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Born in the 40s or Earlier


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Started by Judyrose. Last reply by EAZYTZ Jul 10. 9 Replies

Hi I’m new to the group. I lost my husband May 29,2019 after 48 years of marriage. I keep hoping it will get easier but it’s not some days it’s worse. Some of the things I have read on here have…Continue

40 years

Started by Carol E. Last reply by sweetlady May 21. 17 Replies

I'm new to this group. I lost my wonderful husband suddenly Jan. 23 2019. I can't believe it's been a year and it is still so painful. He was my partner and the person I could trust and count on. …Continue

Spreading Ashes in the Ocean from a Cruise Ship

Started by dolly. Last reply by dolly Apr 22. 14 Replies

Has anyone had a ceremony of spreading ashes from a cruise ship? I am thinking about doing that and wonder if there is anything I should be especially careful to consider. I am looking at Carnival…Continue

Married 62 years

Started by phyllis. Last reply by Sleepless In Seattle Jan 8. 37 Replies

I lost my husband Barry who was 87 years old on August 27, 2019.  We were married 62 and a half years. W Although my children try to be understanding, none of them really can fathom how lost I am…Continue

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Comment by Faolan on July 15, 2020 at 1:54am

Sue and Barbee,  I know how you feel. But believe me, you don't want to be as sick as I was. I witnessed 3 deaths on the Covid ward where I was. Make sure you get plenty of Vit D, and rinse your mouth twice a day with mouthwash, The doctor at the physio unit gave us Corsadyl twice  a day and we were All negative within a very short time. He insisted on two negative swab tests before we could be discharged. The main hospital where I caught it in the first place is under investigation.

Comment by barbee on July 14, 2020 at 6:27pm

Sue, I hear you about wanting this isolation to be over. It has been since the end of January for us, since we live near where the first USA case was reported. My heart breaks for those, like you, who live alone and are really alone most of the time. My guy and I have been so grateful for each other, but lately that has changed and we grumble at each other more. There are no meetings or clubs or groups or any kind of socialization to release the tension. Only a trip to the grocery store once every two weeks -- well masked and quickly with an organized list to lessen the time out. I'm thinking there will be no positive change in my lifetime unless others get serious about wearing masks and social distancing and quit yelling about their "rights". I can barely watch the news any more with all the reporting of deaths and riots the economy tanking. It gets harder and harder to smile and remain upbeat. I am glad I am "old" and will not have 80 years ahead of me to figure this out. Take good care of yourself and I'll try to do the same.

Comment by only1sue on July 14, 2020 at 2:53pm

Just fuming here.I am sick of young people seeing the Corona virus as just killing old people so it is their right to go on meeting in large numbers and disregarding the new guidelines so we have new clusters happening again in .Sydney. I guess because I am from a generation that obeys the rules  I think that if everyone did we would be over this by now. Frankly I am not sure how much longer I can stand the isolation, it has gone on for nearly five months now. Most of my friends are like me, just going out once or twice a week, not socialising much, leading a quiet life. I know it could go on for a long time yet and am not sure I can go through months of the same.

Comment by Faolan on July 8, 2020 at 5:22am

CEO, thank you. I had a surprise yesterday when the physio from the rehab unit I was in phoned me!. We always assume once we leave hospital we are forgotten. Anyway, not only was he enquiring as to how I am, he wants to get a visiting physio to come and help me with getting about outside. I have only been " out" once since I came home, and that was for a hospital appointment, I was taken there and brought back in an ambulance. So bring it on!

Comment by Cee on July 8, 2020 at 5:16am

Faolan, I don't come on often so was reading back and am amazed at what you have gone through and how you manage to maintain a positive attitude. We can all follow your example. I complain about my aches and pains until I see what others are going through and then try to see the bright side.

 I send my HUGS a positive thoughts to all of you.

Comment by Faolan on July 4, 2020 at 11:05pm

Thank you. I'm not afraid to ask for help. Although I am a strongly independent person.

Comment by only1sue on July 4, 2020 at 12:56pm

Faolan, you need some kindness at this time. Allow people to help you when they offer. I had three major operations in the past three years and each time kind friends and neighbors helped. Small acts of kindness really matter and later on you can pay it forward. Hope you have a speedy recovery.

Comment by Faolan on July 3, 2020 at 11:36pm

Laura Jay, thank you. I had a dermatology appointment on Weds, the consultant said use petroleum jelly, but my district nurse who came yesterday said No, it will make my feet wet and encourage infection. However, when they are healed I shall take your advice. My little parrot came home yesterday, she is still settling in. Two neighbours tidied my front garden for me, and then brought me a lovely bouquet of flowers. People are really kind.

Comment by laurajay on July 3, 2020 at 10:18am  very  hat's  off to  you!  Maybe  the  lard would  work   on your  feet?  LOL  I  know for my year  long  suffering  with  shingles  I  came  to  find  extra  virgin  coconut  oil  was  sooooooo  kind  to  my  skin/rash,  I  threw  away  all my  other   creams  and  moisturizers  that  were  supposed  to  make  me have  beautiful  skin  and  failed-  but  to this  day  pure  coconut oil it  is  my  go  to- head  to  toe.   Success  in  peeling  to  reveal your  new and  wonderful  alive  layers of  skin.  Once  it's  restored,  consider  moisturizing with  extra virgin  coconut  oil.  I  got  mine  on  Amazon  brand name Viva.    Again  so  happy  you  are  healing!     lj

Comment by Faolan on July 1, 2020 at 8:13am

My step parents fried everything in lard. He lived to 80, she lived  to 91!


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