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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by Widow2015 Apr 7. 6 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by itaintme on July 11, 2011 at 7:16pm
Geoff was my second husband and he died just short of our 25th wedding anniversary so I understand where you're coming from. Geoff would have been 80 on this year's birthday. That hit me as a surprise because he's suspended at 77. My significant dates are more strung out than yours, but perhaps it's good to have them close together and get through them, rather than be hit by those emotions several times throughout the year. Anyway, nice to have you in our group.
Comment by leslie b on July 11, 2011 at 4:49pm
So sorry, owlbert. It is a challenge isn't it? But we all know that our loved ones would want us to go on and live our lives. September 12th would have been our 47th wedding anniversary. These special days are the most difficult and you have so many all at once. My wish for you is that you can find some peace in the next few months.
Comment by owlbert on July 11, 2011 at 2:45pm

Maggie, my wife of three weeks short of 48 years died suddenly in August 2009.   Last week we 'celebrated' , with a Birthday cake, what would have been her 70th Birthday.   In six weeks I have the second anniversary of her death, and three weeks after that I shall 'celebrate' what would have been our Golden Wedding on the 9th September.  

Since Maggie died life has been a challenge, sometimes a hard to get through one but somehow I always have, with help and the love and strength shown by my family, friends and neighbours.    The next few weeks will be poignant, and hard, but I view them as another challenge that Maggie would want me to overcome...and that I shall do!     On our Golden Wedding I intend to go out for a picnic .....  thinking time alone.

Comment by leslie b on July 11, 2011 at 4:05am
Hi Runnergirl. I just passed my third anniversary in June. I keep wondering how long these grief waves go on for. I guess it's different for different people. It gets really tough around the anniversary and other special days, doesn't it? Sounds like you are keeping busy though and that's good. I hope you sell your house really quickly and that it is relatively painless for you. I keep saying that I am "getting on" with my life too but every once in a while something seems to be pulling me back in the other direction. Sometimes I shake my head in disbelief. I still can't wrap my head around the idea that I am a widow. It's bizarre since it's been so long now. You'd think I'd be used to my new life by now. Most of the time I am happy and I bet you are too. It is just at these times like you are going through that we get down again. I really hope that once the five years come and go in August that you will feel better and that your new little dog will bring you lots of joy. Also, I want to wish you a belated Happy Birthday. Hope you had a wonderful one and that this will be a good year for you.
Comment by Runnergirl on July 11, 2011 at 3:00am
I haven't joined in lately but 5 years is coming up in August and I'm really reacting to a new wave of grief. I'm getting my house ready to sell. Somehow I think it's symbolic of a change and "getting on" with my life. I still have about 5 of his shirts in my closet and I think it is time to pass them on. Also passing some of his other possessions like his gun cabinet on his to kids. I just wish the pain would go away. For my birthday my son gave me a dog to keep me occupied. The first night sent well and she is on my bed cuddled up to me while I type. I'm so glad for this group and someone who will understand. I love you all!!!!
Comment by Jordan on July 10, 2011 at 6:51pm

Lee, I wanted to say hello to you separately. History buffs are some of my favorite people. The picture that accompanies my posts illustrates the costume I'm aiming for in my Viking group. My persona is a seidr woman, sort of a seer and fortune teller and priestess. Two of the Sagas mention such a person and describe her costume. This painting was done from those descriptions by a local artist. The cats are there because they are the sacred animals of the goddess Freyja. And also because I have Norwegian Forest cats, descended from the cats that sailed with the Vikings.


If you want to see some Norwegian history, you could go to Poulsbo, WA. Around the middle of May they have a Scandinavian Festival to commemorate Norwegian Independence Day on May 17. The year I was lucky enough to go, they had Viking re-enactors set up in a camp on the beach, and I think this is a regular feature of the event.

Comment by itaintme on July 10, 2011 at 6:49pm
Tomrestored, welcome. As we say, we're sorry that you qualify for this group, but we're happy to have you join us. I know just what you mean about finding a group in this age group.
Comment by Jordan on July 10, 2011 at 6:39pm

Thank you, everyone, for the kind words and encouragement. Marcy, I wish I could meet you at Worldcon, but I get altitude sickenss and can't go that high. My friend Pat will be there though, probably giving a panel on forensics, or alien sex, or global warming

 tomrsetored, sorry, but Worldcon is not connected to WV. Worldcon is the World Science Fiction Convention, held in a different city every year. If you ask Google for Worldcon 2011, you can find all the details. If you're interested in such, it can be a lot of fun.

Comment by leslie b on July 10, 2011 at 6:39pm
So glad you found us, tomrestored. This kind of group really helps and I am sure you will find that we all understand your feelings.
Comment by tom restored on July 10, 2011 at 5:16pm
I'm very new to WV and to social media. I lost my wife June 11, 2010, of interstitial lung disease. She and I were married 38 years and I still miss her to some extent everyday. I am glad this group is called 40s and earlier. I almost thought I wasn't going to find a group in my age group.

I saw a post for Worldcon in Reno. I live just outside Reno. Is this related to WV?

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