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Comment by Maggie on June 13, 2019 at 5:35am

Thinking of is so hard and even more so when you are sick...

Comment by riet on June 13, 2019 at 5:31am

Dear Susan,  All the best for you, and a big hug on this day of grief and sadness.  With all my love.

Comment by Tekwriter on June 13, 2019 at 5:21am

So sorry Susan. If I was closer I would make you some soup and bring it over. Sending loving vibes your way.

Comment by CarLady on June 13, 2019 at 5:16am

Dear Susan; I’m sending hugs and warm wishes from Toronto Canada.  Anniversaries are tough enough but surely amplified by illness.  Please spend today caring for yourself to recover from pneumonia as quickly as possible.  I hope as you recover the days become easier and brighter, and as you are able to resume activities they bring a new type of peace and happiness in your new life. I think that’s what we’re all trying to achieve.  

Comment by Barzan on June 13, 2019 at 5:06am

Hello All,

Today marks 8 years that the love of my life took his last breath and left me to flounder in this confusing new life I have to build bit by bit.  This is the 1st time I will be at home - alone - on this anniversary.  Due to having had pneumonia and still recovering, I'm not able to travel right now.  Just want to ask everyone to send me some good vibes to help me navigate this day.

Thanks and hugs,


Comment by Tekwriter on June 13, 2019 at 4:57am

I am not traveling but I plan to have bariatric surgery in the next few months and I wonder how I will do without my husband. I am missing him so much this month after the first anniversary of his passing. What I would not five just to lay my head on his chest one more time. I have been in contact with some friends from when I worked in Wyoming 30 years ago and their lives have been so different. It is hard to make sense of it and the only person who could help with it is no longer here.

Comment by NoLongerInBergenJC on June 12, 2019 at 7:13pm

The hard part for me about traveling is when I land and everyone else whips out their cell phones and calls a wife, a husband, a daughter, a son. a parent -- SOMEONE who actually cares that the plane landed.  I miss having that person to call.  Friends just don't have that connection where they want to hear that you arrived safely. It's just not the same.  

Comment by KJPE on June 12, 2019 at 6:23pm

Also - I always feel anxious & tearful in airports, ever since I lost Greg.  don't know what there is about them - maybe the huge amount of red tape & waiting etc. and having to do it without my beloved.  But the feelings do not continue once I arrive to where I'm going.  So we mainly have to tolerate the airports...

Comment by KJPE on June 12, 2019 at 6:21pm

I sympathize, Riet, I'm not there yet either!  However, I'm traveling with girlfriends this summer, big trip.  I expect it to be fabulous.  I'm sure I'll compare it to going with my darling at one point or another but I hope I can enjoy it for what it is....

Alone, I haven't the nerve yet.

Comment by riet on June 12, 2019 at 12:21pm

I can not do it. Traveling alone. I can prepare everything and leave, but then .... nobody to share anything with. I can imagine that so vividly. No organized trip appeals to me. But what is the alternative? Stay here in this wet and fairly cold Belgium all summer? Maybe yes, : I still get a lot of visitors and together "going on an adventure" with my sweetheart is never possible again. But also ... I would really like to leave and see new things. But how????

A little while ago I heard a remark behind my back in the supermarket about: merry widows. I had to leave immediately. People really don't understand.


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