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Comment by Eowyn on February 20, 2011 at 6:56pm
I think that is a great idea!
Comment by wannabmartha on February 20, 2011 at 6:34pm
I was born in 1959 and as all of you, I can't believe that this is my life. I couldn't wait to travel with my husband! After all, we had a plane and tons of motivation to travel. Wow! how that has changed! I've been thinking about how beneficial it might be to travel with fellow widows who had been planning to travel with their husbands.
Comment by gigicarol on February 20, 2011 at 5:28pm


I was born April 1956.   I too thought that we just started to "live"!   Kids are young adults, financially able to take trips and enjoy each other.   I understand that this now is  my new normal, and I must do all I can do to and live for the both of us. 


Comment by cleodoggie on February 12, 2011 at 11:57am
Does anyone know that the average age for a widow is 56?  I don't know where I heard that but that is how old I was when Jim died.
Comment by patter on February 8, 2011 at 2:34pm
Jan 1957..I never thought I would be a widow in my 50's. I always envisioned my husband and I retiring and taking little trips with gray hair on our head..
Comment by Eowyn on February 6, 2011 at 6:51am
I know Carol-- that's when I really realized that I was in new territory ....
Comment by Carol Scibelli on February 6, 2011 at 6:42am
So strange that your THERAPIST was in denial...interesting and true about the awareness of young widows since 9-11.
Comment by Eowyn on February 6, 2011 at 6:12am
It was very different. There was a young widows group and I attended another group which was smaller, but being young and widowed wasn't 'normal' and it frightened people. I felt like something of a pioneer- luckily I found a great friend who was widowed a few months after me - a mutual friend whom I knew at work put her in touch with me "the expert."  We went to the groups together.  I went back to the therapist my husband and I had seen in the past, and whom we had decided to see again, having told him that my husband had died and his denial was so great that he asked how Les (my husband then) was doing and I had to explain the whole thing all over again which was kind of the way things were then in general. After 9-11 the idea of young widows became much more common.
Comment by Carol Scibelli on February 6, 2011 at 5:52am - it took me a while, but i figured it were widowed at 35 and now you are 54...You're right about life being so different then...just the support and group dynamic and commardarie we all share here and at conferences were not at all available to you. Must have been so so so much more difficult...

Comment by Eowyn on February 6, 2011 at 5:47am
Dec. 1956. 1946 is the beginning of the boom. I would guess that we have had different periods of time since being widowed. I was widowed 19 years ago- so may be the 'oldest widow' in that sense. I know I was still coping with a lot of issues about sexism and what women should and shouldn't do when I was in college...things that most women in the U.S. don't contend with now....

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