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Comment by irishlady on Sunday

Maybe we should all carry  lists with what we need help with and when someone asks if you need anything call me or let me know, hand them the list and say pick one then cross it off. LOL But wouldn't work as most would say,I'll get to it as soon as possible which is about the same as let's do lunch sometime.

Comment by Sissy on Sunday


   That would be better... They would speaking in PRESENT TIME... Not the future.


Comment by irishlady on Sunday

People should rephrase it to..OK, what can I do for you now? Might that help?

Comment by Sissy on Sunday

To SusanElizabeth,

     I despise the phrase....  " Call Me If You Need Anything " OR " Call Me If You Need Me ".  You know they are just TRYING to be nice when they say it... But we need someone who actually means it.


Comment by Strono1 on Sunday

Good morning,

As I read all these comments I am struck once again by how difficult it is when people say or do insensitive things. It was so noticeable in the early days of grief that I decided to write a book to help others grieve and help those who were supporting them. I am honored that my book has had great feedback and I am accomplishing what I set out to do. It has been five years since I lost my dad and husband two weeks apart. I agree that it is manageable some days and others are still difficult. We are continuously re reminded of our loss. By all accounts I am doing well but at the end of the day, it is just me and I miss my husband so much. Please visit my FB page Please Bring Soup. You may like the articles I post. I still periodically see my grief counselor and yes it is important to have the right one. It is also important to let people know how to help us and what we need. Self preservation is important. I had to distance myself from a long term friend who was not able to give me what I needed. Wishing you a peaceful day.

Comment by susanelizabeth on Sunday

Another awful night out with people I don't care about, just to be out of the house and around people. Next Sunday is the third anniversary, and I desperately wish there was somebody who was going to remember and call me, or even who would be available for me to call them, or just respond if I emailed them, but everybody's always too busy. And if I hear one more person say, "We're there for you" when they're not, or "You're not alone" when I am, I'm going to start screaming, and I might not stop.

Comment by Dianna64 on Sunday
I was in such pain that I was of no use to my son and his family. He was used to me being strong-always. It was horrible for him to see me crumble and I was really irritable as h suffered inside. Things are better now.
Comment by irishlady on Saturday

Lark: I agree and was hoping that is the way it would be other than all this animosity. Sissy: good question and I will ask the new counselor I am going to be seeing when I get in with her.

Comment by Sissy on Saturday

To IrishLady / Lark

    Could it be that your children are grieving in their own way ?  And want to grieve alone?  Just ideas I'm putting out there. .. I agree it's best to be there for each other. ...



Comment by Lark on March 17, 2017 at 5:57pm
Irishlady: alone feels even worse when our adult children disengage. We know all the reasons they give, but really? Could we not help each other through this together?

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