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Paula Rene - I'm so sorry to hear your recent ups and downs with you friend and your Mom. Please take care of yourself first. Sometimes it seems like all we hear about is death. I too have a best friend who is from kindergarten. What a blessing it is. I have no other living relatives - well except very very distant ones, so I know how frustrating it is to have "no one". But your friend has you, and I"m sure many other people who love her too.
You need to put yourself first just to be able to deal with your situation and your health. It's not selfish, it's survival. If you are able, try to pamper yourself a little bit. Even a hot bath as opposed to a quick shower can be a luxury.
God Bless and prayers for you,
Paula Rene, You have so much going on. I just don't think I could be strong for anyone else right now. Be sure to take care of yourself. None of us are 22 anymore. I will keep you in my prayers.
Thanks Annette. On top of it all, I am dealing w/my own health issues but dare not say anything to my mother or she'll end up in the hospital to divert the attention from me to herself. I am having more tests on Wed. but my best friend growing up since Kindergarten's mom passed away Friday and I am going out of town for her mom's funeral. She is truly all alone, her brother died two years ago, her dad died when we were in 3rd grade and her mom has had dementia, some days not knowing who she was, for the past 7 years. I am putting my life on hold till Wed. to be with her out of town. It is breaking my heart. Despite all my heartache, I have children and look forward to the day I have grandchildren and she never had children, neices or nephews, no one except a handful of girlfriends from elementary school. I guess it it times like these that I count my blessings.
Paula Rene, I am so sorry you are on this path. Being alone is hard enough without dealing with this situation with your mom. Be strong. Know that there are people out there who love you. I hope you get the physical and emotional support you deserve. Hugs to you.
Thanks Shirley! It has just been a terrible week. I ended up in the ER yesterday w/intestinal issues and of course, my doctor wants to blame it on stress. I am starting over w/a new Gastroenterologist tomorrow. I have got to get healthy & back to work and quit putting everyone else ahead of me. When my husband died, my mother (not his but mine) went into the hospital faking dementia and telling everyone her husband died. She had been divorced 42 years. She is a big part of the reason I have never had time to grieve.
Paula Rene I am sorry for what you are going through. There are several (if not many) here who have or had issues with their moms and it's a very painful process. Your pity party was just part of getting through it. Take care ((hugs)).
Thanks freddieb for your support! Sorry I am so delayed in responding. My mother has been a major problem plus I wanted to avoid any discussion of Valentine's Day. Just wanted to pretend it didn't exist. My mom needs inpatient psychiatric treatment but ended up getting outpatient which they expected me to take her to 5 days a week in another town, 4 45 minute trips. I tried but she fought me the whole time. She made it to 4 sessions then on Monday refused to go. I have two sisters who will not help, one is supportive and one is abusive to me (just like my mother). She refused to get in the car on Monday so I called the hospital and told them I couldn't do it anymore. I feel such guilt. Then, on Valentine's Day, I met w/my own therapist who told me that (in a much nicer way than how I am going to tell it) my mother is incapable of loving me, never has and never will and I need to give up on her and stop putting myself through the torture of her angry outbursts and just make one of my sisters take over. Kinda still hurts that even my own mother doesn't love me, the person who loved me more than himself is gone, etc. So had one monstrous pity party which lasted till this morning when I realized I am just further behind. This website has helped me so much!
I haven't been here either. But I agree with you, it does bring back memories. My David wasn't a big flower or card person, but the last couple of years that he was with me he changed, at least with the cards, always got one. What was nice this year was my 17 year old grandson called and wished me Happy Valentines day, he has never done that before, guess he is growing up.
I haven't been here in a while.....I hated the lead up to Valentine's Day....Can't stand seeing the newspaper ads, the stuff in the stores, etc. It reminds me of what I don't have anymore.
Thanks Susan. Happy Valentine's Day to you. It's been a long day.
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