Widowed Village

A community of peers created by the Soaring Spirits Loss Foundation


Born in the 50s

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Welcome to this group's coordinator:  Patience (Diane)

Members: 501
Latest Activity: yesterday

Positive Thoughts Forum Discussion

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Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) yesterday

Dear Les. I'm so sorry for the loss of your John. I'm also very sorry you had to spend your first birthday without him in 26 years. This was my 3rd without my husband in since he died in 2012. We had been married for 37 years. My hubby had a nearly 2 year battle with brain cancer, so I had some "time" to try to prepare myself. Your time with your love was so much shorter. No matter whether the time was short or long, we both lost the people who mattered the most in the world to us. It's a very challenging time of year, as you already know. We understand your just wanting the year to be over. Try to just do what YOU want this year, and do what is comfortable to you each day. The heck with what others expect from you this year. They don't know what you are going thru.
Come chat with us any time. There is always someone around who isn't sleeping.
My deepest sympathy on the loss of your beloved. I believe you will find comfort and encouragement here, sometimes more so than on the "outside" world.

Comment by Patience (Diane) yesterday
Les, welcome to our little 50's group.. I'm so sorry for your loss of your husband, John but glad that you found widowed village. The holidays are not an easy time... Thinking of you...
Comment by pipin yesterday

Oh Les, you poor thing . You would never expect anyone fit and well to go so quickly. Shame on the medical fraternity not to consider his family history as a risk. II just popped in for a few seconds - as it is very late here in UK.  

Take care of yourself.  love from Pip  

Comment by Les yesterday
First post for me. Well today is my birthday and the first one in 26 years without my husband. My best friend and lover, John ,died July 29th this year of lung cancer after a very short (7 month) battle. We found out last New Year's eve he had lung cancer and on January 4th found out it was already stage IV. No symptoms other than a dry non-productive cough since August. They though he had allergies, then acid reflux. We never imagined anything worse. He was so healthy. He had just done his annual scuba diving trip in October. Finally in December the doctor agreed to doing a chest x-ray. I guess we should have thought of it seeing his father died of lung cancer at 59. But, no it never entered my mind.

As everyone here has said the holidays were very special to John and I as well. It was our favorite time of year. The cold, the snow, decorating, being with family and friends, we loved it all.

All I can think of today is we would be cross country skiing if he were here. There would have been a card on my nightstand when I woke up. Instead I wake up alone and sad. I just want this awful year to be over.
Comment by Slick on Saturday

Thank God for giving you peace ......and enjoyment to enjoy this day....HUGS

Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) on Saturday
Dear friends. In spite of my being a curmudgeon yesterday, I had a very nice bday today! My BFF, my daughter and I went to lunch together. Then, when my son got home, his GF came over, and we decorated the tree (finally), watched some old home videos which filled my heart with joy at hearing my husband's voice and seeing his sweet face, and then went to see some fabulous holiday lights. Just a wonderful day. Thanks for your good wishes!
Comment by alwayshopeful (Jocelyn) on Friday

Dear Friends. I knew you would all get it! Thank you so much for your kind thoughts and suggestions. There is NO way that gorgeous, sexy, thoughtful, bright hunk of a man I met and loved since the day I met him at 15 should not be here today. It just doesn't make any sense. He worked very hard and long hours his whole life, but this and Christmas were 2 of the days he took some time with the kids and me to make our days special. I will try to keep those memories forefront today. Getting a lot of love on WV and from my family and friends. Going to do something festive tonight with the kids when they get home from work. Thank God for them! and Thank God for all of you! Wishing you all some peace and joy this holiday season.

Thank you so much for your understanding!!

Comment by Gordy's widow on Friday

jocelyn, have a happy birthday I know your angel in heaven would want you to!

Comment by Gordy's widow on Friday

he was a big ball of mush all year who am I kidding.. 

Comment by Gordy's widow on Friday

Leendah that's how I feel about my Gordy... he was such a big ball of mush this time of year... we'd cry at the coffee comercials, hallmark , and all the Christmas movies... he was my knight in denim.... that came riding in on his steel horse... oh crap going to make myself cry again! LOL 


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