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Comment by Barzan on October 8, 2019 at 6:13pm

Jules, there are lots of cruises that are 3-5 days which have solo traveler cabins.  Norwegian is my favorite.  You wouldn’t be the only one doing this.  I know a number of singles that do and love it.  Just a thought.

Comment by Barzan on October 8, 2019 at 6:07pm

IrishLady,  I adopted my cat from a shelter that was doing one of its senior discount weekends.  He was the best $25 I ever spent.  Call the local shelters in your area and I bet you’ll find the perfect pet at 5he perfect fee.   Let us know how your search goes.

hugs and good vibes on their way,

Suzan and Milo Kitty

Comment by Jules on October 8, 2019 at 5:34pm

Is it weird to want to just go away for the holidays? Not sure where I’d feel comfortable going by myself but being with my family who all have spouses and boyfriends or girlfriends will be uncomfortable too.


Comment by irishlady (jan) on October 8, 2019 at 2:27pm

Funny you should mention this Tekwriter. I just spent a week at my daughter's house while they are on vacation taking care of her large dog and cat. I had the dog snuggled up to me every night on the bed on one side and the cat on the other looking for love. I am back in my silent home right now and really missing that companionship. I have been on line to see if there are any local programs offering help to seniors with affording the adoption fees. The fess are not unreasonable,but out of my reach at the moment. I will keep searching. Thank you,

Comment by Tekwriter on October 8, 2019 at 1:00pm

Irishlady have you thought of getting another furbaby? I lost mine 2 months after I lost my husband. It was cruel. I had him for 11 years, raised him from 8 weeks old, and it was fairly sudden. I lost him in July and I got another dog in September. It is not the same. It is a different  breed. My vet was against me getting another lab. He is very different from my Jack but we have been together for a year now and he is happy and I am happy with him. He filled a large hole in my life. Nothing works for everything but I just thought I would mention it.

Comment by irishlady (jan) on October 8, 2019 at 8:39am

This will be my 7th holiday season without my beloved husband. And still tough. Halloween was his birthday. In was a true holiday person, decorating, baking, celebrating. Now, not so much. I moved closer to my daughter last October, so I spend most holidays with her, but as you all know it is never the same. And now I am truly alone as I lost my fur baby last March. First winter without her. Not looking forward to it. I do not like this time of the year anyway. Gets dark early and makes for a long night all alone.And when we get blizzards, and we'd be stuck in, it was kind of nice. We'd pop some corn, watch a movie, or I'd bake something. We were cozy and content. Now I am just alone. Thanksgiving we would sometimes spend alone and we never minded it. We made our own little celebration. It all adds up to deepening of my depression at this time of the year. Hugs to all in this same boat.

Comment by Roxi on October 8, 2019 at 8:27am

I agree with you joy and all those fake smiles...

Comment by DrummerGroupie (Christine) on October 8, 2019 at 7:25am

I'm so sorry Eddiemoney - that does make the holidays even more difficult.  I don't have any other family close by, my step son and daughter and their families have always included me in everything.  I also have 4 fur babies and I don't know what I would do without them.  

Thinking of you. 

Comment by Eddiemoney on October 8, 2019 at 7:17am

I lost my husband last year the day after Christmas so it will be tough. We never were too much into the holiday but did have one little tradition. Not having any family or close friends makes it even tougher. No I am not doing the pity party guys. I have my fur babies, but this loneliness is tough. I stopped working last Nov when Rex was placed on hospice. Work associates just blew away! Thanksgiving was always a time with just he and I. Just enjoying a dinner at home, watching football, etc. I better stop. The tears are starting 

Comment by DrummerGroupie (Christine) on October 8, 2019 at 7:17am

That's a great idea for Thanksgiving, Claire.  I'm thinking about that also.  Thanksgiving this year is our wedding anniversary, Nov. 28 - so that's a tough day.  My step kids all want to get together for dinner as we usually do, but no one can seem to make a I'm not sure.  Then, one of my closest friends is getting married on Saturday, Nov. 30 so I'll be making a trip to Nashville to be at her wedding - hmmmm, 2 days after our anniversary AND she's marrying a guy named Mark - which is my late husband's name also !!  

I think it's going to be an emotional few days !!!  I'm really happy for her, and he's a great guy - just a lot of emotions. 


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