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Comment by Athena53 on January 2, 2018 at 4:14am

Thanks for the update, IrishLady!  I'm glad you're back in a decent place.  I feel bad for your granddaughter- you'd mentioned she had special needs and were looking forward to being able to help with her. 

Comment by Lev on January 2, 2018 at 2:25am

Hi Irishlady.  My heart goes out to you. 

Children can be thoughtless adults.  I hope that today feels better than yesterday.  Hugs from me

Comment by Lev on January 2, 2018 at 2:22am

Hi Barzan.  Thank you.  

Wishing you a peacefully productive 2018 smd beyondwith many reasons to smile.

Comment by irishlady on January 2, 2018 at 2:08am

Hi Athena53...I did get out of my son's in March. Went into an apartment...not a nice place, but I HAD to get out of my son's. Was not happy in the new place...old, run down place. In September I moved to a totally refurbished apartment in the same complex and it is so much nicer. Sadly my son is still with that woman and he has pretty much given up on his whole family entirely. I only hear from him when he needs something from me. Very seldom get to see his baby, my youngest grandchild. Trying counseling again to see if I can learn to deal with things like this better. Hoping for a better year this year. Thanks for reaching out to me...people like you and the rest of the folks on here make this journey more bearable. Hugs.

Comment by Athena53 on January 1, 2018 at 3:26pm

IrishLady, how are you doing?  If I remember, last year at this time you were trying to find a new place to live and your on had just gotten engaged to a woman you thought he'd broken up with.  I hope things are better.

Comment by irishlady on January 1, 2018 at 5:58am

Oh thank you so much Slick.

Comment by Slick on January 1, 2018 at 4:56am

Irishlady ..wishing you all the best on this journey...I have lost all of my friends to.....very young...50-51....also have worked and been a caregiver all my life so ...the hobbies I had went when I was very young..early 20's maybe...and no time to make new ones...everyone around here is still working....there are no I am doing my best to become who I am this point in life...sure isn't easy is it...I hope you're kids and grandkids accept this....and I wish you all the best on your journey to find who you are now...

Comment by irishlady on January 1, 2018 at 4:04am

Wow Prissy...I could have written your letter. I am 4 years into this "journey". I was also married for 43 years to a wonderful man. My first and only love. I too am somewhat introverted. I was painfully shy as a child. My husband got me out of my shell over the years, but I feel I have now back slid to my shy state again. Once I get to know you, I am very outgoing. I was a caregiver my entire life. I used to have hobbies, but no more, Nothing seems to interest me. I have few friends, no siblings, my family is all gone. I do have 4 kids and 9 grandkids. But, they are all busy and have their own lives, so on my own most of the time. I am hoping in this new year to be able to find myself again. I have told my family that the Mom they knew died with Dad and this is the new Mom you get. Not bad, Just not the same. But they don't really understand. Maybe this is the year I improve on the new me.

Comment by Slick on December 31, 2017 at 11:54am

Lex thank you for writing and understanding......I tried many times to get away from him only to stay because of his nasty attitude and brainwashing.....I ', not easy to get my mind either ..he was very good at what he did.....I knew I had to get away but also knew he would not make it easy....No I can leave my things there...he collects items and pawns them off on the next woman,,,,I would never take anything ..and told him from day one I didn't want another woman's things...he thinks it should be one big party....the final breakup was horrible ..I am still shaking from this morning.......

I second that.....peace and contentment for 2018...

Comment by Lex on December 31, 2017 at 11:36am

Many of the recent postings also reflect my feelings of aloneness, trying to figure out what we want to do with our lives, who we are, etc without our beloved spouses.

Slick, I am so sorry that man is still in your life and making you feel worse about yourself. Please please be careful getting your things from him. If you can do without those things and they can be replaced perhaps just leave them. Do not put yourself in harm's  way. I feel for you Slick as I went thru similar, however  not quite as bad with the final breakup as you're  going thru. 

I wish peace and contentment for all of us here at WV.


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