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Born in the 40s or Earlier


Born in the 40s or Earlier

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Joining seven weeks after my wife's death

Started by Neush. Last reply by Widow2015 Apr 7. 6 Replies

We seem to have been blessed.  We had a long (43 years) and happy marriage, jobs that we both enjoyed, two daughters and four grandchildren that live nearby, a home and neighborhood we enjoy.  We…Continue

Unfortunately finding myself here

Started by InsideLove. Last reply by Summergirl Feb 28. 6 Replies

My husband died on Aug 28, unexpectedly..I have a grief counselor- her husband passed away at 47 years of marriage too and so, she traveled this path. I do have a grief group, 4 widows 1 widower.…Continue

Joining the Club that no one wants to belong to...

Started by EarthSpirit (Carol). Last reply by EarthSpirit (Carol) Feb 27. 5 Replies

I am new to Soaring Spirits and this particular group. I find myself here as a result of my beloved husband Ralph’s passing on October 5, 2017. It seems like a lifetime ago, although only 4 months.…Continue

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Comment by Runnergirl on May 2, 2011 at 12:01pm
I found serious relationships great, while they were "working." But when they became unfulfilling, it was very frustrating. I think it is better to be alone than to be in an unfulfilling relationship. The break up is so painful-It's like grieving double, once for your husband and once for your friend. I certainly don't want to discourage you from dating. It has taught me a lot about what kind of person I want to spend my time with. I wouldn't wish death on anyone but I have made some wonderful friends through my grief.
Comment by leslie b on May 2, 2011 at 11:11am
@Runnergirl I am 65 too and was 62 when my husband died. While some people may think that is old I feel young and not ready to be a widow. June is the third anniversary of Rick's death. We were looking forward to our retirement and now I look ahead to loneliness. I keep very busy and am very active but the loneliness never seems to go away. You sound like you have worked very hard to get on with your life. So have I. It is so good to have everyone here that understands how we feel. I find that the more people I get to talk to in the same boat the better. We can all learn from each other. Don't know about a serious relationship. I don't think I'm ready for that or the possible heartache. Glad to meet you, Runnergirl.Sorry it has to be in this situation.
Comment by Runnergirl on May 2, 2011 at 1:28am
All  you comments are right on as it describes how I feel. I'm 65 and in great health. In AUgust I will have been widowed 5 years. In that times I've run two half marathons and two full marathons, one of them in Dublin. I also enrolled in school and will be receiving my masters in counseling next week. But like all of you I have to go home to an empty. I used to cry when driving home. I do leave on lots of lights so at least it is not dark. I've been in two serious relationships which didn't work out, causing me to go through the grieving process again. I just started on-line dating, without much success. I do cherish all my wonderful friends. WIthout them I would be lost. It takes work to redefine my life but it is worth it/ I love this group so let's keep encouraging one another.
Comment by leslie b on April 26, 2011 at 5:24pm

@itaintme  You are right when you say that no matter how busy you are, you still have to come home to an empty house. I really hate that. As I said, I would love to share my life but I too can't imagine dating at this time of my life. I guess you never know what lies ahead though. I try to look on the positive side of things. Sometimes that gets a little difficult but I always pull through. 




Comment by itaintme on April 26, 2011 at 4:47pm
@leslie b -- I so understand what you're saying. I'll be 67 this year, but I, too feel young, am in good health and am very interested in life. I have a very full schedule and I enjoy it that way. It is deliberate on my part. But, at the end of the day, one does come home. I'm involved in some very exciting things and it would be so nice to come home and be able to discuss and share that with someone. I'm with you, it's nice to have friends here who understand that. By the same token, though, I cannot imagine dating at my age. Can you?
Comment by leslie b on April 26, 2011 at 4:04pm
It really does hurt just as much even though you are expecting it, doesn't it? At 65 now, I still feel young and am in good health with a lot of energy and interest in life. It is very hard to go on alone but we have little choice. I see 80 year old couples together and I think "that was supposed to be us." I guess you don't have a choice in the matter and have to make the best of it. I really do long for someone to share things with. This is a wonderful group though. At least everyone understands here.

Comment by Soaring Spirits on April 26, 2011 at 1:47pm

Hi Fran and friends,

Just wanted to pop in and remind you that if you DON'T see a topic you like in the general forums, you can start one! Instructions are the second video on this page. We have found that discussions work best when they're open to all ages, but we all have different concerns and folks will respond to different topics. So, start something!

There ARE topics on dating but if you feel you can't relate to the questions that are up, start one, such as "Dating after age 50 (or whatever)" or "Is online dating safe?" or maybe "Is it possible to find another soul mate at this stage?" -- whatever makes sense to you.

Are you "friending" each other? Finding your way around the site okay? I want to hear about it!

Thanks for your participation here!


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Comment by franmcq on April 26, 2011 at 1:21pm
Wanted to find a group near my age and looks like this is it.  I belong to a widow/widower group elsewhere, but there is no special option for those over 60.  I lost my husband just before Christmas and what would have been his 75th birthday a little over 4 months, ago.  It was after a long illness and not unexpected, but it hurts just as much and a lot more than I could have imagined.
Comment by leslie b on April 24, 2011 at 3:54am
Happy Easter to everyone. Hope this day brings some peace.
Comment by Sheila43 on April 23, 2011 at 10:42am


I have tried online dating services with no results.  Everyone in my age group was looking for women in their 30's and 40's. 

Additionally, I still work which interfers with joining any kind of senior group where I live.  And I have a dog so I'm not as free as some men would like.

I teach in an elementary school where it is almost all women and the men and women are all very young.

I'm considering giving online dating one more shot.  And then, I give up.


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