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Comment by Ultra2015 on October 28, 2019 at 5:51am

Two years December 16th and I feel like I’m in a black hole that just never ends. 

Comment by booktime (Susan) on October 28, 2019 at 4:45am

Riet, you have made me think (as always - a good thing). My husband wasn't the center of the festivities but my mother was. We gathered in her large house on the ocean - all of us. She died in March 2017 and I feel very much cast adrift as my siblings all have their own families and traditions. Now I realize how much my traditions depended upon my mother. My husband and I would do Christmas Eve together but Christmas was at the large house on the ocean. I guess I used to know where I would be every Christmas; now I don't.

Right now I don't even want to think about it!

Hugs to you, Riet.

Comment by Tekwriter on October 27, 2019 at 8:43pm

I am doing the holidays this year. I have invited people for Thanksgiving. It is what he would have wanted. Christmaa is normally just family. But we will be putting up a tree this year. Something besides the sad shiny 2 ft lavendar thing we sat on the desk last year.

Comment by Jules on October 27, 2019 at 6:09pm

NoLongerInBergenJC going to stay at Montego Riu. I’ve never been to Jamaica. My travel agent says she’s stayed here and loved it. I am nervous about being alone but will stay on campus so I should be fine. 

Comment by NoLongerInBergenJC on October 27, 2019 at 5:19pm

@Jules:  Which property are you going to in Jamaica?  Are you going solo?  I've been to Jamaica 19 times; 18 with my husband and once with my sister and brother-in-law to bury my husband's ashes at sea.  I'd be happy to provide any useful information if it's your first time and/or if you have questions.  Feel free to send me a PM.

I always wonder if I could handle going back alone.  

Comment by Claire on October 27, 2019 at 4:05pm

shelley,  I know what you mean.  I just passed my first year without him.  September was first anniversary without him.  I dreaded those dates.   And it was just another effin day without him.   Sucks Big time 

Comment by Jules on October 27, 2019 at 3:39pm

This will be my first year of holidays without my husband. I know I’ll be by myself on Thanksgiving . It was usually just Bill, myself and his father, who is now 94. My brothers and their wives all do their own thing. 
Christmas... usually the morning is at our house where we do brunch and a white elephant exchange. I’m not up to playing hostess this year. I’ve decided to go to an all inclusive in Jamaica instead.

Comment by shelley on October 27, 2019 at 3:16pm

This might sound weird, but being without him during the holidays isn't sadder or lonelier for me.  It's just another day he's not here.  It will be two years next month and I still cry every day/night.  Yesterday afternoon, while walking my dog, out of nowhere I found myself saying, "You can't really be gone!".

Comment by Melissa on October 27, 2019 at 2:50pm

At least we all have each other. I am grateful for that.

Comment by riet on October 27, 2019 at 12:15pm

Dear Susan and Suzan,

So many people have disappeared from my close circle of friends. I now realize that these were not true friends, but it is hard to process this. Some of the relatives I relied on also dropped out.
Here in Belgium we don't celebrate Thanksgiving, but the first Christmas decorations are already popping up and I look at them reluctantly. The warmth and cosiness that the  festivities  of the end of the year have to bring , are gone.

My dear husband was the center of everything. He organized and realized the festivities, the decoration of our house, the presents and the invitations. I thought this tradition would continue after us and that family and friends would go on with it. But it doesn't look like this.
I have a daughter with a burn out, a son-in-law who would rather not have a family-in-law, grandchildren, who have reached the age of preferring to leave with friends instead of visiting family. My sons are either divorced or single. They will come  to my house for the festivities and also does  my granddaughter. But the cheerful and happy gang of the past is gone.
If only I could escape the whole hassle somewhere, but that is not possible either.
If only it were all over again.

Many greetings, dear friends and a lot of courage for the coming weeks and months


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