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Comment by shelley on Monday

Thanks, Lissa.  Googled Kathryn Lodato and she seems like exactly what I need.  The drive time on a regular basis would be hard right now.  But I will contact her and ask if she has a San Francisco recommendation.  Her bio reminds me of a therapist I saw when I was in my 20's, loved her.  

Comment by Nardly on Sunday

Shelly I'm so sorry to hear about your diagnosis. It must be hard to deal with in addition to your loss. Please see someone to open up to, I know it helped me a lot.

Comment by Lissa on Sunday

hi Shelley

I live in Saratoga & went to hospice of the valley for counseling with Kathryn Lodato LMFT

she really helped me 

it has been a while since I saw her & she now has an office in Redwood City

I would suggest it is worth the drive from SF

I also am considering therapy again as I have isolated myself and feel kind of stuck.

Kathryn really understands loss & grief.

I hope this referral helps.


Comment by riet on Sunday

dear Shelley, also a big hug from me.

Comment by Roxi on Sunday

Take care of yourself Shelley and seek all the help you can from friends and best wishes and a big hug ciao Roxi

Comment by shelley on Sunday

Thank you, Melissa.  Yes, I think you're right.  Someone to vent to.  I've completely isolated myself.  A very nice social worker called me, said to call her if I need anything.  Think I'll start with her.  I appreciate this website and everyone on it very much.  

Comment by shelley on Sunday

Thank you, Riskybiz.  I appreciate your support.  

Comment by Melissa on Saturday

Shelley, you need someone to vent to, at least. I would contact your cancer treatment center and ask about a therapist with experience in grief and dealing with cancer. You need all the resources you can get.

If you really connected with your therapist in Santa Cruz, you might find out if they're willing to do telephone sessions. Oddly enough, my therapist moved to Santa Cruz recently, and we just continue our sessions by phone.

Keep in touch with us and take good care of yourself. 

Comment by Riskybiz on January 17, 2020 at 8:50pm


So sorry about the breast cancer, I had it when I was in my thirties.  I am now 68.  They removed my breast (wanted to remove the other, I refused) and now if diagnosed  with the same they would just "watch it".  Get at least two other opinions.

I lost my husband last month, 12/1719.  We were married for 45 years.

Call your local cancer center, they are wealth of information.

Take care of yourself, thinking about you.

Comment by shelley on January 17, 2020 at 8:10pm

Thinking about heading back to therapy.  I continue to miss John a lot.  Cry all the time.  Widow brain thriving. And now dealing with breast cancer-  feeling more apathy than advocacy.  Procrastinating partly because I don't know of any San Francisco therapists, my previous therapist was in Santa Cruz.  I welcome suggestions.  


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