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Comment by shelley on October 7, 2019 at 10:55am

Wish I had some advice about biting.  My Bailey became aggressive with other dogs as she aged and felt insecure.  But I've never had a dog aggressive toward humans.   I've seen food/treat-related aggression in friends' dogs.  How does he do at feeding time?  Does he eat with the other dogs?  Hopefully your other dogs will help you with your efforts.  

Comment by Claire on October 7, 2019 at 10:28am

Playing and romping are great for puppies.  But a structured walk also teaches them how to behave in a human led activity.  I fully expect dogs to interact differently with other dogs in comparison to how they interact with their humans.  

Comment by Tekwriter on October 7, 2019 at 10:20am

We live on 2 acres and he has 4 older dogs to romp with. I will talk to my son about the walk you suggest. He plays hard from the time he gets up till he goes to bed. I will be following up on the other suggestions also.

Comment by Claire on October 7, 2019 at 9:28am

For starters I would not use food rewards until you can deal with the grabbing/biting issue.  You mention he's high strung/hyper, how much exercise does he get.  I'm a Big fan of the forced march walk for exercise.    Walking the dog at a brisk pace.  I always tell my dogs, this is not a "pee walk".  That brisk paced walk is good exercise for the dog and for me too.  A tired dog is always a better dog.   You might want to check if any of the shelters/adoption groups in your area offer dog training classes.  Those are usually less expensive.   When you got him form the backyard breeder did you get to meet the dam and or sire?  What were their temperaments like?   No breed is Bad.  But the more powerful breeds can just do damage more easily.  Since you have owned previous rotties I would assume you are well equipped to handle the breed.  Is there a rottie adoption group in your area?  Possibly they could suggest a trainer that might want to guide you.   

Comment by LP on October 7, 2019 at 9:02am

I have no problem with Rotties- they can be very sweet-natured (I knew one whose best buddy was a tiny kitten). The problem is with backstreet breeders. It is always a risk. The thing to do is to invest some money in classes with a professional trainer. Group classes are not too expensive. 

I avoid breeders and always adopt from reputable shelters. I know that these dogs too have uncertain backgrounds and can often have problems, but many shelters assess their dogs responsibly and will be very upfront about the dog’s nature before letting you adopt. The last thing they want is for you to bring the dog back. I guess this option is not open to you, so I would go for a few training sessions. I don’t know what experience you’ve had with dogs, but a good trainer not only trains the dog but the owner too. When I adopted my dog, I was inexperienced, but the shelter recommended a trainer and she  taught me how to teach Molly not to chase the cat. That was seven years ago and she hasn’t put a paw wrong since. Best of luck. 

Comment by Tekwriter on October 7, 2019 at 8:52am

It is me again. I have a serious question and did not want to muddy the waters. I bought a rottweiler puppy from a backyard breeder. I could not afford one of the more expensive ones. If you have a beef with this type of dog, please do not answer, I have four others and they are wonderful.

I have had my puppy since he was 8 weeks old. We have been to one training class so far. Budget has been a real concern so far. I had him neutered at 8 months he is 9 months now. He has always been high-strung and hyper. However last night he bit me with no warning. I was trying to get him to move forward with his treat, not take it away from him. I thought we were well past this type of behavior but I guess not. If I had not been quicker it would have been an awful bite. I am absolutely gobsmacked at this behavior and do not know what to do. Anyone out there with dog experience?

Comment by Tekwriter on October 7, 2019 at 8:45am

Hi everyone, has anyone given thought to how close the holidays are? I have determined to have holidays this year. No 12 inch tree and no eating at Golden Coral. I hope it works. Sigh

Comment by Jules on October 3, 2019 at 4:09pm

Tons of tears today as I went to pay bills and saw his handwriting wherever I looked ( I was in his office). It’s funny that something as inconsequential as a note or numbers written on a piece of paper can cause so much grief.

Comment by laurajay on October 2, 2019 at 6:46pm

jules-   you  won't  let  him  down  when  you  grow  too  old  to do  all  those  special things  he  did  to  make  life  beautiful...but  do  them  as  long  as you can to  honor  his  memory.  Your  body  will  let  you  know  when  you  need   to  make  time  frame  for  that----

Comment by Jules on October 2, 2019 at 2:52pm

There were so many hints my husband did that I now am responsible for. I can handle mowing the lawn but it’s the other stuff, weeding, getting plants ready fo winter, getting the snow blower that I don’t even know how to use, ready. While I never took him for granted, I’m extra aware of everything he did to make our home and life beautiful. I don’t want to let him down.


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