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Comment by JMLAC on February 7, 2020 at 12:11pm

Hi, Claire- I sent you a friend request. If you are agreeable, I would lik

e to exchange emails.

Comment by Claire on February 7, 2020 at 11:09am

I'm going.  It will be a first for me.  

Comment by JMLAC on February 7, 2020 at 10:17am

Is anyone going to Camp Widow Tampa this year?

Comment by Mary on February 3, 2020 at 9:33am

Shelley, I feel the same - no joy here.  I'm sure it must be very difficult to deal with an illness without your husband by your side.  Everything is more difficult alone, but I would think an illness especially so.  I hope that things go well during your treatment.  We're all on your side.

Roxi, my husband used to make me laugh all the time, too.  Everyone loved his sense of humor.  I miss that so much.

I feel like there's nothing to look forward to now.  We did everything together.  Friends and family try to get me to do things, but it's  not the same as doing them with him.  I don't know how to get past that.  I think only those of us here understand that feeling.

Comment by riet on February 3, 2020 at 7:09am

Roxi and Melissa, 

You tell my story. How can you ever be happy again, after  loosing the one that was the core and the cause of your happiness? 

Lots of hugs to all of you in this everyday struggle indeed.

Comment by Tekwriter on February 3, 2020 at 5:46am

Hi everyone. I rarely cry for my husband anymore, but I imagine I will in May. I have once since I lost my son. Right now the loss of my son is so overwhelming I can barely breath. I go for my second counseling session today. 

Shelly I don't remember having any joy when I had breast cancer, so I don't know if I would let that bother me. I was not an attractive bald lady. I was in chemo for 2 years and it sucked. Radiotherapy and surgery were not all that great either. Getting done, that was a joy.

Comment by Barzan on February 3, 2020 at 5:44am

Everyone,  Although I've been on this road longer than those with recent posts, I also feel that special joy has left to never return again.  We live like zombies for the first 3 years.  After that I found that I had  to find a whole me and reinvent my life.  I still miss him terribly but can sort through how I will deal with it.   Friends and family think it's like a broken bone where it will heal and then you're as good as new. 

If you are feeling depressed and can't pull yourself out, please get help.  Our mates do not want us suffering so please take care of yourselves.  

Sending love and hugs,


Comment by Roxi on February 3, 2020 at 2:47am

Yes melissa i don't remember a laugh from the heart since my love died...i am surprise by myself that i can live without laugh 'cos i was laughing all the time with him...i don't's really weird and sad ! Hugs to all of you in everyday struggle as me ciao Roxi

Comment by Melissa on February 2, 2020 at 11:18pm

I was thinking just today that I haven't really been happy at all since Gilbert died. Even on happy occasions, I smile and act happy, but I actually seem to have only two real emotions these days.

Fear and defeat.

I can't imagine ever feeling real joy again. After he died, I thought it was very important that I get back to business and live as normal a life as possible. Now I don't even care.

Comment by shelley on February 2, 2020 at 7:22pm

I'm so sorry, Mary.  My husband's death was also unexpected.  I don't remember how many days he was in the hospital, but I was not happy with his care.  And KJPE, yes the malaise.  I've taken a leave of absence from work to deal with my cancer, and find myself doing very little.  No motivation.  I finally told a friend of mine that I think I'm depressed.  And that has helped me begin to address it.  Joy?  No.  Someone I know with breast cancer tells me feeling joy is important for recovery.  Oh well.  


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