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How old was he?

Started by sadderbytheday. Last reply by DIVA70 Jan 26. 6 Replies

Ugh...Christmas.

Started by Lark. Last reply by Maggiepie Jan 24. 14 Replies

Keeping a journal sometimes helps

Started by sadderbytheday. Last reply by sadderbytheday Dec 31. 9 Replies

Little Family?

Started by Hope. Last reply by Freebird Nov 29, 2019. 18 Replies

Anyone experiencing loneliness?

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Comment by sadderbytheday on Friday

Sixth grade.....how wonderful that you have memories that go all the way back to that time in your life

after my husband died, my four adult children and I were always asking each other "what would dad say" as different situations came up..... sooo, this past year I got bracelets for the five of us with the initials WWDS.....we wear them 24/7.  

Comment by Ultra2015 on Thursday

Love the pillow. We never made a big deal over Valentines but it was a day that passes with memories of love and jokes and kisses and candy. 

Comment by DIVA70 on Thursday

I pray we can all find a little bit of peace as we try to navigate this new journey of life.

Comment by DIVA70 on Thursday

Regarding Valentines Day....I have decided to take an approach that might seem strange to some... I have chosen to celebrate this special day set aside for love..... when our kids were growing up it was a fun day...It was not just about two people, two partners, a man and a woman....it was simply about love. So, my Tony and I would exchange gifts and cards but my husband always bought a special card and a box of candy for our daughter....he would say this is for my other sweetheart......and I would buy a special card and a special gift for our two boys and I would say you are my special guys. As our sons grew into adulthood, got married and had their own families we no longer bought them cards or gifts.....but our daughter has remained single so whether she was with someone or not at the time her dad would still buy her a card and a box of candy too. She came to live with us shortly after her dad started dialysis. Since his death on April 29,2018 she has been by my side. He was a real girldad and she was always the apple of his eye. So on Valentines day I will do like I did that first Valentines day without him. I will buy her a card from me and a box of her favorite candy (she loves pixies)….And I will take out the Valentines Day cards that I have saved and read them....and I will thank God for having blessed me with such a loving and kind man who will always be my sweetheart. I also did something else to celebrate the day....I saw a pillow which was being advertised for Valentine's Day and I ordered one to place on our sofa. Yes, I know I will shed some tears but they will be tears celebrating the love I still have for my one and only true love. Take care.

Comment by shelley on Thursday

sadderbytheday, yes.  I think about chemotherapy, etc & side effects and I become completely immobile.  Sad, angry, missing John more.  Trying instead to think about when it will be over and done and what a relief that will be.  Congratulations on successful surgery.  Teeth problems can cause other problems.  Take care.  

Comment by sadderbytheday on Thursday

I can relate to you having a medical issue without your husband.  I don't want any sympathy from our group either.....it's just one more thing i have to deal with.

it gets to be all work, doctor appts, plus I have a dizziness problem which has me depending on family and friends to drive me any distance......really robs me of my independence.  

I will say this.......as far as medical issues.  Yesterday, my son took me for oral surgery that I had put off for a year.  I was scared to death   My regular dentist said "get it done now!!"  Bottom line is that I feel sooo happy today.  Everything went well.  So cross that off my list!

it's little things that can bring us so much satisfaction, right?

Comment by Barzan on Thursday

Hello All,  I'm addressing several topics here.  First, Valentine's Day really does suck.  Reminding us of what we no longer can celebrate with the one we love.  I still have the very 1st Valentines card my sweetie gave me.  He was frugal and didn't buy me flowers but did plant me some rose bushes which I still have and enjoy.  

Second, I recently had a health event that I had to experience alone.  If ever I was reminded of my status, it was then.  Widowed and alone.  Although my son is close by, his work demands him to be on the air at certain times of the day so I can't call on him.  My other family lives miles away and I just don't want to bother them.  I have 3 great friends who check on me often and we do social things often.  Please don't feel sorry for me.  I'm just reflecting. 

I am making myself priority #1 going forward.  Life is short(er) and I need to get out there and find what makes me happy.  

Hugs to all.

Suzan

Comment by shelley on Thursday

Melissa, I have two sisters.  We all get away with a lot.  

Comment by Melissa on Thursday

What an awful story, LP. Some people are just born heartless, I think. Two years after my husband's death, so many people are still so kind. Then there are the ones who are either oblivious or have no social skills.

Three months after his death, my sister took me out to get a pedicure. I remember that it was the first time I thought about something other than my husband's death. I was picking out a nail polish while my feet soaked. It was a beautiful, sunny day and just for a minute, I felt okay. 

Just at that moment of grace, my own sister said loudly, so everyone in the whole place could hear, "Are you going to sell the house and get a condo now that Gilbert's dead?"

Of course, everyone looked at me, and I could feel my face get hot. The manicurist just whispered, "I'm so sorry."

My sister laughed and said, "Too soon?"

She was over it so I should be too. People just talk and talk and don't even realize they're stabbing you in the heart with every word. It amazes me.

I will keep you in my thoughts on the 28th. I hope you find some comfort.

BEAV, I'm so sorry. This is still so new to you. We're here if you want to talk. Wishing you peace and strength.

Comment by Gary'swife on Wednesday

@LP    Oh how awful, to be reminded, again and again.   Sending hugs

 

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