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Coping with yearning for dead husband

Started by Noelene T. Last reply by Sun Flower 18 hours ago. 11 Replies

 I am new to this group and I lost my husband of 26 years on Valentine’s Day this year. He was 85 and I am not 79. I had been married before but he had not. We had a wonderful marriage and he was the…Continue

First post - Aloha

Started by bellgamin. Last reply by Sun Flower on Saturday. 6 Replies

My  first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by Bonnie Nov 29. 9 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Noelene T Nov 27. 7 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

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Comment by Put4143 on July 30, 2011 at 4:55pm
For mcduff Google OLLI at Umass Boston It's fantastic Already signed up form their 4 week course on hobbies Nana p
Comment by Macduff (Hal) on July 30, 2011 at 9:08am

Georgenna, 50 years to my aprox 42, a lifetime of togetherness for each of us. I actually have a lunch date today, a nurse 7 years younger than me... online - say we are both negotiators and explorers... should be "interesting"... I wonder if we'll each sense a yes or no almost instantly. 

Who knows, the odds are always against on any given online generated date finding you the special someone. 


I miss Betty so much but I have no particular interests, no kids, no job, one close friend who lives here and another visiting for two weeks... but empty days stretch out one just like another and they all end the same and every morning I wake up amazed I even want to get out of bed.  But I have to because of the dogs.

I yearn for Betty but I am so lonely too. 

Comment by georgenna on July 30, 2011 at 4:40am

Hi Masduff,

I lost my husband almost a year and a half ago.We were married for 48 years and engaged for two.  I can relate to what you are saying. At this point of my life, I want a relationship that begins with friendship. A friendship that can grow and blossom. Maybe times have changed too much, but I hope such a thing exists now. Hope you have a good day and maybe we can talk sometime. bye bye  

Comment by leslie b on July 27, 2011 at 5:17pm
Good for you, Put4143. Have a wonderful time here in Canada.
Comment by Put4143 on July 27, 2011 at 5:02pm
Thanks Leslie for the encouragement I've just bought my ticket to Canada two days after closing to be with my children and grand, read and think of my next step
Comment by leslie b on July 26, 2011 at 7:18pm
I moved 15 months after my husband's death. I have the best of both worlds,however. My daughter and her husband bought my home and I live around the corner in a condo. I see my three grandsons almost every day and they keep me on my toes.The house was too much for me with a big backyard pool to look after and I just couldn't do it anymore. Now my grandsons swim in the pool every day in the summer and go to the same school that their mom and her brothers attended. I am very lucky. I do feel that once you move, Put143, you will feel a great weight lifted off your shoulders. It is the beginning of a new chapter in your life. It isn't one you have chosen but it is one you must step into. You will do just fine, I know it.
Comment by Susan B on July 26, 2011 at 6:34pm
Owlbert--no Falcon run, but my eldest brother arrived from Arizona to pick up Keith's riding lawn mower. He is taking it to his large property to be able to handle all the mowing that must be done every week. It took we two about three hours to figure out how to load it in the high 4x4 pickup, even though Keith (Mr Tool) had nice steel ramps. We ended up taking off the tailgate, then extending the ramps with 2x12's we had. He drove it right up and  got it tied down for his 12 hour trip home. Monday I worked after he left for home, had  a great heart-to-heart with a customer's bookkeeper, (she gave me high praise for 'doing so well') and had a lovely dinner at a friend's cafe. All in all, emotionally exhausting, but in a good way. I realized that I spent so much time reliving good memories, that once you get out of the dense fog, a daily "meditation" or whatever you'd like to call it, on not what you don't have, but on what you DO have, is  away to lever your way past the perpetual sadness. You did it by sailing. well done!
Comment by Put4143 on July 26, 2011 at 6:05pm
Thanks itaintme for the encouragement
Comment by itaintme on July 26, 2011 at 4:47pm

Put4143, I moved 8 months after my husband's accident. I couldn't stay because it was too much property for me on my own (almost 6 acres), but also it was "our" dream home and not "my" dream home. The last days in our KY home were very hard, but the move has been good overall. I'm near my daughter and her children and not far from my son. (The stepchildren & grandchildren are in England.) When I go home to KY I'm somewhat amazed at how easy it is for me to drive by the old homestead. I just remember all the wonderful times we had there and wish the new people as many years of happiness there as we had. Visiting with your family is a great idea for the transition period. I hope your move is as positive as mine has been.


Comment by Put4143 on July 26, 2011 at 3:53pm
well I am almost finished packing up the old homestead A real wrench emotionally But by the 15th of August a nice couple with 4 children will call my home their home Its one of the hardest things I have done..I wonder if any one of you have moved recently?? Ill be homeless for six weeks and have just booked a flight to Canada to visit with my family at Hawk Lake Lodge. It will be a great comfort Nana P

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