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Comment by Slick on May 11, 2018 at 7:25am

Yes Barzan..that's a hard one....will you only be in the city? for how long and with whom if I may ask...if there is any way we can meet ...I would love to.

Comment by Barzan on May 11, 2018 at 5:35am

SweetMelissa, Sandi and Beth,

We are the lucky ones who can feel the presence of our husbands.  I don't want anyone else who hasn't experienced it to feel bad, it may have happened to all of you but you may not have recognized it.  Some of us are very sensitive to such things.  It's like singing - some can and others can't carry a tune.  

Animals are very receptive to spirits.  My cat, Milo, will suddenly stare at nothing.  I know that it's my Barney.   

I'm going to ask him to send me a companion because I'm not out looking and would love to have someone to stories and laughter, perhaps some travel.  We'll call it an experiment in spiritual matchmaking.

Comment by Beth on May 10, 2018 at 6:25pm

I have had signs also....I felt my husband move from his side of the bed to mine....I saw his three initials in a concrete sidewalk in Cape Cod,while other initials in entire sidewalk. He collected soaps from hotels, I kept one before giving the others to a shelter. Opened it one night only to find a penny inside. Who puts a penny into a hotel bar of soap?? So, I felt it was him. The smoke alarm goes off at intermittent times..checked it...all functioning. I said to God and hubby...if anyone man is to enter my life, you had best send him because I am SO not looking!! Now, a,man has entered who makes me laugh...double over type laughter...just like my husband....totally wrong for me on some levels so will enjoy the laughter until......

Comment by sandi on May 10, 2018 at 4:37pm

Barzan, loved your story BOUT SIGNS.  For me its been feathers..lots of them.  Last year at camp I asked my husband to send me a feather every day as a sign that he was there with me.  By the end of summer I had a bag full.  I used them this past Christmas to make dreamcatchers for my children and grandkids.  Now that winter is over I went to camp this week to open up. Again I asked hubby to start sending me feathers. I went for a walk and there was a huge EAGLE FEATHER!  My bday was this past Saturday.  As I was sitting looking out the window crying, I said honey I miss you more than I can bear.  All of a sudden a cardinal lands on the bush right outside my window.  So, I too believe in signs.

Comment by SweetMelissa2007 on May 10, 2018 at 4:29pm

Barzan, thanks for the reminder ...
I also "feel" Bob or his presence ...
Bob touched me once when I was in a hysterical state - scared the freakin- begeezus out of me. I yelled at him to never do it again unless I gave the okay. Now, its on special occassions, holidays & anniversaries. The kids have mentioned they have felt Dad's presence on their birthdays.

Another tip that might be helpful is if you have a dog. Watch for any unusual behavior. Our Ruberoo would run & bark at the front door at pre-dawn hours - spirits are said to visit during those hours. She would also stare as if she was looking at someone or bark at nothing w/her head up directed to an area or bark at his clothing or other belongings. She did all them till she died 7 years later.
Ruberoo & I also had a nightly tug-of-war over Bob's pillow - 7 years of fighting w/her! Odd thing is, she & Bob didn't care much for eachother - when he came home on the weekends it was the battle for top dog position. Ruberoo was an alpha female Miniature Pinscher ...

Comment by Barzan on May 10, 2018 at 4:15pm

Thanks Slick.  I kept busy today but allowed only the happy memories in.  June 13 (will be in Philly) is the day he passed and that one is truly difficult.

Comment by Slick on May 10, 2018 at 3:21pm

Barzan ..Anniversaries being one of the harder days..I hope yours went ok for prayers and good memories...

Comment by Barzan on May 10, 2018 at 3:03pm

Shelley - I just feel it and know it's from my husband.  Sometimes, I'll just mentally answer a question or an affirmation without thinking.  Basically, you just need to be open to it.  It may feel like someone has their hand on you and you feel soothed.  It is a different experience for everyone.

By the way, today would have been our 38th wedding anniversary.  I did feel his presence.

Comment by SweetMelissa2007 on May 10, 2018 at 2:58pm

Hi Shelley,
Its all in the way I rationalized them ...
I have never received profound meaningful signs from God, angels or spirit guides that were deeply personal & immediately grabbed my attention as those from Bob.
One of my old grief buddies believed all her signs came from God. It was helpful for her in being able to remarry.
There were "our" songs played on the radio from the 70s - always. Many were simply found. The first ones were pennies (like the book Pennies from Heaven) all over the house for us to find - in closets, upstairs water heater closet, attic, all 3 bathrooms, behind vents (we were painting), hallways, in kitchen cabinets, on the stairs, garage. As we were preparing to leave SD, we found a bucket full of weathered pennies on the same beach path we had walked for days. When we returned home, my son found sandwich bags filled w/pennies at the park across the street. Since we not accustomed to receiving signs, we questioned one another as well as the friends that were w/the kids except those we found together.
Then it was screwdrivers. Bob always said he wanted to be buried w/a screwdriver in his right hand. The kids & I have found over 26 screwdrivers in or around our house- a couple in parking lots.
Our wedding flowers - a particular type of lily appears on TV on our anniversary - on one anniversary on the same day I found a sheet of Easter Seals w/our lillies outside a store, saw them on TV, had them placed on our restaurant dinner table after we sat down & found one on our a walking path.
I found a figurine of Joan of Arc in the dirt out in the mesa. Bob called me that for silly reasons ...
And so many many many more ...
The one thing you have to remember is I'm almost 11 years out, I've had many signs over that time. They didn't come quickly even when I was desperately begging, crying, screaming & asking Bob in prayer to send them. I first recognized them when I was angry one day, then nothing for weeks. Try to be patient or just put it out of your mind so that you don't beat yourself up from not getting any. And when you do receive a sign - simply interpret as he is w/you. Reading more into can make you crazy ...
It will happen regardless of when you became open to signs ...
Blessings ...

BTW, my cousin had an Easter Lily bloom on Christmas Day in the snow - we all went to see it. My other cousin shouted at her dead husband for not sending her anything. I had to laugh, then I mumbled hmmm & also thought Bob-O should buck up ... :-)

Comment by shelley on May 10, 2018 at 1:19pm

SweetMelissa2007, How do you know if the signs are from God or your lost loved one?


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