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Sunday Blues

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Misery loves company

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How old was he?

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Ugh...Christmas.

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Keeping a journal sometimes helps

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Comment by sadderbytheday on March 29, 2020 at 9:51am

Hi Book Girl.  It helps to read other posts I think.  I don't have any advice as my best friend's husband could tell you.  He called me about a week after she died,crying his heart out, asking me if it got any better? I started crying and told him I was sooo sorry,but, he called the wrong person.  I said that Jim had been gone for three years and I am still having a really hard time.  We talked for a few minutes, shared some stories from our school days   I did tell him that ,maybe, it would be different for him (doubt it) They were married for 60 years.

On the three year date, which was this month, I planted a Gardenia plant for my husband.  It was his favorite.

Comment by Sander on March 29, 2020 at 9:15am

Book Girl...sorry for your loss...this is a great site for sharing your feelings...we do know your pain....this isolation is so much harder when your already alone because of the loss of your husband....in Wisconsin were suppose to stay home till April 24th....so I too will be alone for my birthday....sure would be helpful to see family and friends...the last 4 months since my husband passed have been hard on me....it helped to see friends or visit my grandsons....video chats are helpful but just want to hug them....missing so much as the are only 3 yrs and 1yr old....they don't understand why Grandma can't come and visit....it just really sucks....

Comment by Tess on March 29, 2020 at 7:18am

book girl, I am so very sorry for your loss. You two had a long, rich lifetime together. That is a treasure but creates such a lonely void, especially at this time of quarantine. Maybe write a heartfelt message to him for his birthday. 
My husband’s birthday was this past Wednesday. I just wished him a happy birthday. I have a picture of us on my nightstand so I say goodnight to him nightly. 
Please post often as these times are isolating us even more than we have been. 
Sending you lots of virtual hugs. 

Comment by Barzan on March 29, 2020 at 6:49am

Book Girl, 

You will kinship and kindness at this site.  My birthday is on Easter and will also spend it alone.  I hope you get to celebrate yours once this virus has settled down.  

Peace and hugs to you,

Suzan

Comment by Ultra2015 on March 29, 2020 at 6:13am

Book girl. You can say anything here. We know the pain and the loss. Come back often or just read the post. 
hugs. Peace. 

Comment by KJPE on March 28, 2020 at 9:52pm

To avoid drowning in loneliness:  I've got Zoom & Facetime scheduled meetings with family & friends, giving us a chance to see each other's faces.  I'm expecting that to be great.  You might want to try it.

Comment by KJPE on March 28, 2020 at 9:50pm

Being in the house we lived in for so many years so happily, now for days at a time, has given me these lovely/sad little moments of hearing him in the next room, hearing the garage door come down, tiptoeing into the bedroom as if he's there, waking up and forgetting that he's not there....more than ever, since spending all this time at home.  Missing him like crazy too.

Thanks & hugs to all of you for being there.  

Comment by chef (John) on March 28, 2020 at 1:48pm

1. what was your 1st pet and his/her name? A beagle named Barney

2. Did you have a favorite stuffed animal as a kid? A small burro or donkey

3. What was your favorite subject in high school? English or science...it depended upon the year.

4. Did you earn an award or get a trophy for an accomplishment in school? Which and for what? Both, for public speaking competitions [I either won or placed among the finalists on several occasions during my junior and senior years...not a bad accomplishment for an introvert. :-) ]

5. Were you ever in a school play? No  Name and your role: n/a

6. What was the 1st concert you went to? Crosby, Stills & Nash at the Spectrum in Philadelphia back in June, 1977

7. What is your favorite sport? Weightlifting [I so look forward to the day when my gym reopens.]

8. What is your favorite thing to cook? Muffins or scones

9. What item(s) did you save from your childhood? Old coins given to me by my maternal grandfather and a great aunt

10. when you look out your front window, what do you see? The silver maple in the front yard and several crocuses.

11. What is your favorite season and why? Winter. I love looking at bare winter trees, especially if they are silhouetted against the snow. Even though they appear to be dead, I think of all the energy inside them, which will burst forth in the spring. Appearances are, thus, deceiving.

12. Do you have a talent that isn’t marketable but fun? Unless my ability to learn languages counts, nope.

13. One piece of clothing you just can’t part with. A University of Toronto T-shirt I purchased almost twenty-five years ago.

14. Which is your favorite room in your house? Living room, site of the home entertainment system and some decent artwork.

15. What is the last book you read? The Hat on the Bed (a collection of short stories by John O'Hara)

16. What show do you binge watch? The original Twilight Zone or Star Trek episodes

17. Your favorite flower is? Sunflower

18. What is the one food you have to out for that you wouldn’t cook? Clams

19. Are you a morning or late night person? Morning

20. Do you like doing the 20 questions? Yep.

Comment by Melissa on March 28, 2020 at 11:36am

My heart just goes out to all of us. This is such a lonely time. I'm so grateful for my connection with all of you. 

I care about you all so much and I'm so glad you're in my life, then I realize you wouldn't be if we hadn't shared the unimaginable. If there is any silver lining in this nightmare we're living, it's that I know you all.

Much love.

Comment by Melissa on March 28, 2020 at 11:30am

1. what was your 1st pet and his/her name? A canary named Tweety

2.  Did you have a favorite stuffed animal as a kid? My dad gave me a little honey-colored bear with blue eyes for my first birthday, because I had blue eyes too. His b=name is HoneyBear and he's sitting on a chair in my bedroom today.

3.  What was your favorite subject in high school? Drama

4.  Did you earn an award or get a trophy for an accomplishment in school? Good Citizenship. I was a rule-follower back then!

5.  Were you ever in a school play? So many! All through high school and college. My favorite was Taming of the Shrew.

6.  What was the 1st concert you went to? John Denver. 

7.  What is your favorite sport? Tennis

8.  What is your favorite thing to cook? I'm not much of a cook.

9.  What item(s) did you save from your childhood? Baby book, HoneyBear, books.

10. when you look out your front window, what do you see? My olive tree, geraniums, a bench, a quiet street.

11.  What is your favorite season and why? Summer. Summer means fun.

12.  Do you have a talent that isn’t marketable but fun? I can make little scrapbooks out of old envelopes. Not a huge market for them, sadly!

13.  One piece of clothing you just can’t part with. The sweater my husband was wearing on our first daytime date.

14.  Which is your favorite room in your house? Family room.

15.  What is the last book you read? Anxiety: The Missing Stage Of Grief

16.  What show do you binge watch? Grace and Frankie

17.  Your favorite flower is? Geraniums

18.  What is the one food you have to out for that you wouldn’t cook? Barbecue. My husband was the barbecue guy. 

19.  Are you a morning or late night person? Late night

20.  Do you like doing the 20 questions? Absolutely! Thank you!

 

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