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Comment by Barzan on May 16, 2018 at 4:23pm

Shelley, Seashell and Slick,

Being that I can only have his spirit, under the circumstances, yes, I'm lucky.  Hoping everyone here has the gift a visits.  You may already but don't recognize it. 

Comment by Slick on May 16, 2018 at 2:54pm

Seashell ..I  have always believed that children and pets see them....or sense something..but they will both stare in corners , up high.....cats especially will try to climb the walls.....I feel as you do...sometimes I can just feel him near me....

Comment by Slick on May 16, 2018 at 2:51pm

Barzan ..what a wonderful feeling...I have had a few of those....2 weeks after Bill passed...I had a dream....that he bent down...gave me a kiss and hug...smiled and walked away.....I knew he was OK...and he would visit and he has at my worst times.....PEACE

Shelly, when someone loves you they love your paunchy belly and all...I used to get like that with Bill as I gained some weight ...and he made me feel comfortable..I never had any of these feelings when my daughter died except the night she died...I could feel her behind me....the same dream over and over...we are always in the Mall buying shoes...we both hated Malls and shoes...:) 

Shoosie....just went through the same thing ....2 different car repairs and a plumbing repair all at once....thank God my SIL did it all....he saved me a lot of I have another cancer scare going on after 4 /2 years of being clean....don't have results yet but after what I watched for almost 4 years....I already decided what my 3 options are if it's back...

Peace also to you

Comment by Shoosie2 on May 16, 2018 at 2:10pm

LOL Shelley!  You know what older fat kitties look like? They have the sagging tummy that swings under their abdomen?  It's called a fat pad.   I used to tell my Rick  'don't touch my fat-pad!'  He'd just laugh and tickle me anyway.  I read your recent post in another discussion, and I too have found that instead of relaxing after work with a glass of wine, I too am drinking way too much alcohol, mostly wine, as it also knocks me out so I don't have stay awake too long at night.

This has just been a crappy day all around, and I can tell you right now, I'll be having my bottle of wine tonight with NO guilt.  His old truck, which the tree faller wants to buy, needed to be smogged and registered for the year. This huge GMC 4X4 was Rick's darling. In the UK, a big truck is a tiny Toyota pickup. He bought the GMC 2 days after we moved back to the US, and he loved 'Arnie'- named for Schwarzenegger. 

I knew there would be problems as it's now 23 years old. I took it through smog with no actual pass. I needed a new catalytic converter. OK, drove it back home up the mountain last night, then back down again today to get the work done. They called me at work, converter done, but guess what?  There are holes in the muffler, which also means it won't pass smog, and there is a hole in the water pump, too. They said for tonight, they can put an epoxy in the hole in the water pump until it gets replaced tomorrow. Just great.

I think OK, I'll just rent a car, which will be less wear and tear on Arnie. There are 2 rental car agencies in this little town- NO cars available! One of my co-workers offered to drive me home so I can get the other car, but that would leave me with 2 cars here at work.   So tomorrow, the muffler and water pump get put on , then back to the smog test, and pray it passes after throwing another $600.00 at a truck that's going to be sold. And here's the kicker that hit me...........there's no one, i.e. Rick, to help me with this.

I just feel so alone, and I am, and it sucks. I'll get through this, and will feel good about myself  for taking care of all of this mechanical truck work. But that won't happen until tomorrow. I'm going to splurge and reward myself for being  'tough' and get a really good old vine Merlot for tonight....I deserve it!

Peace to us all


Comment by Seashell on May 16, 2018 at 1:43pm

Sometimes it feels as though something is moving across the bed. I look for the cat but he is nowhere to be seen. One evening the cat was going crazy and chasing something on the wall. Other times it will feel like an icy finger touching my skin. Most times it is just a sense of knowing that he is there.

Comment by shelley on May 16, 2018 at 11:00am

Barzan, I'm so jealous.  Would give anything to feel that not even all the time, but some times.  Spooning-  such a treasure.  Miss it so much.  To no avail, I would tell my husband not to rest his hand on my paunchy stomach.  He would say, 'I love your paunchy stomach'.  

Comment by Barzan on May 16, 2018 at 7:18am

Shelley and all,

Last night I had trouble falling asleep and kept thinking how much I've missed being held.  It'll be 7 years in a few weeks that my husband passed.  I thought my cat had cozied up against my back but realized he was on the other side.  It had to be my husband spooning and suddenly I felt so peaceful and drifted off to sleep.  

Comment by shelley on May 15, 2018 at 9:28pm

SweetMelissa2007, just re-read your post about signs.  I've read it so many times.  It makes me feel hopeful.  And I'm having a very hard night.  Thank you.  

Comment by Slick on May 11, 2018 at 7:33am

Sandi..I have also found feathers....I was having a very hard time and walked most days for about an hour or more...everyday for about a week that I felt so down I found one....when I went through Bill's clothes to donate to the Cancer Research Center....I lost it...and screamed through my upstairs...NO MY DAUGHTER AND MY HUSBAND WILL BOTH BE IN CONTAINERS IN THE BASEMENT....that's all I have left of both of them..I through myself on my bed..and sobbed...very shortly I felt arms around me , holding comforting...I cried and cried for I don't know how long....but those arms were around me until I was calm.. can these things be coincidental..I find that hard to believe...I love the penny in the soap..I said the same thing...If I am ever to meet another companion/partner God will have to bring us together....and we'll be right for each other....I;m not looking..I could walk right into someone and not know...PEACE to all..keep's good for the soul..

Comment by Slick on May 11, 2018 at 7:25am

Yes Barzan..that's a hard one....will you only be in the city? for how long and with whom if I may ask...if there is any way we can meet ...I would love to.


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