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Comment by Barzan on April 1, 2020 at 5:32pm

I accidentally deleted the quiz.  Please use Tess’s.  Long day.


Comment by Tess on April 1, 2020 at 4:32pm

Going out of my mind Barzan, so thank you. I’ve been spending my days sewing face masks for responders. Not as protective as the professional ones but I sew and I’ve been asked to help, so I’m doing it. 

1. WYR lose the ability to read or lose your ability to speak?

Speak definitely. I’m not a big talker anyway, but love to read. 

2. WYR have a golden voice or a silver tongue?

Golden voice for sure, see above ; )

3. WYR be covered in fur, feathers or scales?

I think feathers. Maybe I would be a cardinal and could reunite with my husband.

4. WYR be in jail for a year or lose a year of your life?

Lose a year of my life definitely. Things are not going that grand anyway so I don’t think I would miss it. 

5. WYR be 10 minutes late or 20 minutes early?

20 minutes early. It stresses me to be late. 

6. WYR spend the rest of your life in a sailboat or in an RV?


7. WYR travel the world on a shoestring for a year or live a year in one country in the lap of luxury?

Shoestring for a year. I am embarrassed by luxury. 

8. WYR wear formal clothing or a bathing suit every single day?

Can I say neither!?

9. WYR live in a cave or in a treehouse?

Treehouse. Always was one of my dreams.  Some of them are awesome!

10. WYR be able to teleport anywhere or be able to read minds?

Teleport anywhere. It’s none of my business what people think anyway. 

Good thought-provoking questions!

Comment by laurajay on April 1, 2020 at 4:28pm

Barzan.  Thank  you for  the distraction.  Being  older , alone  and  still  a  survivor  I  believe life  is  more  about  fifty  shades  of  gray  rather  than  black or  white,  either  or,  rather  this or  that...but  your  list  gives  food  for  thought in  this  history  making  time  we  are  living  in  right  now.  Peace  and  comfort  be  yours.  Hugs-  lj

Comment by sadderbytheday on April 1, 2020 at 11:31am


it is wonderful what you do......I had hospice for my husband in our home the last three weeks.  They were unbelievable .  I'm sooo grateful for everyone who had a part in taking care of him.  I'm sooo grateful for my husband's courage, grace, strength and a sense of humor til the end.. He helped myself, children and grandchildren deal with this heartbreaking loss.

Comment by Melissa on April 1, 2020 at 10:21am

I trained for hospice work years before Gilbert died because being with my father during his passing was actually a very gentle experience.

I wanted to go back to that after Gilbert died, but our hospice wouldn't allow anyone who had lost someone very close to work for two years after the passing. It's been two years and four months now. Maybe I'll try again when daily life gets back to "normal".

LP, you are doing a beautiful thing. I still remember how the hospice volunteers were so gentle with my sister and me, explaining everything that was happening with my dad in his last few days. They were angels. So are you.

Comment by Sander on April 1, 2020 at 7:54am

LP, you are a true angel to be able to do that.....I know I wouldn't be able cousin volunteers at the Hospice where my husband passed.....he was there the night before and it was a comfort to me...after my son was killed I had often thought about volunteering at our local hospital to comfort & rock babies etc. It will be 19yrs. this coming August that he was taken from me.....maybe its time now...

Comment by Ultra2015 on April 1, 2020 at 7:53am

LP. The hospice staff and volunteers that came to our home to help me with Sandis care were wonderful caring people. Your understanding of what they are facing and going through I am sure is so comforting. 

Comment by riet on April 1, 2020 at 7:40am

I admire what you do. Really bad. How strong are you to be able to do this. And what a big heart for your fellow men.
What comfort for those who have someone like you as a caregiver.
I can still barely hear the word "hospital or clinic", let alone visit it.
Fortunately, there are also people like you.  Thank you

Comment by Barzan on April 1, 2020 at 6:56am

LP, You really touched my heart with your post.  You are proof that angels walk among us.

Have a blessed day.


Comment by LP on April 1, 2020 at 2:32am

Like many of you, I now live on my own (well, not entirely - with dog and cat). Since it's unlikely that I would infect any family, I volunteered with a local palliative care hospice. I had my first session yesterday, and it was overwhelmingly positive. My shift was 8-11, and I am basically there to provide terminally-ill patients and their families with moral support, breakfast, hot drinks, activities if they want, reading to them, and helping nurses to change bedclothes and to make the nurses' job that much easier. 

I was surprised (or maybe not) at how at home I felt there. I felt that the hard-won skills in caring for Chris could at least be put to good use. I knew what the families - especially the spouses were facing. I thought it might be hard - that manager knew my history and was very supportive at allowing me to do only as much as I could bear. But it wasn't hard - even when I brought breakfast to a young man who had kept vigil with his father's body overnight - I thought, what a lucky man to have had his son there with him to the end, and the son seemed to be in a good frame of mind, having done that (I had kept C with me overnight, and I was glad I did). Some of the patients were quite young (no kids, but some people in their 30s and 40s), but the atmosphere was upbeat. The hospice - run by a charity and free to patients - was so beautifully designed: each room had a sliding glass door to a little garden with  a patio and bird feeder. And for me it was just so nice to finally have contact with real live humans and feel that I was useful. It was hugely rewarding and I look forward to regular sessions.


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