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Born in the 50s

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Sunday Blues

Started by LP. Last reply by Estragon Apr 19. 10 Replies

Misery loves company

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How old was he?

Started by sadderbytheday. Last reply by DIVA70 Jan 26. 6 Replies


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Keeping a journal sometimes helps

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Comment by Soaring Spirits on May 11, 2020 at 1:26pm

We're holding weekly Zoom meetings for our Widowed Village members on Thursdays at 9am Pacific Time. If you'd like to join us, please send an email to [email protected] and I'll send you the link.


Comment by chef (John) on May 3, 2020 at 8:35am

Hugs, sadderbytheday. I hope things are not as bad now.

As to the numbers of us, more than 4 million babies were born per year during most of the 1950s and early 1960s; hence the term "Baby Boom". Those numbers were not matched again until the early 2000s, (although there was a four-year uptick in births from 1989 through 1993). Dry statistics, yes, but thanks for giving me the opportunity to ply my trade as a librarian, furloughed as I am at the moment. :-)

Comment by Muns on May 3, 2020 at 8:33am

I so agree with you Melissa about being kind to each other during this uncertain time.  Every one has a different opinion on how we should move forward during this pandemic, but so many are so angry and spew out hatred and negativity.  We need to respect each other and agree to disagree.  This is a safe place to come read the comments and feel love, compassion and understanding.  May 3rd is National Widow's Day, so I wanted to thank you all for your comments and comfort.  I'm so fortunate to have found you all, although not happy about the reason why.

Comment by Melissa on May 2, 2020 at 9:59pm

sadderbytheday, I'm so sorry. You have so many years of memories, which is wonderful, but I imagine they can be overwhelming as well.

I hope you're doing better tomorrow. That's my prayer every night at bedtime. Let it be a little better tomorrow.

Comment by Gigi on May 2, 2020 at 6:05pm

Melissa -- wow that's a lot of widowed people! Maybe I've never paid attention before. Just wow to that number you gave! So why do we all feel so alone? We need to talk together more - this site is a good start.

And to sadderbytheday -- I'm so sorry and hope you feel better tomorrow.

Comment by sadderbytheday on May 2, 2020 at 3:13pm

April 30th would of been our 60th anniversary.  On that day, two of my friends told me that they went with their husband's on a day trip.  One couple to the mountains, the other along the ocean.......made me cry.  My husband would of said to get the dog, let's get in the car and just take off for the day.  We did that a lot....oh boy, memories go on and on and on.  I know they're meant to comfort, but, with sooo many daily.....I just feel sad.

Comment by shelley on May 2, 2020 at 2:40pm

Wow, Melissa.  Seven hundred thousand every year.  That's incredible.  

Comment by Melissa on May 2, 2020 at 2:02pm

Gigi, I used to feel like the only one, too.

I even looked up the statistics of widowhood when Gilbert died, to see how many of us there were. Thirteen million widowed people in the United States. Seven hundred thousand newly widowed every year.

How can that be true? I don't know very many widowed people in our age group. But here we are.

I feel as if we are each the only one going through our particular journey with grief, but we're all on the same path. There are so many variables; circumstances are different for each of us. We just have that one horrible thing in common, which binds us all together. 

Everything you said is the same for me. We need to be especially good to each other during this uncertain time in our history, and I know if I come here, I will be met with kindness and empathy. I love these people, and while I'm so sorry you have to be here, you are welcomed with open arms.

Wishing you peace and comfort.

Comment by Gigi on May 2, 2020 at 12:55pm

I met a neighbor yesterday who was widowed 3 years ago at age of 35. Has 2 kids. She actually thinks I'm doing well for being a widow for only 2 months. (ha!). But it did comfort me that she pushes through life and raising her kids but still misses her husband and remembers him on anniversaries and birthdays. I like to read other's stories to just validate that I'm not the only one (of course not, but sometimes in the beginning, that's what you think), that so many other women are in a worse spot than me, and that we ALL have a story that's different and yet the same and that we all grieve a little differently. We all need to be good to each other. I like this group!

Comment by Ultra2015 on May 1, 2020 at 3:05pm

Quiet day yesterday for SAN’s birthday. Posted a picture on FB. Many supportive responses. Just another day on the journey. 
Peace all


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