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Comment by LP on Monday

Tekwriter, that’s a great step that you’ve got counseling. I’ve found it truly helpful - a literal lifeline. You are really taking good care of yourself. I’m so pleased to hear that.

best wishes,


Comment by Mary on Sunday


I hope you are able to come to peace with all of this thru counseling.  I can't even imagine what you're going thru.  I know there isn't much we can say to make you feel better, but I do hope you'll keep posting here and know that we are always here to listen.


Comment by Roxi on Sunday

Dear tekwriter i hope you can find some comfort from groups friends family wv ...everywhere you can hugs Roxi

Comment by chef (John) on Sunday

Tekwriter, Do please keep posting here.


Comment by Barzan on December 6, 2019 at 5:46am

Dear Tekwriter,  Thank you for sharing updates with us.  I am glad you have found a local group to give you support and that you are going to counseling.  You are doing the best thing you can for yourself right now.  I can't imagine what it must feel like to lose a child.  Please keep posting here and let us know how you are getting on.  I hope you can find some peace and comfort during this tough time.  Sending you hugs.

Comment by Tekwriter on December 5, 2019 at 1:42pm

Hi everyone. I found a group on facebook ran by compassionate friends. The bad part is most of the parents are in as bad a shape as I am. Some days are so much harder than others. I a sad to to say that this is 100x or more harder that losing his dad was. I don't know how I will get over this other than when I see him at heavens gate. I miss my baby so much. He was there for me for so many things and it is so hard. I start counseling on the 23rd. I hope this guy is up for. I hope all of you have a pleasant a holiday as possible.

Comment by Mary on November 26, 2019 at 3:25pm


I feel the same way about everyone here.  I think we really share each others grief, even though we are all different.  We all, unfortunately, have one thing in common.

You had mentioned before about not being able to listen to music.  I know what you mean.  Today, I had to run to the vet to pick up meds for my dog.  Just as I got there, a song came on the radio that really got to me.  I started to cry.  I had to really quick get myself together so I could go into the vet's office.  Then, as I started back home, the song "only the good die young" came on.  My husband wasn't young, as such, but we sure weren't ready to lose him.  I cried all the way home.  

Comment by Mary on November 26, 2019 at 3:16pm


I'm so sorry you're having some rough days.  I think sometimes that the days we feel we're doing okay are really just days we've pushed things from our mind.  But it always seems to come back full force another day.  I hope your visit with your son and dil is enjoyable.

Comment by Mary on November 26, 2019 at 3:13pm


I'm glad you checked in.  Even though most of us here have not suffered the loss of a child, we do care and are here for you when you feel like posting.  Praying for strength for you in the difficult days ahead.

Comment by chef (John) on November 25, 2019 at 12:48am

@ultra: Melissa is right--You've already made it to London, and Pittsburgh was recently billed as "The Paris of Appalachia", so I'd say, "Go for it! :-) Pittsburgh is actually a nice city, and about a two-hour drive from Cleveland. We used to drive there, and I still take the trip myself from time to time. You will feel better when you see your son and daughter-in-law again.

@riet and LP: I hear you with the lack of interest/concentration. I still have these bouts from time to time myself. Please keep posting so that you can get the negative thoughts you're having out. I also agree with both Bergen and Susan's advice.

I shall be driving 400 miles from Cleveland to Philadelphia for Thanksgiving, because I couldn't book a cheap flight after my sister announced she would be hosting things this year. At least the weather isn't supposed to be too bad for the rest of the week.

Hugs to everyone as we deal with this time of year. For the record, I hate the time between Thanksgiving and Valentines Day.


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