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Comment by lizbeth4 on July 13, 2016 at 11:11am

This past week has been very hard for me!  I feel like I am backsliding with my grieving process even though it has been over 3 years.    I have missed my Husband so much and I feel very vulnerable.   I am missing our companionship of 31 years and knowing that he always had my back.  So for now I am trying to be kind to myself and all I can do is to grieve through these feelings.   Thank goodness that I have this site and people here who know what I am going through.  It is comforting.

Comment by Heartbroken Spirit on July 1, 2016 at 5:55pm
Thank you, Slick. Your words of support mean everything to me. I wish you well and please stay in touch!
Comment by Snow (Jan) on June 30, 2016 at 8:23pm

Heartbroken Spirit,  I understand your pain and loss.  It's been over 6 years for me and I still miss him very much.  Our loss doesn't go away,they will always be gone and we are left to carry on the best that we can.

People on this site do "get it" and how hard this journey is. And yes it does leave us heartbroken. It does change over time, it just becomes different. It is alright to grieve and to do that as long as you need to.

Take good care of yourself, indulge yourself with something that is special just for you. It does get better but it takes a long time.May God bless you with a good day.

Comment by lizbeth4 on June 30, 2016 at 5:10pm

My Husband (57) died 3 years ago. Cancer sucks!  I was 55 years old then.   It seems like everyday is different for me.   Some days are filled of good memories of him and some days are real sad for me.   I just go with it.   What else do you do?   I keep busy with family and friends, gardening, camping, ect.   I try to make everyday full of people and things that I enjoy.   His death makes me live for now!  I start everyday with gratitude affirmations.   I am in good health and have a lot of good things in my life.   My Husband would be proud of the progress I have made!


Comment by Slick on June 27, 2016 at 2:44am

Heartbroken Spirit...sorry for your loss...yes it is so hard in many ways husband was 51 when dx and 54 when he passed....that was 5 1/2 years ago...I still miss has changed in many ways and continues to change...cry when you have to  and smile when you's different for all of us ..but we are all here for each other...God is always with you...I wish you all  of His peace.

Comment by Heartbroken Spirit on June 26, 2016 at 7:28pm
I'll be 60 in October. My husband was 60 when he passed away in November. I thought we were young. Watching my husband being destroyed by Cancer made me realize how short our time on earth is. I don't feel too old but I want to honor my husband by living each day with joy and gratitude. Boy, is that hard. I miss him more than words can convey. My adult children grieve over the loss of their Dad. I pray to God to help us keep going. I have great family members and wonderful friends but I am broken. Heartbroken Spirit
Comment by Slick on June 22, 2016 at 3:31pm

Seashell...sounds like fun and exactly what we all need...a friend, good movie, some food..and great conversation....I;m glad you enjoyed...I also take classes, and go to lectures...or I also am talking to me all the time..that will be great to get away to see the kids...I wish I had a or friends who lived out of town..I would travel if I had a destination...just don't want to go alone..I do everything alone..sounds like a pleasant happy for you..


Comment by Seashell on June 22, 2016 at 9:30am

A friend and I decided to do something different this weekend. We rented a movie and I made lunch while she brought over dessert. What started out being just a couple of hours of spending time together turned out to be 6 hours of enjoyable conversation about everything. My days are filled with being in an office and - like home - I only have myself to talk with. Sometimes I take a class to fill my time. Other times I read those books I never had time to read before. I looked over my calendar for the next year and discovered that I will have 10 long weekends where I will be able to travel north to see my children. This weekend I planted flowers and watched my neighbor's grandchildren while she and her daughter completed a project. The next day a little blonde head appeared at my door again "to come in and pet my birds." 

Comment by lizbeth4 on June 19, 2016 at 2:21pm

My Husband died 3 years ago.  I too have been a caregiver most of my life, my children, Grandparents, Husband and now my elderly Mother.   I too was able to retire early with a pension.  I was able to be with my Husband full time.   I am not as lonely now.  My children and Grandson live 100 miles away from me.   I don't see them often as they have their own lives.   I am blessed that my Grandson will be with me for 8 days!!  Looking forward to it.  I am going to volunteer a few days a week for a local organization.  I thought about going to work, part time, but I'm not sure.  I have traveled a lot these past 3 years.   I have made new friends in the small town I moved to 8 months after my Husband's death because my Mother needed help.  Going to church has helped me tremendously.   Irishlady, could you grow some vegetables or herbs on your patio in containers?   I have a nice vegetable garden and gardening is very therapeutic for me.   Also, do you like to read?   There are book clubs you could join, in person or on line.   Just thoughts!   Take care.

Comment by irishlady on June 18, 2016 at 2:23pm

Oh, thank you Slick. Such kind words.


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