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TRAVELING ALONE?

Started by CarolinaHeart. Last reply by Seashell Jun 20. 22 Replies

Dating

Started by Bj. Last reply by MystiqueLady May 18. 5 Replies

MOVING?

Started by Dianne in Nevada. Last reply by Boxer Mom Mar 19. 7 Replies

PETS?

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DATING?

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Comment by Slick 16 hours ago

Heartbroken Spirit...sorry for your loss...yes it is so hard in many ways ...my husband was 51 when dx and 54 when he passed....that was 5 1/2 years ago...I still miss him..life has changed in many ways and continues to change...cry when you have to  and smile when you can....it's different for all of us ..but we are all here for each other...God is always with you...I wish you all  of His peace.

Comment by Heartbroken Spirit yesterday
I'll be 60 in October. My husband was 60 when he passed away in November. I thought we were young. Watching my husband being destroyed by Cancer made me realize how short our time on earth is. I don't feel too old but I want to honor my husband by living each day with joy and gratitude. Boy, is that hard. I miss him more than words can convey. My adult children grieve over the loss of their Dad. I pray to God to help us keep going. I have great family members and wonderful friends but I am broken. Heartbroken Spirit
Comment by Slick on Wednesday

Seashell...sounds like fun and exactly what we all need...a friend, good movie, some food..and great conversation....I;m glad you enjoyed...I also take classes, and go to lectures...or I also am talking to me all the time..that will be great to get away to see the kids...I wish I had a destination...family or friends who lived out of town..I would travel if I had a destination...just don't want to go alone..I do everything alone..sounds like a pleasant weekend...so happy for you..

Peace

Comment by Seashell on Wednesday

A friend and I decided to do something different this weekend. We rented a movie and I made lunch while she brought over dessert. What started out being just a couple of hours of spending time together turned out to be 6 hours of enjoyable conversation about everything. My days are filled with being in an office and - like home - I only have myself to talk with. Sometimes I take a class to fill my time. Other times I read those books I never had time to read before. I looked over my calendar for the next year and discovered that I will have 10 long weekends where I will be able to travel north to see my children. This weekend I planted flowers and watched my neighbor's grandchildren while she and her daughter completed a project. The next day a little blonde head appeared at my door again "to come in and pet my birds." 

Comment by lizbeth4 on June 19, 2016 at 2:21pm

My Husband died 3 years ago.  I too have been a caregiver most of my life, my children, Grandparents, Husband and now my elderly Mother.   I too was able to retire early with a pension.  I was able to be with my Husband full time.   I am not as lonely now.  My children and Grandson live 100 miles away from me.   I don't see them often as they have their own lives.   I am blessed that my Grandson will be with me for 8 days!!  Looking forward to it.  I am going to volunteer a few days a week for a local organization.  I thought about going to work, part time, but I'm not sure.  I have traveled a lot these past 3 years.   I have made new friends in the small town I moved to 8 months after my Husband's death because my Mother needed help.  Going to church has helped me tremendously.   Irishlady, could you grow some vegetables or herbs on your patio in containers?   I have a nice vegetable garden and gardening is very therapeutic for me.   Also, do you like to read?   There are book clubs you could join, in person or on line.   Just thoughts!   Take care.

Comment by irishlady on June 18, 2016 at 2:23pm

Oh, thank you Slick. Such kind words.

Comment by Slick on June 18, 2016 at 1:39pm

irishlady...it is all so hard...I have no words of wisdom..I am at 5+ years and still struggle at times.....being a caregiver has been my life too but  did work full time for 25 years while I was finishing raising my kids and taking care of my in-laws, anyone who needed my help and then lastly my husband...I retired when he was dx...we were both young and wanted to be together so I was his only caregiver...no regrets...but I retired very young..I had a pension so could...but I would still be working ...I volunteered for 2 years in a specialty cancer center, have taken many courses and attended lectures, grief groups and women's groups...nothing has really worked for me but kept me busy...now at 62...I am more at peace then ever, live a simple life, all my friends have passed young so I don't go out anywhere unless it;s with one or both of my daughters and grandkids...the loneliness doesn't eat at me anymore as it did for many years....I didn't think at times I would survive or how I could.....God ....is my answer....I wish I had words for you to help....but I also can't travel or I would have to alone and aren't really ready to spend what little savings I have after my husband;s illness ate through everything we had....having lunch out has grown old..not fun to me anymore......I did start coloring, through myself into politics which I love...I will pray for all of God's peace to fill your heart...

Comment by irishlady on June 18, 2016 at 10:38am

I have been widowed 3 years now. I have been a caretaker my whole life. Kids, parents, husband and now find it so hard to fill all these empty hours. I am not the volunteering type due to anxiety issues and no do not want to have to take meds to do that. I was a stay at home Mom so no skills and to work would mean a raise in my rent where I live. My kids..4..all have their own lives and no time for me. I live in a tiny elderly apartment. I am a neatnik. but only so much time involved in that. Summer is here and my husband and I would go off for little rides to get out of the house, but no one to go with now and feeling lonely. So my question is how do you take up empty hours in your day? I really have no hobbies other than cooking, but no one to share the goodies with now. If it weren't for my little dog, I would have nothing to do really. Not everyday is like that, but just want a purpose to get out of this house daily for even a little time. I live in a touristy area so tons of people and traffic right now and no extra money to  just shop or

eat out or travel. Any ideas?

Comment by Tink on June 17, 2016 at 2:09pm

This weekend is going to be very difficult....Father's Day. We are missing the two dads in our group....my husband and my son-in-law. I will be spending part of the time with the kids camping at a place we all used to go together. So there are memories there that will be hard to deal with. I'd rather just go to bed......but I need to put on that "fake face" for the kids and grandkids.

Comment by Patience (Diane) on June 14, 2016 at 6:00pm
Snow, I'm so sorry for your loss...((((hugs))))
 

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