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Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 8. 3 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by InsideLove Jan 12. 2 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

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Comment by itaintme on March 6, 2011 at 8:42pm
@jansailaway, I agree that widowhood is only part of our life story.
@carolinagirl, how true that none of us wanted to join this club.
The second anniversary of my husband's death is nearing and I'm finding my mood a bit "off" these days. Glad to have a place to voice that where it will truly be understood.
Comment by carolinagirl on March 6, 2011 at 7:18pm
Hang tight, Slim Jim. I could change your post by inserting hubby where you have wife..Same thing..42 years...same age...You will make it. Lots of people at this site are holding your hand. We're all working to try to help mend all of the broken hearts. Didn't want to join this club, but we are all in it together. Keep posting.
Comment by slimjim on March 4, 2011 at 5:08pm
Hello, I was born 1942. Lost my wife of 42 years to PC on 07/11/06. She had just turned 61. She was my reason for living. She was beautiful. We both worked very hard to make sure we would have a great retirement. Now, I wonder around trying not to show how sad I am inside. I'm lost without my wife. My heart is so broken. I wonder how it keeps beating, but it does.
Comment by leslie b on March 4, 2011 at 7:24am
I also just joined and am trying to find my way here. I was born in '46. Been widowed nearly 3 years now. My husband had retired for just 3 days when he had a seizure and then diagnosed with a brain tumour. He lived for 5 months. In some ways I feel really ripped off because we never had a chance to enjoy our retirement. However, everyone has their own story and they are all equally sad, as I have learned. I am trying hard to find my way and mostly succeeding. I hope this group will help.
Comment by itaintme on February 28, 2011 at 5:57pm
Ladies, I just joined here so I'm getting used to all this. Just a note of introduction. I was born in 1944. I did work outside the home and am retired and working part-time. I wish my husband and I had done more bucket list things. I'm working on them now. No mourning black or couch for me. Go for the gusto. We only get one time around.
Comment by carolinagirl on February 9, 2011 at 6:52pm
I was born in 1948. I think women of our generation were raised to take care of everyone we love. From new wife to new stay at home mom to working mom to daughter of aging parents to grandparent...and finally to the caretaker of that man I had been with for 42 widow. I just know that my whole life has been about taking care of someone else. When my honey passed away, I looked in the mirror and said, "Who are you?"  I realized then I didn't know myself at all. I just always did what everyone else wanted. What movie should we check out? Whatever you want. Where should we eat out? Where ever you want to go. What do we watch on TV? Whatever you want to watch. It really hit me the first time I went to the grocery store to buy food just for me and I came home with all the things my honey liked to eat.  I love pickled okra, but I never bought it because he didn't like it.   I bought the bananas that he loved. I don't love bananas. I went right back to the grocery store and shopped again getting everything I like to eat. I changed all the movies on Netflix to the chick flicks that I never got the see. I would still love to have my honey back here with me, but since that is not going to happen, I decided that at 63 it's about time for me to live my life having the things that I want and doing the things that I want to do. I have felt guilty. I have felt selfish. I'm 63 and time in not going to stop moving so if I am going to enjoy life from now until, it's time for me to get to know myself and love myself and take care of myself. I want to ride in a hot air balloon. I want to go to the beach as often as possible. I want to go out dancing and dance and dance and dance. I don't want the world to put me on my couch in my black dress and expect me to live everyday of the rest of my life there. I know now that people really do die. I've seen someone die and I want to live, live, live and soak it all in and enjoy the rest of the ride. I think I hear my honey saying, "YOU GO GIRL!!!"

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