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Comment by Slick on January 8, 2018 at 7:32am

Prissy ..I agree that you are very lucky that you enjoy things you can do at home alone....I can also...I like being alone...just not 24/7....sometimes I go out for the day , have a nice day and would like someone to share it with when I get home.....all of my closest friends have passed very young so I have one friend I met in a group..we  have lunch once or twice a month, I enjoy her company a lot...but we never talk on the phone and I don't invade her private life...she is married and her and her husband do 95% of everything together ...they remind me of Bill and I...we never got sick of each other...so enjoy....there is nothing wrong with doing what you like...no rights and wrongs here...we all move on in the best way for us...I haven't been able to read since my daughter passed 20 years ago...I used to read 3 books a week...can't concentrate now.....movies are a struggle to , I miss sharing them with Bill....so I also go one day at a time...

marybarcelos......I am sending you ...good thoughts and prayers....that your surgery is a success and you have a full , speedy recovery....Please remind us the day before and I will light a candle for you....Peace..

Comment by marybarcelos on January 8, 2018 at 6:56am

Dear Prissy,  I think it's wonderful that you find such pleasure in reading and puzzles and music.  What a blessing.  You have to do what makes you feel good.  I wished I could read again, miss it.  I still have to work and work is far, when I get home too tired to read or concentrate.  Friends will come when you need them, You have us to chat with.  We  all survive the best we can when life changes for us.  For me 2018, going to try to live one day at a time.  Will Be having knee surgery feb 14, so hopefully I will catch up on some reading myself.  Would appreciate good thoughts or prayers. It's my second surgery and it has me nervous. Thanks you all.

Comment by Prissy on January 8, 2018 at 6:47am

Well, 2018, what do you hold for each of us? I am going to make the effort to reconnect with old friends this year. Even if just to say hello...I am still here! I am having such a time trying to figure out what my life will be now that I am alone. I feel like I am supposed to, or expected to, be "doing things". But is it so wrong to be content to be at home enjoying my books and my puzzles and listening to music? Why do I feel embarrassed or uncomfortable that I do not have a big circle of friends and that is just fine with me? I guess I need to stop worrying about what others may think I should be doing just because they are always out and about like busy little bees! I am me..a quiet homebody who enjoys doing my own thing. Or maybe I am just judging myself? What a confusing time in my life! I know I will eventually find my way but for right niw....argh!

Comment by runnergirl on January 3, 2018 at 8:07am

It has been a long time since I've commented, but I found for some reason, this holiday season was a bit harder, even after 5 years.  I noticed several others commenting the same sentiment.  It made me so sad to know that Bill has missed out on so much, both good and bad since 2012.  Hugs and love to all for a peaceful 2018 and prayers for all of us to keep our chins up and our hearts open to find joy again, and know we are all walking this journey together.    

Comment by Barzan on January 3, 2018 at 6:33am

I agree with Slick.  Lev, thanks for stating how our journey affects us so eloquently.  I think we are so good for one another here.  We truly understand this journey where others can't.

Happy New Year and more healing in 2018.

Comment by Slick on January 3, 2018 at 5:34am

Thank you Lev...so nice and comforting....Amen....may the New Year give us all Peace and calm in our hearts.

Comment by Lev on January 2, 2018 at 4:08pm

Hi Marybarcelos.  I am so very happy that I found this forum for widows born in the 1950's.  

Some years back my late husband's mother in law said that I would never understand what her loneliness felt like.  She was quite right at the time I was clueless.  She had lots of friends and enjoyed really good relationships with her siblings.  But she was talking about the loneliness of  being a widow.  She had one child, my late husband.  He loved his mother dearly.  He also did not understand what she meant because she had all these close ties with friends and her siblings.  

As I said earlier.  My dear husband  lives on in my heart.  And as you know.  Only I see and feel him there.  He is forever etched in my history.  I long to feel the way being with him made me feel.  This year may we all begin to evolve into a place of happiness that takes us past the aloneness and the loneliness.  Perhaps through painting, drawing, creating furniture, training for a marathon..or who knows perhaps some of us will be lucky enough to meet someone who understands and believes in real love.   May we continue to support one another.  Thank you to everyone and may we know a happy year this year and beyond

Comment by marybarcelos on January 2, 2018 at 2:02pm

Wow, I saw so many of us write in the comments, after awhile of silence.   I related to many as usual.  My husband passed july 2014.  Every holiday up till this year I was able to handle it.  Christmas for us was so special with his children and mine.  This year I really felt his loss.  No relatives were around. Saw my youngest son and granddaughter on christmas for 10 min.  Wasn't sure his wife would come, since they all left last april in bad terms. But Thank God, she came too and I had a gift.  I sent out a few invites to 5 friends for new Years only one showed up.  So it was a lonely holiday for me.   Another new normal and must embrace.  Back to work and just counting the days to retire and hopefully start something good.  As far as dating, no one has asked.  I get a lot of rerquest on instagram from strangers, but oh no, never.  To scary. so I block them all.

Comment by Barzan on January 2, 2018 at 6:32am

Thank you Lev.  I wish you the same.  And to all in our group, hope we can find purpose and joy in 2018.  I have decided to go to the gym 3 times a week and resume work on my book.  And, I will laugh everyday.

Lets make 2018 our best year yet.

Comment by Slick on January 2, 2018 at 5:50am

Irishlady I also remember and am so glad Athena mentioned it....it is sad when our kids don't share more with us...I am so happy you are in a nicer place and are comfortable...

would like to wish everyone here ...happiness, love and peace in this New Year....be safe....this site has been my salvation....

 

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