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Comment by Lev on December 30, 2017 at 2:15pm

It really feels like a roller coaster ride.  But I must thank the wonderful folk who started this online community for us and to all the members.  Joining this community is making me feel more optimistic about being a widow.  This is really just an awful time of the year.  It used to be a wonderful time of the year for us.  Thank you for sharing and caring.  

Comment by LadyAva on December 30, 2017 at 7:08am

Hello Group!

im in the 7th month since Moses passed. It feels like yesterday, but I can say it's a journey!!

I just moved in my new apartment in Ocala, FL,. I was able to sleep all night for the first time

in seven months. I'm hoping to raise money to go to the Camp Widow in Tampa, Fl in March.

I want to be able to add to the support of  Souring Spirits, and start a Regional Group in my area.

Blessings!

Ava

Comment by Slick on December 30, 2017 at 6:49am

Maggie I understand...my husband will be gone 7 years on March 1....my daughter passed at 21 ....20 years ago this past August..since July I have lost that happy, calm . peaceful place I found...my husband passed on her birthday ...and I guess I know that is coming soon....I have been comfortable alone for about 2 years...of course still get lonely...but I tried dating and that was a nightmare...everyone my age is still working...we all add something to this world so it is never a pointless life...I know the feeling you mean through ..get up in the morning alone, go to bed at night alone..and do most in between alone....I try everything that comes to my mind...honestly most doesn';t work out but if one thing does I am happy.......I added something to my life...Hang in there ..we are all here for you...this has been the worst holiday season I have had in years......I wish you peace of mind..it is a wonderful thing...

Comment by Maggie on December 30, 2017 at 6:21am

I feel so many of the things all of you feel. Just lately with a new year heading our way, I just feel the pointlessness of my life. Alone going on 5 years, no children, a few friends, some activities, but inside...alone.

not interested in finding a man at 71. I want peace of mind, but it is illusive.

Comment by Slick on December 30, 2017 at 6:14am

Hi Lev..have to agree with Barzan...my husband also passed in 2011 ...it will be 7 years on March 1 .....it has gone in stages for me...sometimes I have a life I enjoy completely ...most of it is along since my 3 closest friends and only sister all passed before my husband..very young..all 50-51....he was 54 and I was 57...I will  be 64 in about a week and sometimes feel foolish that I haven't made a life for myself yet....but I am still trying..have made friends with 2 friends from my grief group...in my first year...but they wanted to do what they wanted and I never got a chance to pick a movie, restaurant....now I have a close friend I see once or twice a month for lunch...she is married...but all of her friends are widows so she has learned a lot about what we go through...I have tried dating..not for me..male friendship might be but I seem to meet men who also want everything their way...no thanks...we do need to rely on each other and those who understand...this was one of my hardest holiday seasons in a couple of years...took everything down the next day and feel better for it..no rights and wrongs...do what is best for you..stick around ..we are all here for each other...PEACE

Comment by Barzan on December 30, 2017 at 5:23am

Hi Lev,

My husband passed in 2011 and I'm still adjusting to this new normal.  It goes in stages.  What makes it so difficult is that we are not understood by those who have not gone through this and therefore unable to offer the comfort and words that we long to hear.  We are in a special group where we have to rely on each other for support.  I'm sorry you had to be part of this group but know that we are here for you.  

The holidays are particularly more difficult and I can't say they've gotten better as the years have gone by.  I just keep myself busy and focus on family.

Blessing to you.

Comment by Lev on December 29, 2017 at 7:11pm

Hi. Lev here from South Africa.  My husband passed away in August 2016.  I could never have imagined what life is like now without my best friend, my love and companion.  I have moved twice since he passed away and I am moving again.  This new normal is a difficult adjustment.   

Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on December 28, 2017 at 12:56am

Hi LadyAva.  I am sorry for your loss. I hope that you had some good memories on your anniversary.   Holidays and anniversaries are tough.  I trust God too.  


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Comment by Soaring Spirits on December 25, 2017 at 7:20am

We're hanging out in the WV chat room for anyone who finds themselves alone on Christmas day. Join us!

http://widowedvillage.org/chat

Comment by LadyAva on November 30, 2017 at 12:16pm
Hi I'm Ava, I'm a newlywed widow. Married a short 6 months, it's been 6 months today, when Moses passed away. I went to the UHual to reserve a truck. The clerk asked where was other half because we were always together.. she burst into tears. It was awful!! Dec 2nd will be out 1st year wedding anniversary. This week has been hard, but I'm trusting God for strength..
 

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