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Problems with moving

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Comment by Barzan on February 6, 2018 at 7:25am

Yes Athena, I've met his brother.  

Comment by Athena53 on February 6, 2018 at 7:21am

I've probably told this before and apologize if it's a but offensive, but I loved the subtle vulgarity:

Guy on OurTime, 70-year old lawyer, nicely dressed and in good shape, posted "I'm really interested in having a good woman in my life because even though I'm ambidextrous, my hands are getting tired".

Well, at least he was very clear about his priorities!  :-)

Comment by chef (John) on February 3, 2018 at 8:09am

I offer my sympathy as well.

Do allow yourself a lot of space, especially since you're new to this experience.

Post and read often. It will help.

Comment by Barzan on February 1, 2018 at 6:38am

Dearest 1212, your loss is unimaginable.  Slick couldn't have phrased it any better.  We are all here for each other.  One thing that helped me daily working through my grief was a book "Living with loss:  One day at a time.  Very helpful in making sense of this horrible tragedy.

Living With Loss: Meditations for Grieving Widows

Comment by Slick on February 1, 2018 at 4:56am

1212 ...I am so sorry for your loss're in a safe , supportive place glad you found us....remember there are no rights and wrongs when it comes to grieving's your way...the others are so right....grab what support and comfort you're offered...this is a journey ..that we all need to live through ..Tess is right ...let your emotions will help ease some of your day.....Peace

Comment by Lev on January 31, 2018 at 1:36pm

Dear 1212Chris.

I am very sorry for you loss.  I cannot imagine what it must feel like.   Tess is right.  Be open to the assistance offered.  Hugs Lavona

Comment by Tess on January 31, 2018 at 2:30am

I am so sorry for your loss 1212chris. That is a lot to process, so be kind to yourself. I know that's hard to do because I remember my husband's death, which was also sudden. I was so afraid that if I stopped moving, everything would catch up with me. I didn't block out my emotions though. They were always insistent on coming out, which they need to do. I just did too much and wasn't as gentle with myself as I should have been. When people offer to do something for you, take them up on it. Hugs.

Comment by 1212chris on January 30, 2018 at 10:42pm

My soulmate passed away unexpectedly December 2017. Sleep is like taking naps. I miss him so much. I find myself reliving any day at any given moment of our lives all the time. I don’t even have words.

Comment by Lev on January 13, 2018 at 7:25am

Dear Riverside

that must have been devastating for you.  no warning.  I cannot imagine what the suddenness of your  aloneness must feel like.  i am deeply sorry for your loss.   I hope that we can offer you some comfort so that you feel less alone.  

with love and hugs


Comment by danny's girl on January 12, 2018 at 9:35pm

Muns, I just read your post and my heart hurts for both you and your daughter.  I am with you in  that I also believe in God. I practice Faith and Gratitude every day.  I Have Faith that I will one day be reunited with all my loved ones that have gone on before me. I am grateful for the years we had together and the memories that we made.  My husband has been gone 7 years and it is my unwavering faith in God that has gotten me this far.  

May God bless you, your daughter and your granddaughters as you travel this journey. Better days are just takes time. 


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