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As the weather warms and thoughts of summer begin to beckon me somewhere...with an "anywhere but here" kind of mentality, I start my annual battle of the mind about traveling alone. It's not insecurity, mind you. I have traveled a lot on business, but that's always a planned destination with purpose. Not much time to wander beyond the absolutes. A couple of my usual travel companions are tied into family jaunts in the next few months so I thought this might be the season I break out, and hopefully break free of "couple mania"... constant reminders of how great it was to travel with THE one I miss! What's worked for some of you? Have you traveled alone to somewhere exciting by yourself? Any suggestions, ideas?

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My Husband died 3 years ago.   This last year I took a few day trips by myself.  Everything went well so I planned and went on a 1 week road trip.   It was so awesome!   I visited my Aunt and Cousins and stopped for 2 nights at Yosemite National Park.   I did some hiking.   It was magical.   My grown Daughters have children and work and are very busy.   All of my friends are either couples or still working.   I thought, if you don't do what you want now while you can, you will be losing out!   I am planning another trip for later this year.  

At almost 9 years out and in my early 60's, I have decided if I want to do some things I will just have to go for it. I bought a little (2 person I think) tent last summer and it sat in my bedroom. In March I went on a retreat in AZ. I have flown alone before, but always had a family member or good friend to meet me on the other end. I made it, found the shuttle and got to the womens empowerment retreat for military survivors. It was great. In April I packed that little tent into my car, drove across the state and went camping solo in the Witchita Wildlife Preserve for two nights. It was beautiful peaceful country and I enjoyed the wildlife.  Then I got a hotel, cleaned up, and went to a concert solo.  Trying to do the things I want and not letting going solo stop me.

Good for you, lyn!  You are an inspiration!

How me hope!

I have one destination where I feel the most comfortable at being. Central coastal California has a little town along the beach called Cambria. It takes 10 hours to get there which is the bummer but once I am there I love smelling the ocean and watching the sea lions along the coast. It is difficult to travel by oneself but if I didn't who would I have to travel with? I am looking at some tours through the women travel sites and there is one - I think - through Odyssey that you pay for air fare and tour at the same time. It is not just for single women but I like the idea that I don't have to worry about getting the airfare separate. I know of one woman who traveled alone to Australia through a tour group and had a wonderful time. 

Glad to hear Cambria is still a nice little town and that you are comfortable going there. I visited Cambria when I lived in California at age 18, many years ago and it was beautiful


I have not traveled alone since my husband died.  I am not an adventurous person and now that I am alone even less so, if that's possible.  I feel like I "should" get out there and do at least some small road trips but I quickly talk myself out of that.  I drive less and less as times goes by and have come to realize that I am developing a fear of driving.  Not good.  So my world is quite small.  I have been invited to a concert that is about 100 miles from home, city driving involved and I kinda want to try it but I know I will not.  It's depressing.  It's anxiety and I have dealt with it all my life.  I am at a crossroads at this time, go for it, or give up.  

nothing long lasting has come of any of, did that strike a cord with me.  I've tried lots of things (except travel) and nothing really sticks.  I have family close by and yet am alone too, you know what I mean.  You are not included in the conversations that happen right in your presence, i.e. my daughter and her husband, it's in front of you and yet private.  Same interaction between my granddaughters.  You are there but you are not a part of any of it.  I won't give up on God either.  He has walked every step of this journey with me.  I enjoyed your post!

Slick, I just noticed your last sentence about trying to get some of us together. I'd be interested!  Was there anyone else that showed an interest? Is there a place you'd like to go? 

Cindy and Slick, Finally seeing in words the way I've been feeling. 4+ years. I thought I was being anti-social, but the way you described it is exactly right. The family is busy (so were we when the kids were little), so when I am invited, I feel I'm in the way. I mentioned to one daughter trips I'm "planning". even saved up the money. But I probably won't do them.  I just figured that out recently. 

Here is a suggestion for those travelling alone on a budget: there is also an option to provide 'hospitality' to people from somewhere else so they come and stay with you and you take them around and then you go and stay with them and they show you around.. This could work for people on here. Go visit each other for a week or so, make a new friend, share with someone who has some idea of what you are going through and have a wonderful new experience. Just my two cents worth. Unfortunately I live in Australia. 

Hi CarolinaHeart,   I am new on here - just lost my husband a month ago.  I travel a lot for work, but enjoyed so much the other "fun" trips, both before I met Frank and after (Thailand, Alaska, etc.).  We were perfect traveling companions and we had big travel plans after I retired (now at least a few years out).  Now I am trying to adjust to the idea that it is only me.  I've never been much of a group travel person, so much nicer to be able to be spontaneous with travel plans.  I love the idea of connecting here with others who are in a similar situation.  


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