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Comment by Princess Warrior Widow on Monday
Catlady, your daughter wearing her grandmother's locket with her father's picture was beautiful. I'm glad that you had a good day.

Patience, I love how your daughter had you do the first dance with her that was beautiful.

I love how each of us creates the way that our loved ones are honored.
Comment by camsmom on Sunday

Patience- How beautiful! You and your husband raised a wonderful daughter. Thank you for sharing your bittersweet story- A dance to remember.

PS Hot and stormy here- and the power went out last night for several hours. My sweet neighbor checked up on me and it meant so much to me to be thought about during the storm.

Comment by Patience (Diane) on Sunday

Carlady, how wonderful that your Daughter's wedding went so beautifully. ...

Lioness, will be thinking of you for your daughter's wedding in September...  

My younger Daughter got married in June... I walked her down the aisle, AND she wanted me to dance the father/daughter dance with her. I suggested she ask Wayne's dad or Wayne's nephew! No, she wanted me.... and honestly after all was said and done it was the right decision, and the best way for both of us to honor her dear father who couldn't be there in body, but we both felt him there in spirit. 

Been reading comments.....its very very hot and humid here in NJ... 

Home everyone is enjoying the warm summer season as best they can..


Comment by Gaining Strength on July 18, 2016 at 6:54am

Carlady, How wonderful. I was thinking of you on Saturday. It was an absolutely gorgeous day in this beautiful city and I hope you took many pictures. It is wonderful to see your children go off on their own with their life partner.  You are courageous and strong. My best to you and everyone in your family. 

Comment by camsmom on July 18, 2016 at 6:46am

CarLady, Thank you for sharing about your daughter's beautiful wedding. It certainly is clear that you are a loving mother and have a loving family too. I hope that when my single son finds his true love and gets married I will be able to enjoy the day and and remember my husband and not be too sad. My husband passed away almost 5 months ago and my son(who lives out of state) was upset that his GF didn't get to meet him. If your daughter met her husband in high school it sounds like your husband did know him which is wonderful.

Comment by Lioness on July 18, 2016 at 6:37am
Carlady, so happy to hear that your daughters wedding worked out so beautifully. Wonderful that you walked her down the aisle, and spoke at her wedding. I am sure that she and your soninlaw will treasure those 2 gifts for years to come. And I am sure it makes you feel great that you were able to give them your love in these special ways. Your husband/her dad must have been smiling proudly down at all of you on that special day. Hugs.
Comment by CarLady on July 18, 2016 at 4:11am

to all my treasured "wid-siblings":  from your kind, supportive comments in the past week I feel you are an extension of family.  I'm pleased to say my daughter's wedding was the best day of her life, and certainly the best of mine since Bill's passing.  There were tears in the guests eyes as my son and I walked her down the aisle as we were all so cognizant of the fact it should have been Bill; however, my son and I were strong and my daughter focused on the love of her life waiting at the alter. She was wearing her grandmother's locket with her father's picture in it and it looked lovely on her vintage-style dress.  The entire day went of without a hitch, the venue was stunning (The Gladstone Hotel) and the bride was exquisite (I'm not biased at all, lol). My son was emcee at the reception, and his speech brought tears to everyone's eyes when he mentioned their dad and all the fun times they had growing up.  My speech went well, although my voice broke at times I think it wouldn't have been as meaningful if I had been able to deliver it smoothly and without emotion.  We partied until 1:30am - it was the best wedding and wedding party I've ever attended and others said the same afterwards. I think because the bride & groom met in high school and many of us still reside in the home neighbourhood we all felt free to drink, dance and just have a rocking good time.  Most importantly, my daugther and son-in-law said it was a fantastic day beyond their expectations. And a new chapter begins for the happy couple and all of us, filled with joy and hope for a wonderful future.  

Blessing to all who read this : ) 

Comment by lizbeth4 on July 17, 2016 at 9:07am

CarLady,  There have been many bittersweet moments since my Husband's death 3 1/2 years ago.   Most pertaining to our 10 year old Grandson who was the love and joy of his Papa's life!   I have been able to see my Grandson's activities: sports, music concerts, and academic ceremonies.   I always think of my Husband but I know that he is watching everything.  In fact, I think that my Husband saved my Grandsons life about 1 year after his death.   My Daughter and Grandson were at the beach and he was in about 1 foot of water when a wave knocked him down and a current pulled him out in the ocean.   He was pulled out by a lifeguard but when he told me the story he said someone underneath him pushed him back up, his Papa.   I totally believe it!  It wasn't his time to go.  I have felt my Husbands presence with me through my journey and it gives me comfort.  

Comment by susanelizabeth on July 15, 2016 at 11:49am


Sadly, as we all know, after the loss of either a spouse or a parent the happiest occasions become the most bittersweet. Your daughter will know she is surrounded by love, and that's what's most important. I hope it's a lovely wedding.

Comment by Gaining Strength on July 15, 2016 at 7:04am


Congratulations are in order.  You are fulfilling a parental duty on behalf of your husband and yourself, by yourself. After the rainstorms here in Toronto during the past two days, it looks like tomorrow will be beautiful. My son was married last year on June 27 and we had the worst rainstorm that day with howling winds and driving pellet type raindrops. It started as soon as the bride entered the church. Tents that were set up in the backyard for a party the following day were blown away into the neighbour's backyard. Anyway we all had fun but the day was tinged with a little bit of sadness for the presence that was not there.

My best to you. Hope that you enjoy your daughter's wedding.   


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