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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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First post - Aloha

Started by bellgamin. Last reply by Cee Sep 26. 4 Replies

My  first post. Aloha from Hawaii. I was born in 1930 when (as they say) dinosaurs roamed the streets of Honolulu.My wife, Imiko, & I had been married for 56 years when she died of cancer. She…Continue

Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by DIVA70 Aug 25. 7 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by catmanor on July 17, 2011 at 6:02pm
Tough, tough day...our anniversary. The first since Dennis died on 1/1/11. I made it through and am going to take the cats and go to bed early.
Comment by Lee on July 17, 2011 at 5:37pm
jacuser my heart goes out to you.  ((((Hugs))))  I hope we will be a group you can turn to.  Remember no matter how your feeling you can come to us and WE GET IT.  Stop by the chat area sometime and talk to real people in real time.  It sure has helped me to talk directly with someone and get an immediate answer.
Comment by Lee on July 17, 2011 at 2:47pm

I should formulate all my thoughts at one time instead of having all these little posts but right now my thought process is not what it used to be.

Daisey will get one of her tennis balls (she has 6 or 8 around the house) and go to the door.  That means she wants to go play ball.  I then have to go outside, even though I don't want to, and get some fresh air.

She is smart as a whip,  I will throw the ball and she chases it and brings it back to me and lays it at my feel.  If I throw it up in the air 90% of the time she can catch it before it hits the ground.

Comment by Lee on July 17, 2011 at 2:40pm

I also have a Alpha Female in the house.  Her name is Daisey and right now she is my best friend.  I sit with my laptop in my lap on the recliner with my feet up and she skoots in beside the arm of the chair and me.  Lays her snout on the corner of the laptop, just far enough out of the way that it does not affect my typing.


Comment by Lee on July 17, 2011 at 2:35pm

Runner Girl I will be at Camp Widow.  I am driving down from Washington State.

I will be there Thursday morning.

Comment by Macduff (Hal) on July 17, 2011 at 3:05am

Mac (on left) and Duff not long after Betty died, on the love seat she used to curl up on to read.


Comment by Runnergirl on July 17, 2011 at 2:59am
I'm learning a lot about dogs. They certainly are more sensitive that I ever thought. Thanks for sharing that.
Comment by Macduff (Hal) on July 17, 2011 at 2:58am

For the longest time, well over a year, one of the two dogs that always slept with us would touch me on the arm with his warm soft paw in the middle of the night or early morning and rouse me to being half awake, and for an instant I would think it was Betty.


She loved them so much that it was as if she was touching me through them. It was also perhaps that they needed to touch me to. For an entire year almost to the date neither of them would sleep on her side of the bed.

Comment by Runnergirl on July 17, 2011 at 2:38am

learning to live alone, much less like it is tough. My son, bless his soul,  gave me dog for my birthday to keep me company. I had just finished watching his for several months. I am not a animal person but had kind of bonded to his dog, who was 5 years old and very mellow. Well now I have a 8 month boxer who is very frisky and not house trained. The previous owner said his was trained. I do have a crate for her. Although this is an adjustment it does keep be occupied. She is a comfort at night as she sleeps on my bed.


I love this blog--It's like having a bunch of new friends. Is anyone going to Camp Widow? 

Comment by grandmafi on July 17, 2011 at 2:33am
Morning from a wet and damp corner of England..... its forest land here so no-one is complaining about the rain ...... the wonderful lush green of the forest needs even more rain so ... bring it on !!!... I have been catching up with some of your Posts...... is`nt cyber wonderful , brining us together to share and support each other ..... be companions on this journey that we have been tasked by the good Lord...for whatever reason , to be on ..... Mc Duff... I was so relating to your shopping experience yesterday ... I too did that for a very long time ...only recently cleared out closets and took "stuff" to the charity shop that still had the labels on .... still brand new.....I used to jump on whatever train was coming along  and wander round the shops being envious of couples strolling together and feeling very lonley indeed .. that can still happen from tme to time but now I go to the beach ( borrow my daughters dog )or I wander in the forest which I am fotrunate enough to live near too  and dont mind the lack of company .... in fact I like the wind in the trees and the lush foliage and the tranquility Owlbert... I take lots of pictures...... have to confess tho my comfort also lies in the wonderful cake shops and garden centre cafes that surround me ... my family have started to call me the "cake lady "... I take pics of all those too .......and I am happy to hear , Owlbert, that you have settled into a life-style that suits your needs, that is  such a blessing ..... I too tell peple that " I have a nice wee life, thank you very much "..... But..... ( one of those BUTs that you spoke about Owlbert)....... it dosent include the man that was the wind beneath my wings  and that still hurts..... I find Saturday and Friday evenings lonely too ....... hard for  a single woman to find an acceptable pastime then ... my friends  almost all still have their husbands so are spending time with them we all did ..... so ... this is something that I need to find a plan for ..... I do try to plan for those anniversary dates so that I am not on my own .... BUT .... it always comes back to coming home to the empty house. Like others on here.... my house did`nt feel like a home for a VERY long time .... I am getting there tho ... tried to sell it and failed owing to market conditionds ( or maybe I am just meant to be here ) ....... I have recently decided to "reclaim " it and have re-decorated completely one bedroom , hall stair and Landings ... have bought a new kitchen which will be installed in two weeks time and after that I will keep going til I have "Fiona-ised" it !!!!!!.. I could`nt even have ever believed that I would  have been in a psychological "place" to be able to even contemplate such things ..or have the energy to even think about tackling it ... I am rubbish at Mr Fix-It stuff... so I need to pay for most of it to be done ...... so ... what am I saying here...... yes , it is the worst trauma  ever and yes it seems , for a long time that we wont even survive and yes... it really really does get more manageable BUT yes... the pain is always ready to jump up and bite us on the bahookie when we least expect it ... we owe it to our loved ones and to ourselves to get throught this ... one step at a time ...I think Owlbert gets awarded the "pearls of Wisdom " necklace this week .... so who will win it next week ???, light and blessings  to everyone ... Fiona ( P.S . spending today with my gorgeous wee grandaughters Lauren (9) and Heather (7) ... I can hear  a cake shop calling our names ...x

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