aloha

Started by bellgamin. Last reply by Cee Sep 26. 4 Replies

My  first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by DIVA70 Aug 25. 7 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by Okbobbo on August 27, 2018 at 7:25am

LJ...That is a beautiful, loving tribute... of Love... on my Laura’s 78th birthday! They are missed! Peace.

Comment by laurajay on August 26, 2018 at 9:36pm

Today  is the anniversary of my father's death.  It's been many years  but my  memories  of him remain  fresh  and   abundant. I was  a blessed  child  to have  a father who  loved  and  listened and set a good  example  of the kind of daddy  every  girl wants  and needs. He had talents  and  abilities that  were admirable.  When I met my husband  and  fell in father  was  the  first one I talked to about  it because  he  listened  without  judgement  or preaching.  My  father  and my husband became  fast  friends  and  between  the  two of them  I learned  what  it meant  to be nurtured.  Two  wonderful  men in my  life....taught  me everything I needed  to know about  loving - Maybe  that's  why my love  for them  endures  year  after year   and  why I miss  them both.  Every  day  I am filled  with  gratitude.  I only  hope  they felt when I loved  them in return and heard  my  words  of  gratefulness when I thanked  them.   I loved  my mother  but  ever  will be daddy's girl.  My  daughter  follows  suit. I understand.   Love  is everything.  Then, now and  forever.  Love  you,  daddy.

Comment by only1sue on August 22, 2018 at 3:14pm

Barbee, though life changes as long as we can change with it all is okay. I turned 70 and my world changed with the melanoma diagnosis and the operations that followed. My philosophy is always " one day at a time" and I do what I can each day. Some days I want to go back to what I could do before the operations but there is no way back to there now. I know you are open to changing, whether good or bad so know you will do your best to get answers and then adapt in whatever way you have to. I believe anything is possible but a lot of things I want are no longer probable for me. Hope there are some positive outcomes for you.

Comment by laurajay on August 22, 2018 at 1:57am

.barbee.  no  problem   when you said  doctors didn't  seem to know what it is-  I got to thinking  maybe  you were in limbo  kinda  working  things out  a bit on your own.   Agree  not to mix meds on your own----Hope they  come up with  a diagnosis  so you can  begin  a plan of  action.  Not knowing  things is  not  pleasant . .  Some of  the stuff  we  here  all face  at  70+  is not  about  grief  but  realistically about  the changes that  are  part of aging and  come  to us uninvited.  Be well.       lj .

Comment by barbee on August 21, 2018 at 6:55pm

LJ-- thanks for caring and for suggesting, but my condition is complicated. I intend to let the neurologists (several) figure it out without my mucking things up. Not a good idea to mix medications. Again, I appreciate your trying to help.

Comment by Don on August 21, 2018 at 11:19am

If you are tired of violence, shootings and car chases in the movies, I can recommend

seeing CHRISTOPHER ROBIN.    It is as much, or more , for adults, than for children, but they might enjoy it, too.  

Comment by laurajay on August 20, 2018 at 10:21pm

barbee- one more  place to look into  possibilities.  I have used #1,4  and 5. You might want  to research....

Comment by laurajay on August 20, 2018 at 10:11pm

barbee- not  medical  advice  nor  promotional  sales  honest...but thought you might  like  to find out about and give a try  to this  product.  Not  used it myself  but  heard some who do/did  found thinking/brain   seems to have improved/cleared/focused.   Link                                  

Comment by Don on August 18, 2018 at 9:58am

Perhaps studying Dorothy Parker's  Quotes will refresh your minds.   she has some LU-LUs

Comment by Cee on August 18, 2018 at 7:08am

Barbie, I hope they can find what is wrong - and fix it. It must be scary to have trouble things that you once enjoyed. Great that you have family around that you enjoy and can do things with,  I am here on my own and it gets so lonely at times.  I have "activity" friends but no one really close to confide in or to help to go to medical appointments etc.

  I also enjoy reading and usually have two books going at the same time.  I also volunteer at a genealogy library and go to a senior center that has had some nice activities. - and interesting people.

 Keep going and doing - 80 is only a number. enjoy the lattee - for me it is tea, and plan your next activity.

    HUGS to all


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